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Ways To Beat Bullies

Updated on February 19, 2011

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Getting bullied by a girl happens.
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Top Ways To Beat Bullying

 Bullying happens at school an can transcend school life and follow you into the workplace of adult life, but really to stop anything it really has to be at the start of where bullying occurs and that's in the playground. Being a bully is a childish notion and one that many bullies who bully feel that it makes them feel better about themselves, but this is nonsense as they still continue to bully, so they must feel very insecure with themselves for this to carry on.

First of all, bullying is not acceptable, not at any age of life, no matter who you are, we are no better than each other, but bullying still takes place because some schools policies don't work too good or some teachers may not be up to the task of stopping bullying. The best thing to do when being bullied is the most obvious and not most used option as the victims of bullying may feel not too confident to approach a teacher and say that this is happening, but it is the first course of action. As soon as a member of your schools teaching staff is informed they should follow their own schools policies on bullying as this is required by law.

I have kids myself and even when I was at school bullying existed in many forms whether it be mental or psychical bullying, both are evil and can affect you later in life with your own self esteem and lack of success with regular jobs etc. The fact of the matter is this, if your school can't sort it out then that is utterly ridiculous.

Second thing to do is to either ignore the bully or walk away when they try to pick on you, I know this may sound quite wimpy, but it takes a bigger person to just walk away and you see what the bully wants is you to react in a weak manner like arms up in the air and you not giving the bully direct eye contact, they need to feel that they are the bigger person, but they are not, they are just simpletons who are quite possibly social retards.

The third one is a good one particularly if you have had enough of the bully, it requires an assertive approach and one that requires you to look directly in the eyes of the bully and yes this is to stare them out. Some kids may find this difficult to do, especially after long periods of bullying, but if you show that you are not to be messed with, then they may stop. Fighting sounds like it may be the answer, but this could escalate the situation and is not advised unless you have good reason to believe that the bully will not retaliate.

Tell a friend or a family member as this could provide extra support and relieve a little bit of stress associated with being bullied. By sharing the problem you could half the problem and maybe come to a swift solution to your bullying problem( mind you, it's the bullies with the problem!) maybe through your friends or family this can be brought to the schools attention and it could be dealt with.

Never start to believe what a bully says about you, you become a victim by thinking like this and it could lead to depression and other things we see on the news like suicide, nothings worth taking your own life over and so try and think of really positive things about yourself and cling on to those things, then think of the things the bullies say, they will seem quite foolish, because you know in your own mind that you are good at something and are not ugly or whatever the bully is saying about you.

If you try and come up with some funny come backs to whatever the bully says, then you may just make the bully look even smaller than they are acting when bullying, I used to do this when someone used to say "ugly ginger" to me I used to say "that's not what your momma said last night" things like this are good to say. Bullies are often referred to as cowards and this is quite true, they need to realise what they are doing and think to themselves, there must be more to life than bullying someone at my school.

Because what happens when the bully and the victim leaves school? Well the bully may do this in their adult life and they'll live a life of nothing and so might the victim, they might be so self confident about themselves that aren't fully able to interact with people on a day to day basis and this is not good either, so if you are a bully....Stop it!!! and if you are a victim of bullying tell someone about it, don't suffer in silence.

Bullies are the scum of society.

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      SandCastles 5 years ago

      A very good article. I wrote an article on bulling called, Don't Listen To the Bully". I like how you wrote about not believing what the bully says about you.

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      Wayne Tully 5 years ago from Hull City United Kingdom

      Lol! Just let it all out Son!...feel better?

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      "bullying existed in many forms whether it be mental or psychical" "they are just simpletons who are quite possibly social retards." yeh cause any young bully reading this isn't going to get pissed off with that and justify the continuation of their bullying apon that fact that those that tell them to stop are being hypocrits,and in fact do it themselves, bully's need love to and they push it all away and fight instead.and most of those that get bullied harbour so much pain from it that they usually inturn bully back, mostly with words what an endless cycle, can't anyone just get the hell along? ooh wait everyone's to proud to admit fault, swt well enjoy hating school years, bullies and bullied alike...That is all

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      xethonxq 6 years ago

      Very interesting hub...nice information.

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      FGual 6 years ago from USA

      They are retards all right, probably picked on by mean parents. Letting other people know what they are doing is a big help. Don't suffer in silence and get all depressed. If physical threats escalate or become real, it's time to call the cops.

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      Tony Lawrence 6 years ago from SE MA

      Unfortunately, society has been guilty of tolerating and even tacitly approving of bullies. How many times have you heard "boys will be boys"?

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      suziecat7 6 years ago from Asheville, NC

      I agree with your final sentence.