Why does "They" have so much authority?

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   connorjposted 11 years ago

   Why does "They" have so much authority?
   
   If "they said that or "they" said you should not do that; and/or "they" said why even try to do that? Who are "they" and why do "they" have so much authority?
   
   

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   IDONOposted 11 years ago

   I was taught many years ago that" They" is referring to a " majority of the people". Or as we also know it by "popular demand".

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      SidKempposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Ah, but isn't that just what "they" taught you? One can make a great life and a good living reaching out to a tiny minority of compatible people. So the general rule of popular demand is irrelevant to individual success.

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      IDONOposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      "They", are not rules. "They" are opinions. There are always exceptions. eg. American Idol. "They" say you stay. "They" don't say you go.

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      SidKempposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      If we put ourselves in a position to be judged, then we have given "them" power to judge us. But if what matters most is that I am true to myself, then "they" have nothing I want more than my own integrity, and then "they" have no power over me.

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      IDONOposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      How often are you NOT in a position of being judged? We are judged by our parents, our kids, our bosses, our friends and by society itself. Our actions and character are judged. We don't put ourselves there. We are born there. Acceptance is answer.

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      SidKempposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      If I take care of myself and trust that, if one relationship doesn't work out, then another one will, then the inevitable judgments imposed by others are meaningless to me.

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   old albionposted 11 years ago

   They say that I should know the answer but I don't know. LOL.
   Graham.

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      connorjposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      They are at it again!

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      old albionposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you connorj. Recognition at last! Best wishes.
      Graham.

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   SidKempposted 11 years ago

   If they have authority, it is because we give it to them. And who are they? We choose? Some give authority to others in the realms of politics or the military; others in religion; others in scholarship.
   
   Let us claim our own authority and realize that there is no "they" or "them." We're all here together. Let's do our best, each and all.

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      connorjposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Has "they" taken the bait?

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   MarieAlana1posted 11 years ago

   They is more powerful than one because there is at least two to build eachother up. They are stronger together.

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      SidKempposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I disagree. People only have power in our lives if we give it to them.

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      connorjposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I think I understood what you have mentioned; the plurality of "they" possesses a synergy by their togetherness and this synergy is their power. However if it is theirs does that mean that "they" doesn't have it any more?

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      SidKempposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      But not all synergy is positive. Two working together can have negative synergy called lose-lose. When synergy is not positive, I walk away. That is called win-win-or-no-deal. See my hubs on Habit 6 Synergy, and Habit 4, Win-Win, of Covey's 7 Habits.

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