Why are People so Unkind?
Why are People so Unkind?
By Tony DeLorger © 2011
Why are people so unkind? Why do we treat those who contest our will with such contempt and venom? Is it that we see our fault and act defensively, feeling ‘offensive is the best defence?’ Whatever the reason human beings are so contentious about the slightest of issues. Road rage is a perfect example. So what if someone doesn’t see you and mistakenly cuts you off. Does it deserve the tirade of abuse, obscene gestures and threats? And further, the person at fault having realised it and with a wave of apology, is then driven to defensive abuse and gestures of their own. Such escalations are commonplace, proving that we are all prone to outbursts of condemnation, for seemingly unimportant reasons.
Perhaps we are under such constant pressure in life we are permanently on the edge, waiting for someone to confront us to vent our frustrations. Anyway, in doing so we simply promote the nature of violence and the state of our world, and cannot expect any other result if we keep acting this way. Kindness and consideration for others have been replaced by a withdrawal from people. Mistrust is prevalent and has forced us to go about our business in a relatively cynical way, unprepared to give people we don’t know any chance to prove themselves.
The sadness is most obvious in situations where someone needs help on the street and people choose not to get involved because of mistrust. This lack of support and care in society has created a rift. With increasing crime and violence most people are apprehensive to get involved in anything that could be dangerous or leave them vulnerable. It is understandable on one level, but we must try to preserve our compassion and kindness, not repress it.
Human beings can be compassionate and recent natural disasters have proven that with people freely risking their lives for strangers. So when it comes to significant events affecting community, people see it in a different light and adapt to the required role. So having proved capability, why do we not apply that to every day circumstances. I guess the answer is ‘fear’. And society hasn’t helped in propagating all kinds of fears. Just watching the news is enough to double-check our locked doors. We are surrounded by crime and the fear of it.
I just know that remaining angry and negatively responsive to the minor happenings of life simply keeps the fear and the negativity going. The only way to change the world is to take responsibility for our behaviour. If we recognise that it is wrong then it is up to us to change it for the better.
No-one wants to be angry or abusive; it is a response that is not thought out, a knee-jerk response that has been learned through conditioning. Kindness is not easy in a contentious world, but it is by far a better way to live and in turn be treated by others. It’s something to consider and to keep in mind while on this life journey.