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When Facebook Attacks
Murdered by a Facebook Friend
(WARNING: the link I'm providing contains some gruesome images so it is not for the faint of heart. The reason I am posting the link is that sometimes people need to see the results of such a mistake as she made for themselves before they truly believe it can happen. It is a youtube video so I'm warning you, if you can't handle seeing disturbing images, don't watch it.)
The young woman you see in this picture was brutally murdered. Unfortunately, I cannot find her name on the internet now, but I do know a little bit of her story.
As you can see, she was quite a lovely girl. I mean, let's just say it. She had a great body and she was proud of it obviously, especially since she was so well endowed. But, ladies and gentlemen, it was her beauty and bad judgment that resulted in tragedy.
She posted her photos on Facebook and the friend requests came in droves! In her naivety, she accepted each and every one. But it wasn't just that that got her killed. She'd posted way too much information about herself including her phone number, email address and Lord have mercy, her home address. It was a fatal mistake.
I don't know who the murderer was or if he was ever caught but I do know that he apparently showed up at her door, invited her to have sex and she refused. The man would not take "No" for an answer. This was the result of that fateful meeting.
Sadly, she was not the first one to die at the hands of a Facebook Friend. 17 year old Ashleigh Hall was murdered by a registered sex offender whom she'd friended on Facebook. He had posed as a 16 year old boy but in reality was 32. Upon their first meeting, he'd raped and murdered her, then threw her body in a ditch like a piece of trash and then later confessing to Police.
I travel to Australia and sometimes stay there to be with my boyfriend for months at a time and last year we decided to travel to Victor Harbor, which is one of their most beautiful beaches. I found myself recognizing the scenery that I'd seen in the news there and standing right where they'd discovered the body of another young girl, age 17, that was murdered under similar circumstances as Ashleigh Hall. She too had been led to believe that her facebook friend was closer to her own age because he was impersonating his teenage son. They both even showed up at a party at her place and unfortunately, at a later date, the imposter lured her to her death.
It was surreal standing there and feeling the vibes. The sun was just setting. Pink, purple and gold colors painted the sky and the reflection on the sea was breath taking, yet I couldn't enjoy it knowing what had happened there.
So I've given you a few examples of the dangers of meeting strangers online and posting your entire life on a social network. Now, I will point out a few things one needs to consider when one is posting personal information. As a former police officer, I feel I'm qualified to offer a few suggestions.
My friend Paula suggested that I point out the fact that people don't need to post every single thing they do and even by the hour sometimes, every day! I'm in complete agreement with her. Please tell me who cares what your facebook friends had for breakfast or the fact that they're watching TV? Come on people! Not only is that annoying and boring as hell, but you're pretty much alerting everyone to your routines as well as where you're at at the time!
And how about those who talk about where they work and what kind of car they drive? Again, if you're being stalked then your stalkers dancing a little jig with all the information you're spilling out on your wall.
The best thing to do to protect yourself from the weirdo facebook stalkers and nutjobs is to be more discerning about whom you accept as a friend and not to blab about your latest Cheetoe eating adventures while sitting all by your onesies watching TV.
Don't put your address on there for the public to see. That includes facebook friends because you know what? They don't need to know that.
Don't friend every Tom, Dick and Harry who sends you a friend's request. If you're considering adding someone, at least check out their profile and the comments on their wall before accepting. If they happen to allow only friends to view this information and you can't get any sense of what kind of person they are, then be careful about adding them.
You might be thinking that you could always drop n block them later if you don't like them or they creep you out but if you have mutual friends on there as well and you post something on their wall, they can still see your posts. They can also work up phony profiles and try to friend you that way too. So don't get to feeling to smug about being able to bump them off your friend's list because it's not at all foolproof.
And now for you parents out there, you must monitor your child's activities on facebook and keep an eye out on whom they befriend and how they interact with each other. They may not like it but it could save their life. There are so many sexual predators and pedophiles on social networks and while they can't live near schools or be around children, it's pretty hard to restrict them on the internet. They could be chatting away with your child and trying to lure them to tragedy. You also need to be mindful of the personal pictures they upload because looks can kill. Just as was the case for the young lady who was murdered who posted pics of herself in a bikini. In fact, when they found her body, she was wearing a bikini like the one in her picture. I imagine he forced her to put it on for him before he killed her.So parents, the kids may whine and complain about you're being nosy but they'll at least be alive to do it.
Another thing to consider is not putting out information about you taking trips or what time you leave for work and when you come home.(Hmmm, let's see. So and so is going to be out of town for a week. Great time to break in their house or mosey over to possibly harm your children or spouse.) If you have to announce your plans, don't go into too much detail over it or private message it to only those you want to know about your plans, like a family member or something.
You simply cannot be too careful these days. Social networking is fun but you need to be aware of the stranger dangers and think carefully about what you and your family posts. In many cases it's an open door into their day to day lives for anyone they've interacted with on these networks.
If you're going to facebook, blog or forum chat, by all means have a great time. Just don't give strangers a road map into your life. So, enjoy it responsibly and please monitor your childrens pages. The internet can be a dangerous place. If you have any doubts considering my advice and warnings, just watch the video I've attached. Safe surfing everyone! ;)