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“There Are Bigger Issues Than Gay Marriage” They Just Don’t Get It

Updated on April 14, 2009

Twice last week I heard people say that there are bigger things to worry about than gay marriage and boy is it getting on my nerves. Once it was the Governor of Vermont after his veto was vetoed by lawmakers there opening the city hall registrar’s office to gays to get married and the other I saw posted on as spoken by Pastor Rick Warren on an interview with Larry King. “There are bigger issues than gay marriage” they just don’t get it – Don’t Get Me Started!

While Vermont Governor, Jim Douglas chose the economy as a “more important thing to focus on” and stated that valuable time was wasted on the gay marriage issue when there are more pressing matters, Pastor Warren decided to bring up Rwanda as a “bigger fish to fry” than gay marriage. I agree with both of these men, that there is so much more out there that is worth the time of legislatures and our government but the problem is that this thought process is also being used to not do anything about our rights right here in the good ol’ U-S of A! And if want my opinion, I think both men are drinking a healthy glass full of sour grapes wine because when you lose on an issue publically, it always seems as though these holier than thou types always “had bigger things to handle”, are “agreeing to disagree” or have to get to an actual church fish fry.

Supposedly the White House doesn’t have time to repeal “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” for military personnel. Hmmmm…okay, what exactly is it going to take to just say, “Um, you know that Don’t Ask Don’t Tell thing? It doesn’t make any sense and doesn’t exist anymore.” What possible analysis needs to be done in order to bring this to fruition that hasn’t all ready been done by everyone from Kinsey to ex-commanders? I’m sure I don’t know, but apparently that’s on a “back burner.” (I’ll leave the double entedre for you more clever types.)

The one thing that the White House has done for us is that politicians are now a little more careful about how they phrase things. There was a time when the only way to get elected was to get the people with the fishes on their car to drive in a caravan to the voting booths. The candidates would put their hand up to God and praise Jesus all to get elected but with the new administration it seems that Obama may be a little Moses-riffic by parting the water that was the holy water (or the Kool Aid ala Jim Jones) politicians used to use to sweep elections. Governor Douglas said something about how it doesn’t go along with his personal faith but that he wouldn’t try to fight it in the interest of “bigger things.” That’s a new one. When Bush was in the White House trying to get the “Defense Of Marriage Act” passed (which by the way, he was spending oodles of money and time on…hmmm…seems as though there was plenty of time to do that, kill the economy and line the pockets of his father’s oil buddy cronies all at the same time) politicians continually stepped into the public spotlight saying they were with the Prez on the issue…now, not so much. I have a feeling it’s because as much as the Rush Limbaughs of life hate it, religion is finally being exorcised from the laws of this country. And to that I say, “Amen.”

I know I’m not a patient person. I hate waiting three minutes for popcorn to pop in a microwave and tend to forget when I used to get Carpal Tunnel shaking “Jiffy Pop” over the burner for what seemed like hours so I know many will tell me to be a good little gay and sit patiently waiting for my rights to begin to take effect. I’m willing to wait but I don’t want to be told that my rights as a human being in a country that is supposed to be known for that freedom are not a “big enough issue.” You try paying double the taxes, not being allowed into hospital rooms of a sick spouse, and all the other rights that civil marriage gives heterosexuals and then tell me how there are bigger things to worry about than the human rights in our own country. You can keep your church, shoes and rice because as big of an industry and as important as those are to a bride they don’t even compare to the person who right now is sitting in a hospital somewhere being told that they can’t make decisions for their partner of thirty years who is laying in a hospital bed because they’re not the “next of kin.” “There are bigger issues than gay marriage” they just don’t get it – Don’t Get Me Started!


Apparently Pastor Warren isn't just pissing me about it here...

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    • somelikeitscott profile image

      somelikeitscott 8 years ago from Las Vegas

      Everyday, What a polite rant. Here's the deal, I'm all for getting rid of registering people as "married" under the laws but the point remains that when you get married as of right now you will be afforded a host of benefits that we homosexuals are having to fight to get (state by state, law by law, moment by moment) so that we may also have the benefits you will enjoy simply because you sleep with a man. And please make no mistake about it, the Christian Right and Mormons are spending millions to keep us from getting our rights to be equal under the law that the Constitution supposedly guarantees us. Bottom line, we don't have the rights you have. I've been with the same man for over twenty years and if the hospital decides I'm not allowed in his hospital room they can. If he's unconscious they have to find a "next of kin" to make decisions and under the law that ain't me. If he dies and leaves me his half of the house we live in together I have to immediately pay taxes on his half or sell the house to pay those taxes. The list goes on and on and although people would have you believe otherwise, it's happening every day. Good for you for having gay friends, now how about helping them fight for the rights that they should be given?

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      Becki Rizzuti 8 years ago from Indiana, USA

      Hmmmm. MotherHubber, I think that might be a bit unfair... I am a very conservative Christian who has so many gay friends that they outnumber my straight friends 2 to 1. I love them to death and I can separate my spirituality from my religion from my sexuality if need be. I know that many Christians are able to do the same (even the conservative variety).

      Scott, I don't want to jump in and get "political" on you, but that's my nature so I guess it's going to happen anyway!

      I am a conservative woman. I stand for (and up for) limited government. I think that big government is a waste of time and an entity that wastes time just as you describe in your hub above. I grow tired of the bull day by day.

      But here's the deal, my friend: I am married, but not legally. These days my husband and I have most of the same rights as legally married couples and none of the penalties (awesome!). We do plan on making our marriage legal in September of this year, but that is in order to please the family more than it is out of necessity.

      Marriage, to my mind, is a religious institution. The government has no place whatsoever legislating a religious institution, yet they do. What happened to the "separation of church and state?" that we hear about so often?

      If your religion says that a homosexual couple is free to marry within the confines of the views of that religion (including, I might add, atheism as a relion), then by all means, get married. You don't honestly need the government in order to do that.

      The government was never intended to restrict the rights and freedoms of the people in the way in which it has. I think it's been a sad progression of affairs that has taken us to get this far.

      If there are "bigger issues than gay marriage" why not just lift the legislation on marriage (period) and be done with it? No more hassle and the government is free to move on to things that are really important: like serving their only true function at the federal level -- protecting our country.

      Sorry for the rant.

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      MotherHubber 8 years ago from Southern California

      Scott, that was exceptionally well written.

      The absolute best was the "You can keep your church, shoes, and rice. . ." paragraph. I found myself nodding in agreement. I want to print out that paragraph, make it into several hundred bumper stickers, and slap one across each and every "fish" on each and every mini van and SUV in my (very conservative) neighborhood.

      Though I am not gay, several of my closest friends and relatives are. it just infuriates me that someone somewhere has deemed my right to marriage more valid than theirs. It makes me ashamed to be straight. Really. I truly believe one day (hopefully not too many years from now) we will look back at this time in history with the same embarrassment and shame that we look at the way blacks and women were treated before they were "granted" their rights. What a bunch of bullshit.

      Don't get ME started!