If "they said that or "they" said you should not do that; and/or "they" said why even try to do that? Who are "they" and why do "they" have so much authority?
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Ah, but isn't that just what "they" taught you? One can make a great life and a good living reaching out to a tiny minority of compatible people. So the general rule of popular demand is irrelevant to individual success.
"They", are not rules. "They" are opinions. There are always exceptions. eg. American Idol. "They" say you stay. "They" don't say you go.
If we put ourselves in a position to be judged, then we have given "them" power to judge us. But if what matters most is that I am true to myself, then "they" have nothing I want more than my own integrity, and then "they" have no power over me.
How often are you NOT in a position of being judged? We are judged by our parents, our kids, our bosses, our friends and by society itself. Our actions and character are judged. We don't put ourselves there. We are born there. Acceptance is answer.
If I take care of myself and trust that, if one relationship doesn't work out, then another one will, then the inevitable judgments imposed by others are meaningless to me.
Has "they" taken the bait?
I disagree. People only have power in our lives if we give it to them.
I think I understood what you have mentioned; the plurality of "they" possesses a synergy by their togetherness and this synergy is their power. However if it is theirs does that mean that "they" doesn't have it any more?
But not all synergy is positive. Two working together can have negative synergy called lose-lose. When synergy is not positive, I walk away. That is called win-win-or-no-deal. See my hubs on Habit 6 Synergy, and Habit 4, Win-Win, of Covey's 7 Habits.