I think it doesn’t make any sense. Does it mean that bullies have a poor self-esteem? They feel that, when they bully their victim they would gain a better self-image. Why they don’t know that, through bullying, they’re damaging exactly this positive self-image? Are bullies that stupid?
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I loved to read your answer. In the first part of your statement, you're writing about the intelligent manipulators. Those we are able to accept. The second part allows me to better understand the mind of a bully. Thanks for an exceptional answer.
bullying is simply a form of manipulation from 1 extreme 2 the other. I did a hub on this very subj:
https://hubpages.com/religion-philosophy/The-Origi... that deals with this social problem in more depth.
Great answer. I like your last sentence most :-)
I think fpherj48 has summed up the subject very well. Bullies fall into two categories--those with low-self esteem and those with over inflated egos. Both are looking for recognition and they obtain this by being bullies.
Thank you for answering dashingscorpio. It sounds plausible. Kids bullied at home don't know anything better as bully at school or somewhere else around.
I agree, and I think bullying usually starts in their own home. It's hard to feel sorry for bullies at times; however, I do have empathy for them. I do not believe they were born that way, and they can change and learn appropriate behavior.
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Right Katie, it is true.
Lisa, thanks for answering. I understand bullies - in your answer - as the Nazis (or something similar). But still, when I'm better than others and bully I probably don't believe that I'm better than others... Is there something right in my thought??
jantamaya, Nazis are a good example. People who truly think they're superior often also enjoy, and feel entitled to, controlling/demeaning those they see as deserving mistreatment. Aggression/wish to dominate need to be there too, though.
I love that you brought in the narcissism when it comes to bullies, which is very true (Ted Bundy and John Wayne Gacy Jr. are two very known examples of this). But doesn't this more represent a minority of bullies? Or bullies in certain places?
i scettico, I don't think so. I can't say that all are behaving out of (even a small degree of) narcissism. I don't know that they all are. In people who are far from those you named, though, there can be "I'm No 1; don't threaten it" thinking.
I understand. An interesting point of view. You've explained it well. Thanks.
James-wolve, thank you for your answer. I would like to know if there is any medication to resolve this imbalance in the bully's psyche. Probably there isn't.
There is a medication to solve this imbalance in the bully s psyche.If parents are modeling aggression, the kids might learn that.the things they say to their kids about how to handle conflict and the way they handle conflict, are important.The probl
I agree with you, because a bully's power resides in the "silence" of the deed. Once it is out in the open, there's no fun and no gain, just consequences.--Deb
I don't know if anyone is really self-confident. I think, I'm ... to some point... :-) Ctrane, thanks for answering, yes bullies are sad individuals.