I think it is fine that you asked this very awkward question. People who have never been in or around our military probably really do not get it. Probably what you have listed sounds like a normal list to anyone. All soldiers have certain similarities. And I think you about listed all of them. Perhaps in ignorance or to goat you listed one that is wrong. And you specify Army instead of military. And you suggest that killing civilians is a goal of ours like it is theirs - which could not be further from the truth. Our rules of engagement forbid the killing of civilians as a mission at all. Theirs gives "bonuses" for killing civilians
As far as following orders you may find (UCMJ) 809.ART.90 (20) et seq. interesting. Lawful orders are to be followed and unlawful, including from the Commander-in-Chief are not to be followed. The Uniform Code of Military Justice make clear our marching orders not the ragtag self proclaimed current Messiah of a terrorist regime.
You just suggested that our military folk are just like terrorists -- good for you, get the issue out there. By proclaiming ignorance we open the door to learning.
Our use of force is never justified like it would be being a battered spouse might claim justification along with self defense. Our killing of others is "necessary" for the preservation of innocent life and our way of life.
What country are we trying to control? One country does not control another sovereign that is made up Hollywood and pulp fiction nonsense. We can however control to an extent leaders. That is called heavy handed diplomacy. No battlefield participant ever tried to control a country.
HONOR is something you missed entirely. ISIS has no honor and our military does - we prosecute wrongful behavior, we have freed more countries from tyranny times ten more than any nation ever.
Our nation's military is secular completely. We do not fight for Crown or glory. We fight for freedom.
I have never been "enlisted" but I have served our armed forces. My involvement was in the JAG corp. I am not insulted by your question.
People need to get it, that we are a "cut above" all other militaries in the world.
Proud to serve and more proud to do right!