Why People Could Take an Instant Dislike to You
You may not realize or even believe that people can take an instant dislike to you just from your very first meeting and without even knowing you. This can even border on hatred for many reasons including personal appearance or people's phobias. Sometimes people may even tarnish your character through gossip, false rumors or outright slander. Also, some people may simply be incompatible with you, which could relate to the star sign you are!
After reading this handy guide. you'll wonder no more why someone may act weird toward you and you will perhaps learn to get over it and realize it's just a fact of life.
Author's Note: I was inspired to write the following article after observing several incidents that caused me to wonder why people could be incredibly nasty to people they don't know for no apparent reason. On one occasion while traveling on a train I overheard a gentleman say to his companion, "I can't stand her." Shortly afterward he added, "I've never met her." I was astounded. On another occasion, while riding on a bus, I was puzzled by the behavior of two girls on the bus who saw some young and old men and women on the street and laughed at them mockingly without saying a word. I was puzzled. Finally. an old acquaintance verbally attacked nearly everyone who passed by as we waited for a bus. I was stunned. The insults he flung at people he did not know we so brutal that I was compelled to try to find out why people behave in such an unreasonable fashion.
People will dislike you purely because of their phobias
- Alliumphobia: Fear of anything relating to garlic.
- Coulrophobia: Fear of the look of clowns.
- Peladophobia: Fear of baldheaded people.
- Pogonophobia: Fear of people with beards.
- Sociophobia: Fear of people or society in general.
- Xenophobia: Fear of strangers or foreigners.
- All Phobias listed at wikipedia.
Kendra Zebra Explaining Why People May Dislike Her
Things That Make People Hate You
After a considerable amount of time, I studiously worked out why people may take an instant dislike to you. I accomplished this by asking everybody I know, young or old, as well as strangers I bumped into and people in online chat rooms who were brutally honest with their answers to my question. Here's what I asked them: What reasons can you give me as to why you would take an instant dislike to someone you have seen for the first time? A consensus of their answers appears below in no particular order. Note: Each of the reasons cited were given at least once.
Appearances: The clothing you choose to wear and how you wear them. For example: guys wearing their jeans and trousers too low, exposing their briefs. Women with low cut tops that reveal too much fat or clothing that reveals stretch marks on their tummy and hairy legs. Not wearing the right shoes (just the left ones), having a weird haircut or having a challenging look. Facial piercings or too much facial or body hair. Some people mentioned their dislike for the greedy rich while others expressed their antipathy for the poor.
Color of skin/race: It's a sad fact, racism is still rife. Some people will take an instant dislike to you purely because of the color or your skin or due to the country you come from.
Looking like someone else: You might even look similar to a person that they already dislike, then you'll have your work cut out just to get on.
Your gender: Unfortunately in this day an age too many people are still homophobic. Homophobic people used the words "queers" and "fagots" to describe homosexuals. Some people said they hated gay people who "act too gay," or "looked too gay".
In addition to asking why people might take an Instant dislike of you, I also asked this: "If you had no bad feelings about someone you've just met, what would make you dislike them once you engaged them in conversation and have become better acquainted".
Here's a sample of the answers they cited: Bad breath and/or body odors were often mentioned. Other reasons cited were people whose mouth sprays out spittle when they talk. Accents, musical tastes or even preferred TV shows and the way people talk down to them. Others mentioned that they dislike some people not so much for what they said but for "how they said it". Then the classic chestnut: Disagreements arising from allegiance to different sports teams.
What Nick Abbot Said....
During a LBC Radio show, the presenter Nick Abbot said the following......
"Everyone hates everyone. If they don't dress like you, look like you, talk like you, or have different views than you, then you're not going to like them"!
The thing that surprised me about that comment was no-one who called into the show disagreed with him.
So now you know it could be any one of many reasons why someone may take a dislike to you especially without you ever meeting properly. You can try to persevere through outright prejudice in the hope that this barrier to friendship may be overcome in time. Unfortunately, sometimes, with some people, there is little hope!.
You can please some of the people all of the time, but you can't please everyone all of the time. At the end of the day we will constantly encounter other people's judgment and prejudices; let's not add our own into the mix.
Do YOU judge people by their initial appearance?
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