Widely referred to as the 'Golden Rule' Should we all live by this rule? Could this make an individual a better person? I'd love to hear others opinions. Thank you!
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I really like this response. Perfect!
But is that why you do it? For the return? You have been saying others are selfish, but is that not also selfish?
I don't think selfishness is the problem. There is no such thing as a selfless act. There is only positive and negative selfishness.
Slarty.. Have you ever heard of Karma; what goes around, comes around? If your only motive is the return, it's not an act of kindness. It's an investment. I do out of kindness. Rewards can be a simple smile Feeling good about myself is reward enough.
Feeling good about yourself is the gain then. Nothing wrong with that, but it is not a selfless act.
You say you find happiness and comfort by showing others kindness. It is your illusion. It is only a concept in your mind. You have attached your inner happiness to one of your actions towards others. You then feel rewarded, which fills your void.
Slarty. Every move we make is selfless. You eat to survive. At someone elses expense is selfish. Sri T. Illusion or concept. Who cares? It feels good. Screw someone. Feels bad. That's also an illusion or concept. I choose the feel good concept.
Sri: Concepts are not illusions. They relate to underlying reality even if not in the way we think they do. Concepts may not exist as things, but they exist as information.
Words are symbols. They are not real. Even perceptions are illusions. It is only in the mind of that individual. His joy comes from his suggestion. It is not related to any external action he does. It is a false belief he has, but he believes it.
I like this answer best of all!
Ironclad guarantee? Good luck with that. That sounds very selfish. Like, "what's in it for me?" If you are not willing to risk being hurt, you have no chance of being happy. Only very lonely.
The idea is to understand the all happiness comes from within. The wise do not depend on the kindness from others. The kindness of others comes and goes. If you abide in your own joy, it is irrelevant what others do.
I find happiness and comfort within showing kindness to others, regardless of what their response is. I am dependent on my own conscience . I cannot believe one can have the ability to be kind to themselves if not with others. Sounds isolated.
I agree, not everyone would like to be treated the same; but if they wish to be treated with respect, they should treat others with respect!
I agree, but denial will keep you from that. You have to recognize a problem as a problem, such as selfishness. People don't change unless there is a good reason to change. If you don't recognize and accept, you don't know your true status.
Agreed IDONO, however the acknowledgement of one's status can only come from within. Anything else is an external judgment, which may or may not be true or appropriate. I also agree that denial hides reality, but this too can only come from within.
Agreed. But that assessment has to be done with complete honesty with yourself , which is harder than being honest about someone else. Ego doesn't allow this. If you can, then you have to accept what you find. Only then, will you seek solutions.
I do the same when getting to know others. It's important to remember that we also have a duty to ourselves to protect ourselves from those who are abusive of our trust, kindness, etc.