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Violence against Only Women

Updated on April 6, 2017
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Violence hurts people

Albert Henry DeSalvo.
Albert Henry DeSalvo. | Source
He was known as the Boston strangler.
He was known as the Boston strangler. | Source
Women should not be tramped on.
Women should not be tramped on. | Source
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Women Violence

Violence against Women

One documentary specifically caught my attention!

There is evidence of most women taking advantage of men by hurting men, emotionally and physically.

I have learned of how most men feel ashamed of their good behavior, and feel the need to become violent with women.

They want to prove a point and do this by acting on their violent thoughts.

It makes me think of how humans can be so awful to each other, and it can be shocking to watch such acts take place in society.

The safest of places can feel most scary and less safe.

People have feelings and should not be treated that way.

Most cases are not reported!

Many women go missing and are not found for decades.

The results of such cases are frightening to even think of what the tests will show of these individuals.

Why do most men only sexually abuse women?

The power of most men can override many women.

Men who get what they want from women in a forceful way are disrespectful and selfish.

Some men can't control their actions and needs and feel the need to treat women harshly.

Some male behavior is shocking and surprising!

I discovered that most men are violent with women due to their bad childhood experiences.

I recently watched the documentary about Albert Henry DeSalvo.

He was known as the Boston strangler, and his focus was on older women as well as young women.

The way he cruelly acted out his hatred toward these women allowed people to see him as fearless.

DeSalvo had an abusive and alcoholic dad. Every day was a nightmare for DeSalvo.

He watched as his dad bent his mother’s fingers backwards and had broken each one.

The dad influenced DeSalvo to sleeping with women from the age of seven this certainly broke down this lad.

Growing up in a troubled childhood led DeSalvo to have a gruesome adulthood.

He justified his acts by attacking women and killing them brutally.

An uncomfortable scene from the rapist and strangler did make me see how most men behave badly.

Psychologists have pointed out that most men behave this way from their dad's influences.

The struggle of getting on with life is a problem when males show dominance. Females fail to notice these signs and tend to fall into a trap.

Most males protect their females from any bad events.

Males show jealousy when necessary, but when a male wants to attack a female the power of the individual is brought out fully.

Females don't see much in the way that males do.

The connection between males and females can be complicating. If you pay attention to what a male really wants you will surely know better.

Females trust males and don't think their partners can be violent toward them or will be violent toward them.

Whether an acquaintance or a close friend, violence can come from any triggered event.

Aggressiveness is shown in most men, usually, if they are denied access to a females body.

Social abuse can destroy any person's character.

If an individual had been faced with abuse throughout their childhood years this can have a greater effect when they are older.

Challenges for such individuals are lost in time in all of the following:

Temperamental

Values

The loss of social identity

Culture

Communication

Behaviors

Biological impulses

Abusive acts

Dominance

Boundaries

Lack of encouragement

Aggression

Power

Recognition

Genetics

They take a different path in life.

Violence against women in a certain age group becomes part of their schemes.

Attacking women satisfies these types of men.

A convenient act and with smooth talking to gain entry to the victim's home is key to following through with their violent ways.

These individuals can portray as a plumber or the mail man.

Most men don't show remorse they get on with their violent acts to feel good about themselves.

To fulfill that wide open gap the violent works out perfectly.

Only they know what had happened in their past lives.

A spontaneous act acted out alone though not always alone.

In this case with DeSalvo he knew exactly what made him feel that way toward women.

From watching his dad's behavior he grew into a destructive individual. He beloved his mothers was not worthy of his dad.

His dad treated his mother violently and DeSalvo had those images in his mind.

Such individuals grow into different characters from the influences of their parents.

Be it the mother or the father violent acts are genetically passed on to the next generation.

These men don't want to feel useless; they want to be useful in society.

Their values get weak and they lose their culture through the process of showing violence.

Most men feel their acts are better acted on women from some worded script with violent acts, from a movie.

The actual dictation applies easily to their knowledge.

The offender is not seen right away.

It is not just from centuries ago even in the time of today most troubled men are acting on their instincts with many women.

These men want to prove a point of their power and needs.

There are no limitations to these poor souls.

Their intentions are to hurt women and that is what they act on.

In trying to make a woman have as many alcoholic drinks to get her into bed is another bad behavior for some men.

Why is that often the problem?

Most women don’t see these men's behaviors as inappropriate especially if these women lack attention from their family, friends, or from their relationships.

Situations are worth looking into.

You rely on that person and trust what you see but you don't look further than that.

When men are laughed at by women they can become violent and gain more strength to act on their aggressive ways.

Not all men have a sense of humor and can take these jokes seriously.

Troubled men see conversations differently than those men who don't come from abusive families.

Men and women have their down faults but when the focus is on man's behavior the whole aspect is noticed in another way.

Opinions are not always freely spoken out aloud

The hidden truth is not seen immediately.

If you are acting out without the consent from the other individual you are surely going the wrong way.

Certain acts can be abusive or violent if you don't accept that act.

Most women don't want to be taken advantage of but most men don't see it that way.

Looking at most women just as objects is rude and disrespectful.

Respect starts from any good family home. The child who lacks such values eventually grows into bad behavioral characteristics.

When a male fails to respect his mother he will fail to show that respect to any other female who enters his life in years to come.

All connected characteristics come from parents if only parents could see their behaviors and find that in their children?

Ignorance affects many men and they don't where to go to get help for their cruel behavior.

The fear of not being trusted or loved is another problem.

Sometimes most men are afraid to admit their issues and use substances as the effective problem.

Excuses should not be accepted.

Men and women are victims but the focus here is on men.

Most men don't form relationships they choose to only attack women as in the case of DeSalvo.

It shocked people to know of such an individual.

His behavior would be normal when in the presence of others but once he had the opportunity to get into those women's homes he would immediately attack and strangle them in his cold thoughts.

The mind works in mysterious ways.

A man who chooses to be violent only against women he is a troubled soul. Something inside him snapped from the influences he had grown from and then into.

You can't change that individual in any way.

Psychologically he is destroyed.

I chose this topic after watching the documentary of DeSalvo he only chose women and left them in the cruelest ways.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I do agree with your point. Not all women or men are violent it all depends on their characters. Thank you

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      Shannon 2 years ago from Texas

      I don't think most men are violent at all. I think that there are plenty who can ne, though. But women are not all angels either.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      poetryman6969 thank you very much for this list

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      poetryman6969 2 years ago

      I would like to think that there will less violence against third world women if we speak up. Be blessed!

      Feminists, world leaders, men, everyone must speak out loudly and repeatedly against the following:

      1) Female genital mutilation

      2) Punishing rape victims

      3) Honor killing

      4) Strapping bombs to children

      5) Sexually enslaving women

      6) Murdering homosexuals

      7) Child marriage

      8) Domestic Violence

      9) Disciplining or Punishing Wives

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      RachaelOhalloran thank you very much for stopping by here.

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      Rachael O'Halloran 2 years ago from United States

      Men who abuse women are bullies and we all know what should happen to bullies. Well researched article, DDE.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      vespawoolf Thank you kindly for stopping by here.It is rather unfortunate.

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      vespawoolf 2 years ago from Peru, South America

      Wow, what a sad waste of human life. Unfortunately, violence against women exists in every part of the world. These men are also cowards, choosing to pick on those who are weaker than them.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. Thank you for the vote up, useful and interesting. Your comments mean a lot to me.

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      Dave 2 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Another well chosen and well researched article which you have given a lot of thought in the process of producing it. It is a topic which will attract a plethora of comments. It is sad world we live in especially for the victims of such violence. Voted up,interesting and useful.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Kylyssa I have known men to be abusive with their wives and as I have mentioned ''most men are not all men.'' It is also a proven fact. As most women and not all are violent. When you choose to be with the non-violent the focus fails on the violent ones. Thank you very much for making your point here.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring thank you kindly for sharing your comments at my hubs.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora thank you greatly for commenting I appreciate all the help you can give me.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tobusiness thank you for stopping by your comments are most welcome.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker thank you for sharing.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you and I do agree about men who do care all are definitely not the same.

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      Kylyssa Shay 2 years ago from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA

      I think you are dead wrong about MOST men being violent. I'd say MOST men are not violent. The violent ones obviously have a huge impact.

      I'm sorry you have not known many gentle men. They really are out there. I think the reason some people think most men are violent is that when too many violent men are among those you associate with they tend to push the non-violent men out of your life.

      I've pushed all the violent people out of my life. It's been a snowball effect. I got into a healthy relationship with a guy whose ex-girlfriend (my best friend!) says the most violent thing she ever saw him do in almost twenty years was knock over a bowl of soup and then immediately apologize and act sheepish for a week. They are still best friends. She's a gentle person, too, and her man is just as sweet. Non-violent people seem to gravitate to each other.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that men were abusers because they were abused as children, it's a proven fact. Thank you for writing about it....

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      We have to keep talking and writing about this, hoping that we'll get through to the abusers. Thanks for doing your part.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 2 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      I have to agree with Flourish, most men are caring, loving, dedicated fathers and husbands who would give their life for their family. However, that said, there are those who are serial abusers of women. I believe that these men are in the minority, but what ever the statistics, it is too high. Another interesting write.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Abuse against women is an epidemic in this country. Thank you for raising awareness.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Interesting perspective on violence. I am skeptical of it being genetic except for psychopaths and sociopaths, but I can see the possibility.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Thankfully, most men I know are honest, respectful, law-abiding citizens who value women. I find that the key to standing on equal footing with them is education. Unfortunately, there are those who demean and devalue women in ways large and small, in the workplace, in the home, at the voting booth, and in the media. How you handle it when it first happens is crucial. We must strive to be on equal footing as daughters, wives, partners, sisters, friends, helpmates, and business partners. Men have a stake in this and we women have a stake in it when we see it occurring. Gosh, I'd hate to see all men lumped into one group. There are some good guys out there who care very much about women's rights.