I have been accused by more than one person of being negative. I do not believe I am negative, I am just not agreeable to every idea, suggestion or plan that I hear.
At my last job, we were planning a reception to be held in the backyard of our office. I asked "what's the rain plan." I was told I was being negative.
My old boss had idea for a guest speaker for our annual meeting. He was a former oil exec who was making a lot of speeches. He had a contract with a company for arranging his bookings and that contract prohibits any freebees. I remarked that I was pretty sure the speaker was under contract. "There you go being negative."
When a co-worker, higher pay grade, made a suggestion, I pointed out a few problems (he wanted members to call our office and give us their credit card numbers so we could book their hotel rooms.) with the plan he had developed. Again, I was labeled as a negative person.
So how do you deal with me.
You ask me a question, expect an honest answer and not necessarily the answer you wanted.
You can ask my opinion on an issue, I may disagree with you. Because you know you are right, that means I am being negative.
When I talk about gun control, the First Amendment, and conflicts in the constitution and you do not agree. It means I am negative.
The list goes on and on.
I have stated publicly many times, I am not an yes man. I told my former boss, who told me he did not want to hear about what was done before he arrived, that since I retained the institutional knowledge of the association, I would tell him what we did and if it worked or not. That would not mean I was opposing his plan. It just meant I was giving him more information. I also promised that by the end of the day, I would have completed the project the way he wanted it done, regardless of my personal opinion.
So the answer is that if you want to deal with me and those like me, to please listen to what we have to say and at least respect the concept that my view may be different from yours and I could be right or I could be wrong, but at least I was offering an opinion, an idea or some input.