I kind of think the whole forgiveness thing is a little too PC. I do not beleive in revenge and I beleive you have to give yourself permission to get over it, but to forgive someone who purposely hurt and killed someone else? I think they are the ones who should ask for forgiveness. Arent' we just telling them "Oh hey it's ok I know you've had a tough life and killing someone is ok when you've been through what you have. " I think not. What's wrong with making them take responsibility for their actions? My ability to move on does not rest upon my forgiveness of someone who murders.
Or why not just let all the murderers and rapists and child molesters out of prison, I mean if you forgive them it must be because they are victims too, and wouldn't that be condoning violence? Couldn't they say it was cruel to forgive them and then still keep them incarcerated.
I've had tough times too, but I don't commit crimes or take someone's life. We need to be responsible for ourselve and make others do the same. Forgiveness for violence makes them the victim. I can get that same satisfaction by helping someone who hasn't murdered. And that is more satisfying because you just may keep them from doing that. Where if you waste precious time on the past you miss your chance to maybe save someones future.