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Why women don't get caught
How He Plays it
When a man is having an affair, the
give away is his irritability. He wants
to get away from his family to be
Anything, anyone that prevents his
escape from his home to engage
in sex, with Slutina, turns him into
a raging bull..
An affair, for a man, is hot sex.
He behaves like a ram goat in
Whatever obstacle limits his access to his gal makes him violently irritable.
He stalks the house in which he lives as a caged animal. Every question,
every question directed to him is found offensive.
He snaps at his wife, perhaps strikes her. His children or abominable
annoyances who cut into the time he could be with his gal.
Being with his gal is so important that this man would literally kick his four
year old child across the room if that child prevented him from getting out
of the door.
That he's having an affair is clear. If the wife is interested, she'll bring it into the
open. Of course this might provoke lies, violence, and make a miserable situation
Not all women are interested in putting themselves into jeopardy, however.
Many women are having their own affairs.
How She Plays It
Affairs for women are emotionally
fulfilling. Sex is not all it is.
There's so much more.
Her affair makes her happy
Happy, she is a wonderful mother, a great wife, because she's fulfilled.
She will set her trysts to begin after hubby barrels out to be with his gal.
The wife plans. The kids are well looked after. There is either a relative, babysitter, or supervised activities she can take them to. She doesn't need to create elaborate lies, if, she would ever be questioned.
Most women are never questioned. Their husbands are so wrapped up in their gal they are totally oblivious to the movements of their wives.
Yet, she is careful not to give any sign or symbol of her affairs. She deletes all text messages after reading, as well as her call history. She might have her lover's number listed under a woman's name or the name of a company.
This is because, unlike a man, she does not want to be caught.
The Key Feature
Women do not want to be caught. That is the key feature. They absolutely do not want, under any circumstances to be caught in an affair.
Men want to be caught. Maybe not right away, maybe not directly, but they adore the 'James Bond' aspect. They love the sneaking around, the lying, the trick, the feeling clever. They do things which are 'give aways', because they want to be caught.
Men who don't want to be caught would so carefully construct their affairs that there would be no 'seam'. They wouldn't be 'working late' when a phone call could prove they aren't in office, they wouldn't be sneaking in after midnight nor get all spiffed up to have a night with the 'boys'.
They wouldn't have strange phone calls, under women's names on their phones, or strange receipts in their pockets. They would make the effort to hide their affairs.
Most men don't because whether deep down, or floating on the surface they want to be caught.
Women don't want to be caught.
They will spend more time and effort into hiding their affairs than a CIA agent.
They make it a creed to always get home before witching hour. To always have
believable and partially true excuses just in case they are asked.
And they are very rarely asked.
This is because there is no reason to suspect anything.
How it Plays
As he is so hot to run to his gal, he becomes deaf and blind. He gives his wife the slightest glance, if he even sees her. Where she can tell he is wearing a new shirt, he sees nothing.
The wife can toss an old housecoat over her fancy dress and stand at the sink appearing to wash dishes, while he stammers..."uh uh...have to go to see...uh uh Bob...uh uh about a car..uh."
She says nothing as he goes through the door. As his car makes the turn, she's slipping off the housecoat, on the heels, applying lipstick and on the road to meet her lover.
As she has 'timed' her husband, for example, he usually comes home at eleven thirty, she's in the house by eleven ten. He will have no idea she's been out. The thought simply does not occur to him. In fact, very little beyond sex with his gal occurs to him.
How can a woman be caught when a man is so sex diddled by his current slam he doesn't even imagine his wife has a boyfriend?
Most men never imagine their wives are unfaithful. It is alien to their thought processes. Further, as the wife does nothing to advertise why should she be suspected?
Even if his gal dumps him and husband suddenly finds himself home, his wife has already created all sorts of out of the house activities.
There is nothing strange about Wife going to her Club meeting from 6 to 10 on Thursdays, or visiting her Best friend on Saturday, etc.
If he even opens his mouth to mention how she's never home, she gets carte blanche to attack him for his affair and that; "The only reason you're home is that Slutina dumped you..."
He'd never imagine that the Club meets in a room of a Hotel the wife and lover frequent or that the best friend is merely where she leaves her car when boyfriend picks her up.
For most men it is the secrecy which turns them on. He gets as much, if not
more pleasure in the whole 'Cheating' game than he gets being naked with Slutina.
He thinks he is so clever as he scoots around, driving this way, than that, as if he's
pursued by the C.I.A.
Women, on the other hand get no kick out of sneaking around. They get their kick
out of love, out of emotional fulfillment. They do not want to be caught. They
are so alert they can misdirect suspicion effortlessly.
Men who cheat believe themselves so incredibly desirable they could never
imagine that their own wife would find someone else.
Women have been able to carry on affairs for YEARS.
Years, and their husbands do not have the slightest inkling.
As he sneaks out to be with Slutina, leaving his wife watching T.V. he doesn't
imagine that in two minutes, her lover, who knows hubby's schedule, will be
slipping in the side door.
As hubby returns home, he doesn't imagine that some kind of 'alarm' has been
sent, whether something in front of the door to make entry difficult, or other signal.
The Lover, attuned to hubby's schedule, has had ample time to dress, and slip out
the back door, and the wife to pretend to be asleep.
The Husband is tickled by how clever he is. The Wife is satisfied with her life.
It is the Emotion; not the Sex
Some women have been in love with a man they may have never had sex with.
The emotional context is what she wants; the love giving and the love receiving.
Some women have developed long lasting affairs with the gardener, a next door
neighbour, a man beyond the husband's suspicion.
The husband has not a hint that his wife and another man are in love, and the
wife will keep it that way.
In many cases, the husband has money, the lover has none. Hence, the wife
and lover live off the husband's money, In some cases the husband hires the
lover to protect the home while he's away.
Only if a wife wants to hurt her husband and end her marriage will she ever
betray her affair. Often, she may have only begun it to hurt him, and doesn't
care about the lover.
This is why only women who confess are caught.
And that is when they want to be