You hit a core nerve with this one Rajan! My knowledge tells me I should repent. I am truly sorry I said something or did something which negatively affected a friend of mine. However, as my friend points out, repent means to turn around, and don't go down that road again. Apologies or saying 'I'm sorry I thought means I am truly sorry for the occasion of negative comments or actions but can be taken by another as only saying I'm sorry because I got chastised for the comments or actions. In other words I got caught in my negative remarks. I am made aware that my remarks were negative. Now I can either ignore that I said them, which is probably what I would have done, had I not gotten called on the carpet for them or I can muster up an attitude of regret that I said something negative which usually hurts someones feelings. Third choice is to quit doing whatever it is I keep doing in a negative way or with a negative message. My truth is I feel like everything I do is so well thought out that I almost never mess up so saying I'm sorry is going to only happpen once in a great while. That is a false truth that I have nurtured in my mind. Now about the repentance. I want to repent, I know I need to repent, I am feeling truly sorry I did what I did or said what I said. Only time will tell if I have repented and turned away from my negative comments. Something I quote often is "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."
Thank you for helping me question my heart and do something positive with the remorse. Long live repentance!