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Their loneliness is self inflicting.

Updated on June 18, 2013
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Not only are they unrepentant.

We need to look at both sides of the coin.

It is their own fault.

I just read an article about how many old people are living very lonely lives and die alone. The comments were very condemning towards their children.


I would like to give the flip side of the coin.

How many parents were abusive to their children? When the children become adults they try to get the parents to apologize. The parents refuse with the old “I don't remember, that was so long ago, you have to get over it, and or you have to forgive.” Not only are they unrepentant but if the children try to take them in to live with them in their old age alls they do is cause trouble.

How many adults need to go into therapy because of the abuse their parents did to them?

I once read an article that said seventy percent of adults had issues with their parents and the issue was the parents being unrepentant of the abuse they did to them when they were children.

When I was a volunteer in an old folks home I used to see some residents sit there and do nothing but cry all day long because they were lonely. When their children would come to visit them (which was rarely) I would politely scold them and ask them to visit more often. You would see a lot of anger in their eyes as they would always say the same thing “You don’t know what they did to me as a child.” When I would try to befriend the old people they were very demanding and yes abusive (like throwing food at me just because they couldn’t have their own way). Their loneliness was self inflicting.

I know of this in marriages, between siblings and between the good time friends (the ones that use you and abuse you and when they can't get anymore from you they throw you away like yesterdays garbage). It is so sad to see the innocent suffer.

It is so sad but we need to look at both sides of the coin.

Are you an adult that was abused by your parents but they refuse to apologize for it? Don’t feel guilty because your parents are all alone in an old folks home. It is their own fault.

Are you being abusive with your children and or other people? Are you a troll on websites like this that like to make mean and cruel remarks? Be careful, you will regret it in your old age.

As I have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it. Job 4:8 New International Version

Prayer: Please Jehovah Ropheka (God our healer) heal the broken relationships in my life and heal my heart from the hurt caused by unrepentant and abusive people. I achingly ask this in the name of the greatest healer Jesus Christ. Amen.

May the sunshine of Jesus’ sweet love bless you today and every day.



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    • teacherjoe52 profile imageAUTHOR

      teacherjoe52 

      5 years ago

      Good morning teaches.

      Praise the Lord you had such wonderful parents.

      Yes it is difficult but the best to give our hurts over to the Lord.

      The issue of the article however is that the abusive parents refused to repent and were or are still mean spirited towards others, especially thier children.

      May God bless you to always be a precious gift (as I am sure you and your husband are) to your children and grandchildren.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      5 years ago

      My parents were not perfect but they did provide a good home. I only wish I would have paid attention more to their role modeling and examples of faith. Abused and neglected children can hang on to the hurt, or can give it over and heal as they seek God's love that overcomes all. Great post!

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