Why parents are not allowed to discipline their children anymore
I have a step-son 8 years old. He has been with me since he was 2 1/2 years old. I have provided his school uniforms, birthday parties , and all necessities and non-necessities (toys) during the past 4 years. He is now in the second grade and has turned into something I don't even like. Nothing like the child I raised because his mother wanted nothing to do with him.
Everyday is now a constant battle, over homework, over bedtime, over anything requiring parental supervision. Being his fathers only child, he always takes sides with him. I am always the one to blame. I'm mean, I'm hateful, the cinderella wicked stepmother. Yet I am the one who has supported him for the past 4 years. But his father always sides with him. I tell him he is only helping him straight to juvenile and the penitentiary later. It's all a joke, his baby, oh poor baby. Poor baby my ass!! I am the one called when he is hitting, pushing, and shoving other students. I am the one called when he grabbed the ass of a girl student. his father never said a word. Oh, poor baby!
" You don't try to work with him... he's just a baby". Baby my rear end. At 8 years old I made my bed, cleaned my room, and did my homework without being told. If I didn't I suffered the consequences, usually a good butt whipping. You can not spank your child now. They are taught in school that if you hit them they only have to tell a teacher, a counselor, or dial 911 and you will be arrested. Many children of today's generation use this as an out to do whatever they want to do, then when they screw up the blame is laid squarely on the parents. many go to jail or court to answer for the transgressions of their children. But I ask myself why, if the same system that blames us has taken away the rights we have as parents to disipline our children. There is a difference between disipline and abuse. I have 4 grown children, I spanked them many times with my hand on their behind. I have never crossed the line into abuse. But this child is a different generation, one protected by the so called laws that prevent child abuse. I for one am sick and fed up!!
If you want to raise your child as a hoodlum, a non-educated, hamburger flipping, nothing.... fine. Remember the children of today are the future of tomorrow...is that scary?? The only thing I have done is to try make sure that he receives an education that will see him through when his father, and I am no longer there to help him along. In return I get a mouthy 8 year old supported by his father, who tells me " I will tell my teacher, I will tell CPS and you will go to jail" . Well, you know what little Mr. Know it all ... I will dial the number for you. If the state of Texas does not allow me to disipline you when I am the one supporting you... then they can have you. I promise you and your father the path you are choosing and he is babying you along is the path staright to the injection table... in Texas we are famous for that.
The State has taken away our rights as parents to disipline our children. If we spank them we are charged with child abuse. This to me seems ridiclous, especially since we are held responsible for their actions. How do we control them...by talking...sorry.. doesn't work. Not in these days of children murdering their parents. Do we ground them??? That's another joke. take away priviledges??? Children now have more rights than the adult charged with taking care of them. They can hold CPS and such over our heads and think we are obliged to kiss their a--. This is taught to them at school. the same schools we pay taxes for them to attend.
Excuse me ... but with the drop-out rate and teen pregnancy rate.. my personal opinion is that the state is not doing to good of a job raising our children. When an 8 year old brings home library booke entitled " Dope deal " and Baby Baby" about the different kind of drugs available and how great it is to drop out of school to be a teenage mother and father, I have to wonder. Teachers are no longer allowed to use corporal punishment.. no wonder no one wants to teach anymore. It is an underpaid, unappreciated job. texas has a great shortage of teachers ...as an unappreciated parent I wonder why.
Should the job of raising our children be taken from our hands and put into the hands of the state?? Should teachers have to take the abuse in these times of school shootings and parental murders? I think not. As for me, from now on ... daddy baby can pick up my poor baby from school, make sure the home work is done, the uniforms are clean...etc. I refuse to be controlled by an 8 year old child that the state has given the authority to incarcerate me if his homework has to be done. If the state had rather support him than have me educate him and teach him about life then I will gladly relinquish the job to them...it is not easy believe me.
Then we wonder why our jails and prisions are flowing over capacity. As a former corrections officer I can tell you, this has a great impact on it.