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Time doesn't heal political wounds, Communication does.

Updated on November 22, 2016

"Am I ready to write this?" I keep asking myself.

You see, 11 days ago, a friend responded to my "Experiencing the Election Blues" article I wrote. Her message very lovingly admonished me for being "offensive" in the article and to consider the other side of the coin. She shared that friends have come to her in tears at the prospect of losing jobs or having family members deported. As well as for fear of the rise in hatred that has been expressed to them by those who feel it is now okay to do so.

I am not grieved that the election of Trump has exposed the hatred of those who are racist, but I am grieved that there exists such racism. I am grieved that such racism exists and am also grieved that racism is fought against with violence. I will grieve with those who grieve...but will not be violent towards those who are violent.

But if I only grieve with those who grieve and do not rejoice with those who rejoice, I will fail to see the other side of the coin as well, will I not?

I am not a Hillary fan. I am not a clone of Trump. Am I biased at times? Absolutely! Are you?

But I will seek here to give a response on why I can both grieve and carry-on. I will do this by lovingly responding to an article that my friend sent me from the other side. It's written by John Pavlovitz entitled, "Here's Why We Grieve".

  • Diversity

John writes: Hillary spoke about a diverse America; one where religion or skin color or sexual orientation or place of birth aren’t liabilities or deficiencies or moral defects.

That is all great, I believe in a diverse America as well. America has been known as a "melting pot" and I think it's amazing that people from so many different cultures can come together and live under the freedom America has to offer. I am not against immigrants, I understand them, many of them are my friends. But if someone broke into your house and started living with you, using your food, your medicine, etc. Wouldn't you be a bit offended and ask the police to come kick them out? What if the person told you, "Well, that's not fair, because I also washed your dishes, mowed your lawn, and swept your floor?" Would you be okay with it then? Probably not, because they still were not invited into your house, you didn't ask them to do those things. However, if someone came to you and told you, "Hey, my name is Mario, I have been out of a job for 6 years, barely making it, there is no clean water where I live, my child is suffering from malnutrition, my wife's legs were chopped off because of our beliefs, could I please stay at your home for awhile until I can get my feet on the ground. I will help around the house, repair the roof, etc." I would like to think that in the latter scenario we would let the person in or at least help them out in some sort of way.

Even if in both cases the person had the same problems, one of them is approaching their situation in the wrong way and the other one is doing it the right way. I have no issue with immigrants coming in from Syria, Mexico, Central America, etc; the US is a rich country, I say "Come!" BUT, come the RIGHT way. Do not get me wrong, I do not approve mistreating other human beings, but I do believe in doing things legally. If you didn't come into the country legally, do not be upset when you are legally kicked out of the country.

But there is so much more to diversity than simply race. What about age? What about babies? If we claim to be all inclusive and diverse. Let's outlaw the killing of babies who are born in our country.

On the flip-side to Clinton's "diverse America", John says those who voted for Trump have endorsed a vision of America that is excluded and isolated. If that's what I was endorsing, I would not have voted for a man whose wife is not from America. I do endorse legal immigrants coming into America. If you voted for Hillary, does that mean you endorse abortions? I hope not.

  • Freedom of Speech

Every horrible thing Donald Trump ever said about women or Muslims or people of color has now been validated.
Every profanity-laced press conference and every call to bully protestors and every ignorant diatribe has been endorsed.
Every piece of anti-LGBTQ legislation Mike Pence has championed has been signed-off on.

Half of our country has declared these things acceptable, noble,American. -John Pavlovitz

Robby Soave, whose article is published on shares his view that the reason Trump won was because he convinced Americans that he would destroy "political correctness". He says:

There is a cost to depriving people of the freedom (in both the legal and social senses) to speak their mind. The presidency just went to the guy whose main qualification, according to his supporters, is that he isn't afraid to speak his.

I am not endorsing racism or being anti-LGBTQ. However, their is amounted frustration in not being able to speak our opinion. Leftists want all the freedom to do and be whatever they want, but when a conservative voices their opinion on a matter, we are often immediately called "racist uneducated bigots". Our freedoms, not just as conservatives but as Americans, have been gradually disappearing. Our government has been brain-washing our kids into a "me" mentality. "What do I want? What do I feel? What are my rights?" So now we have a generation of people who think that whatever they want they should get, without having to work for it. We have people who are so focused on their feelings, they do not stop to consider whether what they are doing is right or wrong (partly why we have serial killers). People who are so focused on their "rights" that they do not see how their "rights" are affecting the RIGHTS of other people (abortion, for example).

While sadly, there are Trump supporters who are racist and all those terrible things, there is a great majority who voted for him because they decided to stand up for our freedom as Americans (not just their own, I might add, but yours too).

So when John says,

We’re angry because our candidate’s losing means this country will be less safe, less kind, and less available to a huge segment of its population, and that’s just the truth.

What he is not seeing, is that the majority of people who voted for Trump, did not just vote against Clinton for themselves, but for your freedom as well. The book of Proverbs, from the Bible, quite often says, "Listen, my child". Us young people, really struggle with that, do we not? We are like teenagers who think we know everything and will not listen to our parents. America, right now has lots of young people, who are not listening to wisdom. I struggle to listen, my first reaction when I hear something I do not like, is to SPEAK UP AGAINST IT. That's why writing this article has been such a challenge, because it has been 11 days of listening to both sides as well as turning to the Scriptures for guidance.

When God created us, He created us with freedom of choice. We can choose to believe what we believe; we can choose to be lesbian, gay, or bisexual; we can choose whatever we want. But there are consequences, and we can also choose to listen to wisdom and to turn away from those consequences by turning away from our sin.

I choose to go against "political correctness" because "political correctness" is not always "biblical correctness". Because I choose to have the choice of listening to wisdom. With a president that has a liberal agenda, wisdom will be taken out of the country just as Bibles were taken out of schools. We will only hear what they want us to hear (we are already receiving this through mainstream media). But I CHOOSE to be able to listen to wisdom and other people's opinions. Which is why I have not shut Liberals out, but have weighed their reasons with God's wisdom.

  • Love

John goes on to say in his article:

And it is not only that these things have been ratified by our nation that grieve us; all this hatred, fear, racism, bigotry, and intolerance—it’s knowing that these things have been amen-ed by our neighbors, our families, our friends, those we work with and worship alongside. That is the most horrific thing of all.

I have been trying to think of one person that I know who voted for Trump who is full of "hatred, fear, racism, bigotry, and intolerance." In fact, all the people, I know, who voted for Trump are just the opposite of that. They are lights in their communities, they help their neighbors, they go on missions trips, they love learning about other cultures, they are missionaries to African and Latino countries, they have family and friends who hate them for their point of view but they patiently pray for them. They sympathize lovingly with the difficulties of the gay community even though they do not agree with their lifestyle. And I can say exactly the same things about my friends who voted for Clinton, they also love and embrace people of different cultures and lifestyles.

Do not go around saying that we "Amen" hatred, bigotry, racism, and intolerance. I do not believe all those who voted for Clinton "Amen" her sending private confidential e-mails to "enemy" countries, I do not believe my friends who voted for Clinton, said "Amen", to abortions, I do not believe women who voted for Clinton endorsed men to rape women just as I don't believe women who voted for Clinton endorsed their wives to cover up the rape.

So what do I endorse? I endorse love. Not the kind that the world describes, not self-love. Love that lays down its life for others. Love that speaks the truth, even when it hurts. Love that approaches a brother or sister in sin and encourages them to turn around. Love that does not tolerate sin but grieves over it. Love that puts God and His Word first and says, "Is this the President you have given us? Ok, we will be the church, we will love and pray for those who persecute us. We will submit to our authorities when it's not the popular thing to do, because we love our God first and foremost."

On behalf of all like-minded citizens, we sympathize with the pain and fear you are going through. But know that we stand with you. Know that we did not vote for ourselves but for you as well. Know that we do not glorify Trump and all that he says. Know that when we are given a chance to speak for you, we will. But know also that as true followers of Christ we will not join in the violence, know that if we are slapped on one cheek we will offer you our other cheek, know that we love you and in that love we will also reprimand you, and we ask the same of you.


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    • frogtalk profile imageAUTHOR


      24 months ago

      Thank you, my more personal blog is if you would like to follow that for prayer requests.

    • Kathleen Cochran profile image

      Kathleen Cochran 

      24 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      I've also lived overseas, three years in Germany and four years in Saudi Arabia. I found the experience of watching US politics from afar quite altering. I think it forever changed my point of view and because of that to this day it is hard to put me into just one category politically. And it drastically changed my Christian identity. Now living in the conservative, evangelical South, I find myself often challenging what my fellow Christians seem to take at face value. And I'm grateful. Who wants anyone else to define their personal relationship with Jesus?

      I'll pray for your safety and effectiveness where God has placed you. We used to say America is the land of convenience. Outside of it nothing seems easy. Especially during the holidays. But trust me, you will remember those holidays away from the familiar as some of your most memorable.

    • frogtalk profile imageAUTHOR


      24 months ago

      Kathleen, I agree with you that there is MUCH more to being a Christian than standing up against abortion. Today as I was listening to a message on prayer, God spoke to me again about the importance of being willing to be an answer to our prayer requests. So when I pray for my country, I should also seek how I am being a possible hindrance or how I can be a possible help in this need I'm praying for.

      I'm currently serving as a missionary in another country so it's hard to keep up and be involved in American politics, but I do what I can because that's one of the things I'm a steward of.

      As far as Obama and Clinton's testimonies, I'll try to look them up sometime in the next week, but sadly actions speak louder than words. Like the Pharisees in the new testament, they followed the law and did all sorts of great things that could be applauded, but Jesus said they were like tombstones, pretty on the outside, but with dried up bones on the inside. Only God knows the heart of man, we ourselves don't even know it because it is so deceitful.

      Thanks again for your input, for listening, and for continuing the conversation.

    • Kathleen Cochran profile image

      Kathleen Cochran 

      24 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Sadly, her policies don't back up her faith and quite frankly her reputation doesn't either.

      Google her testimony and President Obama's. You might also do a quick search of the work she has done her entire adult life that has benefited a wide variety of people, especially children. There is more to practicing Christianity than being against abortion. There is much to do for that child after it is born also.

      I don't think a follower of Trump wants to go down the road concerning calling people names.

      Yes, it would be wonderful if the church would/could do all the good things that need to be done in this world - but we don't. I expect America to be great (again, still, always) because we are good first and foremost - whatever faith we practice.

      Good talking to you, frogtalk. Let no man despise thy youth.

    • frogtalk profile imageAUTHOR


      24 months ago

      Kathleen, I'm so glad you commented on this post. This is how we get communication flowing. No, I agree not every leftist calls a Christian conservative who voices their opinion a racist uneducated bigot, but we do get called that, Clinton herself "endorsed" calling half the country "deplorables".

      As far as Clinton, being a Christian, this is the first time I've heard it. Sadly, her policies don't back up her faith and quite frankly her reputation doesn't either. I am not saying that Trump is a Christian with fruits of the spirit either, but at least there is more promise of upholding biblical standards in his policies and especially those of Pence.

      As far as where the principles you mentioned in the end fit in, that's where the church (you and I) come in. We can't expect the government to do the work of the church, and they shouldn't have to. In the New Testament, we don't see Christians being told to take the sick and the poor and the orphans to the government to be taken care of, it's us Christians who are to do it.

      The government is meant to physically protect us from the enemy and to punish evil and reward good. The government is not the church or to play church. The principles fit into the politics of the church not the government.

    • Kathleen Cochran profile image

      Kathleen Cochran 

      24 months ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Leftists want all the freedom to do and be whatever they want, but when a conservative voices their opinion on a matter, we are often immediately called "racist uneducated bigots".

      No, we don't. We are not all the same. This is a beautiful hub, but this part you got wrong. Someone is only racist, uneducated or a bigot when they say and act like they are.

      The thing I always get hung up on when a read a lovely article like this one by obviously a fellow Christian is this: Secretary Clinton has been a practicing Christian through her entire public life as evidenced by her personal actions and statements. So is President Obama. So is President Carter. And the political Christian block chews them up and spits them out in favor of candidates who show no evidence of any fruits of the spirit at all.

      Feed the hungry.

      Visit the sick.

      Care for the widow and the orphan.

      If someone has no cloak and you have two, give them one.

      Welcome the stranger.

      Love your neighbor.

      Where do those principles fit into our politics?

    • Julie Nou profile image

      Julie Nou 

      24 months ago from Celestial Heaven

      If you want to communicate to someone, first thing you need to establish a feeling of empathy toward the person you want to communicate. Most of people can perceive empathy toward them. If you don't have empathy to another human, you can have the best communications skills, but it will fall on deaf ears.

      Without empathy, you will be seen shouting, but no one will listening. Only those who support your point of view will.


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