Why Battle of the Sexes Makes No Sense
In another world, another era, at least as far as a large part of the world is concerned, women were thought to be inferior. Less intelligent. Less strong. Less competent. Less everything.
And they went along with it for a long time, letting themselves be the servants of man, the bearers of the man's children, the machines working in the background, not allowed to have an opinion of their own.
The women's movement changed all that to a great extent. Those brave, strong women showed the world how wrong it was, so that their daughters wouldn't have to endure what they have had to endure. So that their granddaughters could one day choose for themselves what their lives would be.
The problem now is that human beings like to take everything at least a little bit too far. While there still are many issues that women of the world struggle with and that feminists fight to draw attention to, some extremists have been blinded by their cause and went as far as proclaiming men as enemies and arguing that women are the superior gender.
What started off as a wonderful movement by women fed up with injustice, dedicating themselves to make this giant leap for the better, turned out some rather misandrous rotten eggs, who, while in no way, shape, or form representative of all women (or all feminists for that matter), blame all (or most) men for all the injustice and always describe women as victims.
- Why I Hate Men Part 1: I Admit It | Rage Against the Man-chine
That's right, I'm admitting it. Tell all your MRA buddies that they've been vindicated, call Rush Limbaugh, make sure to let all the other feminists know I'm blowing their cover for them. Men are obnoxious, arrogant, entitled, violent, stinky, crass,
This, as it happens, does much more harm to the cause than good. It turns out that young men, growing up in a world where the loudest feminists brag about hating men, start associating these extremists with the actual concept of feminism. And feminism is then associated to all women and their rights.
Sadly, since the basic human instinct is to fight back when under attack, it means that this, in turn, leads to misogyny in younger generations. It has become not uncommon to find comments on social media that state in no uncertain terms that their authors believe women have more rights than they should.
- Women don't know true equality - 9GAG
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Yes, there are many reasonable 9gaggers, both male and female. Still, these kinds of posts often get an enormous amount of support.
Young men keep talking about how a woman always gets a better deal in a divorce, even though most of them have never been through a divorce themselves.
This is where we encounter the whole "bros before hoes" deal, the reasoning being that, because women hate men, men should stick together against the "enemy".
And it doesn't stop there. While young men spread hate of feminism on social media, a lot of young women seek to distance themselves from these radicals by constantly and persistently having to persuade people that they're not "like other girls".
Was this the point of feminism? Men who did no harm turning against women, and women themselves being ashamed of their own gender?
Exactly. No, it was not.
A lot of people seem to be laboring under the delusion that there is such a thing like "sisterhood" or "brotherhood" among members of the same gender.
There is not.
Many women were raised in the belief that women are "less", and are content with their place in the world. Which is their right, as long as they're happy. In the end, what the original feminists fought for was the right of all women to make their own decisions.
What becomes a problem, though, is when these women, content in their role as what they see a woman should be, start belittling other women for making different choices and "trying to do a man's job".
A very clear example of this was the fact that leading to the 2016 US presidential election there was a very popular Twitter campaign to #repealthe19th because it was speculated that denying women their right to vote would ensure Donald Trump's victory.
Many of the participants in this campaign were women who stated that they would gladly give up their rights if it meant that their preferred candidate will end up getting the job.
While there are many, many reasons Hillary Clinton was not fit to be president, her being a woman was not one of them. Just as being a man doesn't magically make Donald Trump fit for the job.
One look at Angela Merkel is enough to debunk the myth that women cannot be strong leaders, and one look at Donald Trump is enough to show that, just because a leader is a man, it doesn't mean he is strong.
Still, it would be unfair to say that women like the one in the Young Turks video above are the only ones not standing by the members of their own gender. Or the one who openly, shamelessly, and with absolutely no idea as to what she said wrong, said to me that she doesn't respect her female superiors and is more likely to do as she is told if she is told to do it by a man.
It would be unfair to say so because men have these "traitors" in their midst as well. Many men have strong belief in something called "manliness" and will be the first to openly mock any man who shows a sign of weakness by calling them names and insinuating that they are behaving like women (as if that's a bad thing).
A man is not allowed to show emotions. God forbid he sheds a tear or shows fear. What is expected of a "real" man, at least according to social media, is that he likes violent movies and video games, cars, watches porn and ogles other women, regardless of being in a relationship.
The point is, for all the talk of equality, we still have pretty finely defined roles for men and women. This might be the reason why genders and the way people identify themselves within them are breaking down and mutating.
It seems to be only natural that, in the time when we all theoretically have the same rights to free speech and opinion and identity, something like this would happen.
If a man cannot express himself without being called feminine, why should he not identify as gender fluid, for example? That way, he can identify as a man in those instances when his emotional state conforms to the way society dictates men should be, and as a woman when she feels the need to express emotions more freely without being judged for it.
The sad thing about these many new and colorful gender identities is that they shine a bright light on the fact that what gender someone is still very much matters in today's world.
With all the progress we have made as human beings, we still clump the people around us in drawers, looking at each of them as a representative of their gender, race, religion, age group, instead of seeing them as individuals who are able to grow and develop into complete human beings without being limited by any of those things.
So how do we end this absurd battle of the sexes?
The same way we could end a lot of the world's problems. Education. By exterminating the ignorance, we could make the world a better place.
By treating both our sons and our daughters the same and giving them the same opportunities. By teaching them to respect each other and see each other as equally valuable human beings. By leaving gender out of the equation altogether.
Sexism, just like a lot of other discriminatory behavior, isn't something one is born with, it is something the environment imposes upon us as we develop.
If we could only teach young people everywhere that the fight for equality isn't a fight against anyone who has a different set of genitals, the future would look a whole lot brighter.