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What the Bible says about God and the infertile woman

Updated on January 23, 2012

The Barren Women of the Bible

Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel, Hannah, Elizabeth

Just to name a few...

There are many stories of women in the Bible who struggle with infertility and the pain of not having children.

The Bible not only shares the stories of these "barren women" but also offers hope and comfort during these times.

God indeed is the creator of life and the God of comfort and peace.

In this lens I will share some of their stories from the Bible and other verses that offer hope to those who may also consider themselves "barren" today.

But more important than finding out about the stories of these women is the possibility of finding our own hope in this journey; to be encouraged in whatever stage of our journeys we are at.

Why the word barren?

I don't particularly like the word barren... not that the many other words that denote infertility are any better.

So why the word barren? Partly because it captures some of the emotional content that goes along with infertility - it is a slightly broader definition. But also because it is often recognised as the biblical description of infertility.

However the word barren, has been defined as being an adjective with the following meanings:

1. a. Not producing offspring.

b. Incapable of producing offspring.

2. Lacking vegetation, especially useful vegetation.

3. Unproductive of results or gains; unprofitable: barren efforts. (Eg Synonyms of futile.)

4. Devoid of something specified: writing barren of insight. (Eg Synonyms of empty.)

5. Lacking in liveliness or interest.

and can also be used as a noun:

"A tract of unproductive land, often with a scrubby growth of trees. Often used in the plural."

(Courtesy of http://www.thefreedictionary.com/barren)

Ironically our lives can be barren, devoid of meaning whether or not we have children and equally, there is always hope, that though in some ways I may be "barren" there is the truth that my life can have meaning and be full of life and hope in the midst of this.

Psalm 55:22

Psalm 55:22
Psalm 55:22

Sarah's Story

the wife of Abraham

Sarah is married to Abraham. She is unable to conceive, although married for many years. Eventually she is not only unable to conceive but beyond childbearing years. (ie she is old as well...)

Ironically she is married to Abraham who has been promised descendants that will number like the stars in the sky and the sand on a beach. A great promise and yet for Abraham and Sarah, the fulfillment seems beyond all reach.

It is at this point that The Lord comes to Abraham once more.

"Then the LORD said, I will surely return to you about this time next year, and Sarah your wife will have a son. Now Sarah was listening at the entrance to the tent, which was behind him.

11 Abraham and Sarah were already old and well advanced in years, and Sarah was past the age of childbearing.

12 So Sarah laughed to herself as she thought,

After I am worn out and my master is old, will I now have this pleasure?

13 Then the LORD said to Abraham, Why did Sarah laugh and say, 'Will I really have a child, now that I am old?'

14 Is anything too hard for the LORD? I will return to you at the appointed time next year and Sarah will have a son.

And the result??? Not long after this Sarah and Abraham's son Isaac is born, one of the great patriarchs of the Jewish people.

"For nothing is impossible with God" (Luke 1:37)

What does the story of Sarah teach us?

God is faithful to his promises. What he promised to Abraham and Sarah he was faithful in fulfilling. God does not make this exact same promise to each of us but we do learn something else from Sarah's story:

God is the giver of life and he can bring about miracles. We do not know what God may be doing in our lives - even when it seems like he is not doing anything at all.

God can surprise us!

Some good books on infertility from a Christian perspective

For This Dream I Prayed: Companion Journal
For This Dream I Prayed: Companion Journal

A helpful journal complete with quotes and Bible verses and space to journal your thoughts and emotions.

 
Hannah's Hope: Seeking God's Heart in the Midst of Infertility, Miscarriage, and Adoption Loss
Hannah's Hope: Seeking God's Heart in the Midst of Infertility, Miscarriage, and Adoption Loss

The author tells her story of finding hope within the despair of infertility from a christian perspective

 
Longing for a Child: Devotions of Hope for Your Journey through Infertility
Longing for a Child: Devotions of Hope for Your Journey through Infertility

Some great devotions and bible passages for wherever you are in your journey - and with space to write notes and journalling thoughts as you go.

This is one I keep by my bedside and flick through to find a topic that is where I am at, when I need encouragment.

 
Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel and Leah (Women of Genesis)
Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel and Leah (Women of Genesis)

A fictionalised account of the women of Genesis from one of my favourite authors (who normally writes science fiction!). It fills out the snapshot view we have in Genesis and builds the story and emotions of the women to portray them as real and complicated individuals.

 

"You Lord, are my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in You, and I am helped." Psalm 28:7

Hannah's Story

Hannah is perhaps best known for her struggle with infertility.

The book of 1 Samuel begins with the verses

"1 There was a certain man from Ramathaim, a Zuphite from the hill country of Ephraim, whose name was Elkanah son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the son of Zuph, an Ephraimite. 2 He had two wives; one was called Hannah and the other Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had none." (1 Samuel 1:1-2)

I always reflect on what could be worse than feeling you have disappointed your husband by not being able to get pregnant? To be one of your husbands two wives, always being compared to her and her abundance of children. Not only was her husbands other wife extremely fertile; it was not a healthy relationship...

"6 And because the LORD had closed her womb, her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her. 7 This went on year after year. Whenever Hannah went up to the house of the LORD, her rival provoked her till she wept and would not eat. 8 Elkanah her husband would say to her, "Hannah, why are you weeping? Why don't you eat? Why are you downhearted? Don't I mean more to you than ten sons?" (1 Samuel 1:6-8)

Yet one thing I love about the image we have of Hannah in the Bible is of her honesty and of her pouring out her pain and heartbreak to God. Rather than become bitter and turn from God she reaches out to him at her time of need and calls on him to answer her prayer.

"10 In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the LORD. 11 And she made a vow, saying, "O LORD Almighty, if you will only look upon your servant's misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the LORD for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head."

12 As she kept on praying to the LORD, Eli observed her mouth. 13 Hannah was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk 14 and said to her, "How long will you keep on getting drunk? Get rid of your wine."

15 "Not so, my lord," Hannah replied, "I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the LORD. 16 Do not take your servant for a wicked woman; I have been praying here out of my great anguish and grief." (1 Samuel 1:10-16)

And God answers her prayer. And this answer is Samuel, who becomes a famous priest of God.

What does the story of Hannah teach us?

What do we learn from Hannah?

God wants us to turn to him. We don't have to pretend we are without pain, but can give this to God and know that he can answer our prayers.

"In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the LORD."

In Hannah's words - "I am a woman who is deeply troubled... pouring out my soul to the LORD... out of my great anguish and grief." (1 Samuel 1:10-16)

There is no pretense that she is not hurting, not blindly trusting God but really wrestling with the pain of infertility.

I kmow that I too can take my pain to the creator of the universe and pour out my soul to him.

Finding hope in a God who weeps with us

Joni Eareckson Tada, having spent more than thirty years in a wheelchair brings honesty and realness to the topic of suffering and why God allows such pain in our lives.

My favourite christian resources and infertility support

These are two of my favourite websites that I have found to be very worthwhile in my journey so far.

Psalm 27:14

Wait for the LORD;

be strong and take heart

and wait for the LORD.

We do not walk alone...

Most importantly the Bible tells us that Jesus calls us to himself. We do not walk alone but God himself walks with us in our pain.

Jesus says:

28"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." (Matthew 11:28-30)

One way of doing this is by praying and sharing our pain with Jesus.

Below is a Celtic Prayer called "Coping with infertility" and is inspired by the Christian Celtic tradition.

Gracious God, we long for a child and find our hearts shaved of hope

as month after month we go childless.

The love we have to give and share with a child fills us to the brim,

but that love seems thwarted when our longing is not fulfilled.

Look with tenderness on us, O God.

Let the disappointment that hangs over us be lifted by the joy of your touch.

Give us the patience that will re-build hope

as we wait for the fullness of our love in the high calling of parenthood.

We ask this for the sake of your love. Amen

Celtic Prayer (Copyright ©1999-2008 explorefaith.org)

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Christian resources

These books don't try to pretend that difficult things don't happen but seek to try and engage with God through the sorrows and storms of life.

Does the Bible have any words for us today?

Often we think that the Bible has nothing to say to us regarding issues such as infertility...

Even worse is the impression we do get: God opens the womb of the barren woman (and our question becomes, "then why not me too!") and the focus on the family that we often receive in Christian churches.

Often infertility can make us feel we just don't fit. Everyone else has kids and as much as we want to fit with these expectations it is beyond our control.

I was reminded recently that one of the prayers we can pray at these times is to call out to God with the frustration and pain that this is not how it was meant to be. This is not how God created the world to be. This is not how parenthood was to start.

And by asking God to change this reality and to heal us, to give us children, is not a selfish request but a calling for God to restore his creation, our world, and to bring all things under Christ and to bring peace to this place, beginning in our life.

God does not offer easy solutions and instant answers to prayer. What we do find in the Bible is words of encouragement. We are reminded of who God is, what he can do, that he does care and that we matter to him.

Below are some words that I have found comfort in at different times. I hope they are helpful for you too.

Some verses of hope from the Bible

Isaiah 30:18

Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you;

he rises to show you compassion.

For the LORD is a God of justice.

Blessed are all who wait for him!

Deuteronomy 31:8

The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."

Isaiah 40:26-29,31

26 Lift your eyes and look to the heavens:

Who created all these?

He who brings out the starry host one by one,

and calls them each by name.

Because of his great power and mighty strength,

not one of them is missing.

27 Why do you say, O Jacob,

and complain, O Israel,

"My way is hidden from the LORD;

my cause is disregarded by my God"?

28 Do you not know?

Have you not heard?

The LORD is the everlasting God,

the Creator of the ends of the earth.

He will not grow tired or weary,

and his understanding no one can fathom.

29 He gives strength to the weary

and increases the power of the weak.

31 but those who hope in the LORD

will renew their strength.

They will soar on wings like eagles;

they will run and not grow weary,

they will walk and not be faint.

These verses remind me of who God is (creator of all things ) and his character (faithful, compassionate). They remind me I may not always understand why God does or does not do things, but I can know I am not alone; that the God of the universe walks with me, he has not forgotten nor forsaken me and my hope is in him.

New Testament verses offering hope

Matthew 6:27

Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?

1 John 3:1

How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!

Romans 8:35 & 37

Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Phillipians 3:7-11

7But whatever was to my profit I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. 8What is more, I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them rubbish, that I may gain Christ 9and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ-the righteousness that comes from God and is by faith. 10I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, 11and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.

What is it that is important? - Knowing Christ. It can be all too easy to get so caught up with how I am feeling that I forget the joy of knowing Christ - it is easy to lose this focus!

Phillipians 4:4-7

4Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

In a situation where we may feel completely powerless, God offers us an option - we can bring this anxiety, worry and heartache to him in prayer. We are told to present our requests to him.

Colossions 2:6-7

6So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him, 7rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.

2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

16May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal encouragement and good hope, 17encourage your hearts and strengthen you in every good deed and word.

Ephesians 3:14-21

14For this reason I kneel before the Father, 15from whom his whole family[a] in heaven and on earth derives its name. 16I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19and to know this love that surpasses knowledge-that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

20Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

Your Story

Your story... is unique and yours alone. It may have elements of those of Hannah, or Sarah or other women of the Bible. It will have the shared emotions of anger, disappointment, sadness, frustration, jealousy, grief... shared by others walking similar paths.

But it is your story and no one can know exactly what you are feeling.

What we learn from these barren women of the Bible is that God is part of this story, as difficult as the journey may be. It may be a long journey or a short one, perhaps with many twists and turns, but we know that God walks with us and waits with us in our pain.

What does God want you to hear today?

As I reflect on God and who he is, I have been pondering what he would want to say to me as I struggle with infertility and my unanswered prayers. What might God be saying to me or to you today???

  1. I love you. You are my beloved child. You are mine
  2. You do not walk alone - I am with you always.
  3. I hear your prayers and I cry with you.
  4. Trust in me, know that I too want what is best for you.

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      gods child 2 years ago

      Thank you for sharing. God is good. I have been struggling for sometime now and i am js hoping an praying.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I AM BLESSED AND HIGHLY ENCOURAGED FOR THIS MESSAGE AND I BELIEVE STRONGLY THAT HE WHO DID FOR SARAH, HANNAH, REBECA, RACHEL, AND OTHERS WILL HELP ME TO DO IT FOR MY PEOPLE IN THE LORD, WHO ARE TRUSTING GOD FOR THEIR BABY.. IN JESUS NAME.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      this is nice

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      i sincerely believe and trust God for his blessings of the fruit of the womb in my marriage this year! Amen.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Am so bless by this words, its gives me more hope to cling tight on the Lord, He is my only solution.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      your words are encouraging keep it up.God bless

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @anonymous: there is nothing God cannot do have faith and cast your cares on LORD and He will sustain you Psalm 55:22

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      This is awesome,thank you.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thank you for this. I have been struggling with how to minister to several of my friends who are dealing with infertility and this helps so much!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I know this page will give spiritual encouragement to many people dealing with infertility. Many people try to comfort and end up hurting, but you seem to have caught the essence of why the Bible says about this subject.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      There are a couple more books I think that would be incredibly beneficial for you to add to your infertility library... They are both by Dr. William Cutrer. The first is "The Infertility Companion" and the other is "When Empty Arms Become a Heavy Burden". They are a tremendous resource and he is a great man of God.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thank you for letting me see this today. I have struggled with my heart on this. I have fought back jealousy and tears. I needed to hear this and see the love of God today so much. My husband and I have been trying a few weeks short of a year. It's beyond frustrating, sad, and heartbreaking. I have thre. Close friends all get pregnant within months of each other. They all were pregnant between the first two-four months of trying. I have struggled with my own overwhelming emotions of jealousy and disappointment. I feel very badly because that's how I feel. So thank you for showing me Gods love for me today.

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      ginayonque 5 years ago

      Your story is heart-warming , glory to God you believe in the bible, your faith in God is very strong that I know you will be able to wait in the Lord... the good news is that in God's kingdom , in heaven all our heart's deires will be given by our God ....even children More power....

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      JoyfulReviewer 5 years ago

      An inspiring take on an age-old issue ... nicely done!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thank you and may God Bless you. I have been battling with this problem for about 11 years now. I have been on a long agonizing journey for about 9 years now and have finally found out the source of my problems. But tonight I just feel so weak I really do not know what to tell God again.

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      Cimm 5 years ago

      @anonymous: that was a beauty-full response to Kat.

      I am childless, but consider myself a spiritual mother.

      Loving and praying for my nieces and nephews, and abused and neglected children, and unborn children, might not be so easy if i was 'burdened' with my own brood.

      I feel my life, without children (tho i longed for them for so many years), is as blessed and fruitful as any mothers'.

      Thanks for this inspirational lens!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thank you so much for this page. It has brought me hope when felt like i had none left. I tried to hide my pain of not conceiving even from God. But the story of Hannah made me realize God doesn't expect me to be without pain he wants me to cry out to him in my time of need. May the Lord keep blessing you.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Hi

      I'm almost 30. I fell pregnant about 10 years ago. I don't know how far along I was, as I had a miscarriage about a week after finding out that I was pregnant. Two years later, I was ready to start a family, only to discover that I was unable to conceive. I consulted a gyno who told me that I had PCOS and needed surgery to perform ovarian drilling. After the operation, I awoke to find that there was tremenous infection in my left ovary and tube, resulting from a huge cyst that had developed. The gyno had removed my left ovary and tube without my pre-approval or knowledge. He also told me that the remaining tube was blocked and that my chances to conceive were highly unlikely. He recommended IVF. I was only 24 and devastated. About a year and a half later, I got divorced. About two and a half years later, I decided to consult a different gyno. He said that I needed surgery as well. So, he performed ovarian drilling and cleared out my fallopian tube. After the surgery, he said that everything looked good. I felt relieved. I got married again in 2009, and was 27 already. My husband and I were eager to start a family. We tried to conceive, with no success. I consulted a third gyno who recommended surgery and said that a fertility specialist would assist with the surgery. During the surgery, they discovered that my right sided remaining ovary and fallopian tube had somehow swung around to the back of my stomach, and had started growing attached to my stomach. They had to detatch the ovary and tube from the lining of my stomach. This caused major damage and scarring to my fallopian tube. They also re-contructed the shape of my womb, as the right side of my womb was apparently not shaped conducively for conception. When I awoke after the operation, the specialist bluntly informed me that I had the worst tube that he had ever seen, and that he does not think that I will ever be able to conceive. I was devastated. A year later I consulted a general practitione who ran some blood tests and discovered that my thyroid gland was not functioning at all. I also had symptoms of early PMS at the age of 29. She prescribed thytoid medication which I am using as chronic medication at the moment. I am still not pregnant and am so exhausted and tired of trying and trying... I am tired of pretending that I am okay when I am not. My faith is strong in the Lord, and I constantly pray and weep bitterly before the Lord. What makes things even more difficult is that everybody around me is now suddenly pregnant, except me. From my friends, to my family, to my colleagues. It makes me feel even more sad and out of place. I sometimes wonder if I will ever conceive. One day I am okay, and the next day I just cry the whole day. I know I should not let this affect me do much and that I should just hope in the Lord, but it really does get difficult to cope with at times. I am tired and just on the verge of just giving up. But, the yearning inside of me to have a child is like a huge burning flame that just cannot be quenched. If God did not intend for me to have children, then why have I always had such a huge deisre and tremendous love for children? How long will this trial last? I know that God is in control of everything, but at times I really just feel really exhausted and tired. My hope remains in the name of the Lord.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Hi all,

      We were issueless for 10 long and agonising years. hopes started to slightly fade, but the FAITH in Almighty never did. As is the proverb "God could not be everywhere, he made MOTHERS" clearly explains, I pray that no woman on Earth should be childless ever! Praise the Lord!!!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Sometimes we find hope even in the smallest word we read and it means so much to a woman who is barren for 10 yrs like me. I felt so good after reading your site..and I pray to God to bless you in the good work you do.I have faith in my God..and someday will surely read and tell the amazing stories of Sarah,Hannah etc and of me to my children too...

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      Nicole Pellegrini 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Just stopping back to bless this lens as it's a favorite of mine.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thank you I came upon this and I was touched. I was batteling with infertility for 7 years. I finally got pregnant, but lost my daughter at 19weeks. I was devestaided and so upset. It broke my heart I felt like I was useless that I would never be able to give my husband a child. I almost lost hope but ive been fixing my relationship with god and I feel great as if hes bringing my hope back. My husband and I know that someday we will be blessed with a child

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      CruiseReady 5 years ago from East Central Florida

      What a beautiful and inspiring page

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Kat, I'm so sorry your having a difficult time. Your message really hit home for me, as there are SO many people feeling the same way you are. I myself have struggled so many times feeling as if the God that I DO love, has forgotten me. But Kat, the beauty God is that even though imperfect people make imperfect people, even though people make choices good and bad, that have extreme consequences, God loves us inspite of our imperfections, and draws us to Him whether or not we are flawed, or full of anger or sin. When He looks at you Kat, none of that is what He sees, He looks at you and sees this beautiful person that He loves, and all He wants is to heal your broken heart, as only He can. He didn't make you imperfect, people are imperfect, and they make even more imperfect people, but God doesn't care if your male or female, your His, whether or not you believe it, whether or not you love Him back, He will relentlessly pursue you until your last breath because He loves you, because He died for you, and because He has a purpose and a plan for your life. We are all eternal beings, and in eternity I really believe gender is going to be the last thing we are thinking about, in eternity, we are made whole and perfect and this life will seem like it flew by in minutes. My prayer for you Kat, is that you will constantly see Him pursue you, that one day you will know and feel His sweet love, and that you can look forward to a day where you are made whole, and that in this life, He will remind you who you are, not who the world says you are, but who He says you are, and that knowing your identity, it will unlock your destiny. You are SO loved, whether you choose to love back or not. I pray sweet blessings over your life.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thank you for this beautiful page, I know God provided this for inspiration as I yearn so much to be blessed with a baby. Your words, Bible versus and quotes are gifts which have reached so many and for that, I'm thankful! God bless you :)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @anonymous: I see your point because I too was looking for something to help me, but all of these stories have happy endings. I hope and pray for strength too.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      nicole conner, your message is beautiful, as is the message i felt on this page~ i too choose to trust in the lord and i will have faith~ God will give us our babies when it is his time, not a minute before hand~ I feel blessed tonight having read this message and let our father's will be done~ I love the lord, i will keep my faith and put my heart in his hands~ thank u precious savior for your blessings in my life~ amen

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      The messages of this page is awesome. I am going to share this with one of my colleague who is childless since 3 years. I trust God will build Hope in her while she reads this. Glory be to God

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I myself am single , 36 and can't have kids - I was actually born with incomplete development which left me asexual - is this gods plan ? Um why would a loving god do this to me - I'm not sorry but I'm done carrying this burden / I'm crippled emotionally and can't live much of a life - I don't love the god who made this way and he better stop wondering why !!!!

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      norma-holt 6 years ago

      Nice lens, congrats on LOTD and now featured on Squidoo LOTD Lenses. Hugs

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I stumbled across your site while researching infertility. My husband and I have been trying for 3 years and nothing. I am at the point of giving up. I am so down, today I found out my husbands cousin and wife are pregnant again, My best friend is pregnant, and everyone on facebook are having babies. I feel so alone and no one understands. As I write this I am crying and so depressed. I found relief in your stories from the bible and quotes. I pray that one day I will be rid of the void in my heart. That one day I will not feel on the outside looking in. thank you again

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      @anonymous: Tianna, I'm so sorry for your pain. We often can't make since of why God would love us enough to give us free will, but He does. He doesn't force any one to love Him or believe in Him, but just like any child that rejects a parent, His hurt and His love are undying for that child. Believing in God and His love and goodness only takes strength until He does something un denyable, that puts you on a high like falling in love. Wherever you are, I'm speaking over you, that people that love God will put in your life each day, whether you know it or not, and that soon you'll see how God pursued you relentlessly, until you belong to Him, and know His love for you, to the point of having some weird girl reading your post in the middle of the night and responding! Blessings for you!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Thank you so much for your site. I was researching, as I too have struggled with infertility. My Pastor said something on Sunday that struck me. Each of these biblical women went through a season of barrenness, but all of them were given children by God. And each of these women came to a place where there faith let them rest in expectation of the blessing they KNEW God had for them. I believe that God says to us, "you can have as much of me, or as little of me as you want". We can choose to dig deep into our God, and refuse to let go of the blessing that is in store for us, or we can sit back and believe the lie that some how God has changed, He blessed Hannah, but He won't bless me. That's exactly what Satan wants us to believe, but the truth is, God is unchanging, He's the same yesterday, today and forever. I choose to expect my blessings, and I refuse to live with out them, if my God blessed Hannah, then I know that when my season is through, He will bless me the same way, and when He does, every one I know will say how awesome and faithfull my Father is!!

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      juniperberry lm 6 years ago

      @anonymous: Hi Nulliparous

      Sorry that this article wasnât as helpful as it could be and that there is so much pain.

      I suppose what I have learnt from some of these women is that they trusted God when they thought their barrenness was forever.

      They did not know what God had in mind.

      For us too the challenge is to trust God without knowing where God might lead us or what kind of miracle he might be planning for us. God may not do miracles today like we see in the bible (ie ninety year old women getting pregnant)

      But he is still at work in this world.

      Miracles today might be conceptions thought impossible or they may be the family brought together through adoption or fostering. We might see scientific or medical advances that make pregnancy possible. I have a friend who says that the miracle God has planned for her is perhaps that somewhere in the midst of this hell she might be able to trust God anyway.

      To be honest I am not sure there are any easy or simple answers, but will pray that God may walk with you and comfort you wherever you are.

      (And FWIW, I think of the 1 Timothy passage as being more a corporate idea rather than an individual imperative and ultimately fulfilled in Jesus; ie saved through the birth of a child, Jesus)

      Thanks for your thought,

      Juniper

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      It infuriates me when well-intended Christian writers try to teach barren women about God using storys from the Bible of WOMEN WHO HAVE BABIES! All of these stories end in the happily-ever-after that so many of your readers will never see. It is insulting and cruel to be faced with Sara, etc. on every single site. What words does God have for so many women who desperately wants to get pregnant? Just one: "no." "No," even when He says "yes" to the starving woman who will watch he infant die from malnutrion, "yes" to the cancer patient who has to choose between the pregnancy and her own treatment... We see Him say "no" to the victims of kiddnapping and rape around the globe, "no" to the woman who has great personal/asperations that will never be fullfilled.

      Articles like this make me crazy. This is a driving desire for most females, it would be like a man being forced into life as a Eunic against his will and everyone telling him that it's God's will and then sharing stories from the Bible about men who went on to father children. 20-year-olds who have had full hysterectomies need something other than Sara. They need someone to explain where to find hope in God given 1 TImothy 2:12-15.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for more than 3 years now. We are going through many medical steps as well. I try to stay hopeful and pray a lot, but every month I am devastated all over again. Luckily, this process has brought my husband and I closer . We have so much love to give. We want to trust in God, but with tons of people around us getting pregnant so easily, it gets challenging. I have come to the understanding that I am truly blessed in life and if I never have children, than I can still say how lucky and blessed I have been. I know God is in charge and has plans for all of us, so "have your way Lord."

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      well god has bless me and my husband with 6 wonderful children me and my husband made 3 of them and one is my stepchild and the other 2 we did not make and the parents was not doing rite so we took them and they have gave me so much joy in my life one we got from family and my baby boy is mom felt like she could not raise him we took him as soon as she had him and the mom as not looke back but all of them have been a big blessing to us and we would not change any thing .but let me say this i was ypoung when i got my tubes tied and now i wish i never did because i been praying god go in there and un tie them and fix them so me and my husband can have one more child i no her herer my prayer and in do time he will answer them for me and my husband i just got to keep walking in faith and walking with my god but when i was reading the bible this site came up and something told me to check it out so i did and it real helped me a lot made me do something thinking and when i get time i will look up the stuff and read it in my bible but i want to say the u form the botttom of my heart for this side it gave me hope and understanding

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I have been diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome, a very common cause of infertility in women, for the past 3 years. It isn't until now that I am 20 I am starting to understand how this could affect me. And I was crying today at the thought that I might never have children. I was praying to God and I was telling him about how I felt. And for some reason I googled to find this article. It gives me so much joy to be reminded again that nothing is impossible for our God. And I have confidence in the lord that one day when I get married, God would bless me with children. And moreover I learned to realize that even if he doesn't provide me with children, he would make me understand and realize that he is enough for me and nothing can take his place.Thank you for this article !

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      This is a nice article. I can see where it may even help some people, unfortunately I'm not one of them. I have no place in my life for a God that gives children to idiots that never wanted them, won't care for them, and do nothing but hurt them. I've completely given up on the idea of ever having a child. The only I want from any God now is to die. Maybe I'll have better luck in my next life.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      @anonymous: I too dont have a baby right now but I know GOD is going to bless us soon and that He has his own plan to bless us.It is very important to trust in the Lord our God and believe that nothing is impossible for GOD.You need to change your attitude, You need to believe that you will conceive if it is GOD's Holy will for you.From my experience I can tell you to Please go to a priest/person who has the gift of the Holy Spirit, your journey to conceiving will begin from there on.God Bless You.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Really nice article.We know these happenings from the Bible, but then thankyou for providing a refresher course.I too don't have a baby right now but I know GOD is going to bless us soon and that He has his own plan to bless us.As for Betty, its very important to trust in the Lord our God and believe that nothing is impossible for GOD.Please go to a priest/person who has the gift of the Holy Spirit.

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      juniperberry lm 6 years ago

      @anonymous: I'm glad this site has been helpful. It can be difficult when you and your husband are on different emotional pages! Often it is important to find other ways of getting support - whether people in your life you can talk to about it or even online forums can be helpful to talk to people who are in similar situations. Praying for perseverance for you. -j

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      @surfsusan: The Bible tells us to go forth and multiply.I believe that in some women such as myself have a strong desire for children. With me being a teacher I'm around children all the time,and I feel that creation is creating and bringing forth children.I know that God uses certain people so they can have a testimony such as the women in the Bible to bring forth thee glory that He deserves! I hope this helps...

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I have to say that this was something that I was looking for. I knew about the stories in the Bible and I have taken them to heart,but sometimes its so hard to deal with the thought of Why am I not getting pregnant. Sometimes I feel as if God throws it in my face when I see close friends getting pregnant and its not happening to me.I've learn to deal with the issue of me possibly not having children,I still have the hope and faith that God and His son Jesus can do anything that we may ask or think.My question is though when the praying doesn't help and when you feel that your faith and hope is on the last round what can I do? I hope I make sense sometimes I feel that I'm a broken record when it comes to this topic.I hate bringing it up to my husband because I feel that he really doesn't have the pain that I feel yet. I sit and wonder when is it going to hit him the 6th year the 7th year?but anywho I thank you for having this site its awesome and it really helped by reiterating what God has been showing and telling me all along!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      @juniperberry lm: Thank you for your words of encouragement. I have learned to give God my hurts and dissappointments and not carry them on my own. The load is much easier since I've started to do this. I will hang on to the hope that one day I will have a child of my own. But until then or if it does not happen, I will cling to God and continue to follow and pursue His will in my life. After all, that is what is most important.

      Thank you again. God bless

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      juniperberry lm 6 years ago

      @anonymous: Hi Aubrey, Thanks for your comments. One of the things that I have learnt along the way is that it is all about journeying with God. i think that all we can do is take all of our pain and disappointment to God. Regardless of where the journey might end - whether it includes biological, adopted, shared or other types of family what is more important is to include God in this journey. I have always loved the Psalms - often raw and deep emotions but they give us permission to be real. Unfortunately real life does not always finish with the end we might like and that is grief that we need to process and allow to heal, perhaps again and again. I pray that God may strengthen and comfort you, that He may be at work in you and bringing fruitfulness and fullness in other areas of life.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I am so thankful for this lens. It is most encouraging and I have it listed as my "favorites." I read it over and over. My question to you and to any other woman going through infertility is what to do when the hope of ever having a child is gone. Meaning that I KNOW that I will never have a child. What do I do with that? What do I do with that dissappointment. Your scriptures are so encouraging and uplifting, but the women in the Bible you reference all conceived and had children of their own. What scriptures are there for women without children? Please do not misunderstand my tone. I am not defensive, I am truly asking for help. If you can't give it, anyone suggest where I can go for help?

      Thank you again for posting this. I will cherish it and it does help tremendously.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Thank you so much for writing this article.Jesus bless you and your family,you will always be in my prayers.I am suffering with pcos and diabetes and having a hard time to get pregnant but i am sure that my womb gonna give grace to HIS mighty name and He will definitely bless me with children,when my time will come.and i know He will bless all who believes in Him.But since few days i was feeling little low n your article pumped me again with new hopes.BLESSED ARE ALL WHO WAIT FOR HIM.And so do you and me.

      May god's will be done in your life.

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      sugunalinus 6 years ago

      You seem to have done a marvelous research in bible. Hats off to your efforst.

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      miaponzo 6 years ago

      Thanks so much for this heartfelt lens on infertility.. in alternative medicine (of which I am a specialist in)... there are many, many different solutions to this problem. :) Congrats!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      A very beautiful lens!

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      JackalyeYe 6 years ago

      What a lovely lens. I believe that God always stays with us.

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      VSP 6 years ago

      You're prayers are not unanswered, It may be that the answer is no or wait. I love the encouragement you shared in What does God want you to hear today. I can't know your pain, but can only imagine. I have a friend who married a little later in life and was not able to have children. God has blessed her with an adult child who lost her mother at 16, and her mother-in-law shortly after she married. God sometimes full fills needs in ways that don't fit our box/image as he has done for these two. May God continue to encourage and uplift you and those who read this page. Thank you for sharing and encouraging others.

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      Judy Goldsberry 6 years ago

      Very informative and well written. I will share this lens with those who are in the same situation as these women as it offers much comfort and hope.

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      Judy Goldsberry 6 years ago

      What a beautiful lens of comfort and hope. Very nicely done.

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      Encourager LM 6 years ago

      We met a lady from South America in Church (UK) and she shared with my wife that her deepest desire is to have a child. She had been trying for a child for 15 years. Our Minister at the time had 4 children so my wife told her you have come to the right place our Minister is anointed to pray for women who are desperate to have children. The lady was taken to him and he prayed for her. About 10 months later while the Minister was at a church meeting he had a phone call from this lady from South America that she had just delivered a baby! He stopped the meeting and rang my wife to tell her! Praise the Lord! God is good. There is power in anointed prayer.

      Great lens. Keep up the good work.

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      BunnyFabulous 6 years ago from Central Florida

      Thank you for this incredibly well done lens. I really appreciate the way in which you go straight to God's word to talk through His character and how He meets us in our very real struggles, and how we can go to Him in the midst of trials. I've gone through 3 1/2 years of infertility, including 5 IUIs and 4 IVFs and have had multiple pregnancy losses before having my daughter. I pray that this lens will be a great encouragement to many people as they go through the throes of infertility, and that it will keep pointing us all towards Christ.

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      StLphotogirl 6 years ago

      This is a great lens. I think it provides some good resources and scripture to help couples (and especially women) who are struggling with infertility.

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      Debbie 6 years ago from England

      Congrats on handling a sensitive subject with such grace and thoughtfulness. A well deserved LOTD. Blessed by a Squid Angel ;)

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Blessed with a wonderful son whose names mean "Merciful gift from God.", I too am barren, barren of a partner.

      Like Hannah I have wept bitterly and bared my soul to The Father, lately I am numb as there is nothing left...a sense of hopelessness. Particularly like Abraham with whom God foretold the future, He too has told me who my partner is. However, like Sarah - it is just not possible. His heart has been hardened and so the barrenness continues.

      So as I read this article is...hope springs forth once again.

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      LensSeller 6 years ago

      Well done on your LoTD award; It's clearly well deserved!

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      SunnyDaze LM 6 years ago

      I am so blessed in my life. I have four wonderful children. I know of a friend who prayed to God for 10 years before He blessed her with a beautiful son. Continue to look to God and He will bless you with what you need. Patience and perservance are strengths. God will let things happen when He is ready. Don't give up. Always have faith.

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      surfsusan 6 years ago

      Why is it that it is so important to have children? You can live a fulfilled life without children, I strongly believe that it is not for every to have children, creation can be more than creating children.

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      Trina Sonenberg 6 years ago from Nucla, Colorado

      Isn't it interesting that in the Bible it is always something wrong with the woman? You never hear that the man needed God's intervention, it is always the woman who has the problem. The woman is infertile, it is never that the man has a low sperm count. It never occurred to the writers of the Bible, that the man could be the malfunctioning partner. Is that fair?

      Good Lens!

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      dustytoes 6 years ago

      Thank you for this hopeful lens for those who long for children. God is our comfort in all things and his ways are not our ways. I do have children, but my heart goes out to those who don't and want them so badly. We must be still and know that he is always holding us.

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      ideadesigns 6 years ago

      This is so heartfelt and a huge encouragement. Thank you for sharing your heart. I'm so happy you received LOTD, it's well deserved!! :)

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      Joan4 6 years ago

      Beautifully written, comforting and full of hope!

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      Susan Deppner 6 years ago from Arkansas USA

      Very tender topic. Congratulations on your Lens of the Day!

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      LilliputStation 6 years ago

      What words of blessing and comfort, even for those of us who do not suffer from infertility! As you stated at the beginning, a barren womb does not rule out fruitfulness in other areas of your life; and reading through this lens, I can see the abundance of fruit God has brought forth in your life.

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      anglena 6 years ago

      i am really very happy and really admiring this lense.... how beautifully a message is giving to the reader that we never let down our self just there is a need to have FAITH in GOD.....thanks for sharing such a realistic information...

      http://www.albertam.com

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      tanvii 6 years ago

      Congrats for LOTD.......

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      Norbert Isles 6 years ago from Philippines

      The scripture verses you quoted, especially Psalm 27:14, are very the same words from God that give me equanimity of heart in seemingly unfavorable moments and circumstances that comes to my life. Barrenness can mean so many things, but I've learned to see barrenness like a field with yet ungerminated seeds. Thanks for so much insights from your personal exegesis of the story of the barren women of the bible.

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      dianbee 6 years ago

      This is very inspirational. Why should we ever give up a vision? There is always unseen help.

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      Lynne Modranski 6 years ago from Ohio

      Thanks so much for sharing! Congrats on LOTD - May you be richly blessed

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      Ruthi 6 years ago

      Wondrous faith and hope. Congratulations on your well-deserved Lens of the Day.

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      lasertek lm 6 years ago

      I have read the Bible stories you have featured on this lens before but never looked into the pain & anguish that the women have suffered. Focusing more on the women's struggles gave a lot more meaning.

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      I-sparkle 6 years ago

      I loved the beauty, passion and honesty of this piece. My congratulations on this very blessed LotD. Not only because in and of itself the lens has such wonderful content but also because of the heartfelt and skillfully crafted messages that you as a writer knew how to express to the public. Excellent work.

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      Diana Romaxx 6 years ago from Chicago

      Congratulations on your LOTD!

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      Renaissance Woman 6 years ago from Colorado

      A beautiful, compassionate, and inspirational lens. Congrats on LOTD!

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      Sanam 6 years ago

      You've shared nice perspective on dealing with this problem. I'm sure women suffering from infertility will find it courageous and helpful.

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      Sanam 6 years ago

      You've shared nice perspective on dealing with this problem. I'm sure women suffering from infertility will find it courageous and helpful.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Our Mother's Day message at church was about Hannah. Very encouraging page! Congratulations on lens of the day!

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      Eighteen18 6 years ago

      a beautiful lens. Lots of faithful scripture.

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      Mishael A Witty 6 years ago

      And don't forget Isaiah 54:1! Really beautiful lens. Thank you for sharing it.

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      gypsyman27 lm 6 years ago

      This is a good and inspirational lens. Thanks for reminding us of all of the beautiful things that are in the Bible. Congrats, on LotD. See you around the galaxy...

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      TejasRamakrishnan 6 years ago

      Hmmmm.

      Looks okay, but i dunno.

      Haven't read this fully, but what do they say...!

      Ignorance is bliss..?

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      SallieMurphy 6 years ago

      Wonderful Lens Thank you

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      seedplanter 6 years ago

      Although I have never experienced the sorrow of infertility, I have known couples who have been waiting for years. Your faith shines through as you share the character of God through this lens. His view of the bigger picture is never ours, and without faith in his trustworthy character, and his never-failing love, all of us would be without hope. I am so glad you poured yourself into writing this lens. It is well-deserving of LOTD.

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      sheriangell 6 years ago

      What a beautiful, comforting lens. Congratulations on your well deserved LotD.

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      wolley811 6 years ago

      My heart was stirred up as I read your lens---a rare but pleasant treat as I scour through many lenses that sometimes treat the Bible as something so distant. Your lens made God feel so close. Also, our being on this side of the cross gives us hope that He has indeed turned our barrenness into fruitfulness as He took on our sin and ugliness. Blessed by the Christianity SquidAngel! :)

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      Michey LM 6 years ago

      Beautiful lens, it enlighten my spirit today... as I always find comfort on Lord wisdom, and trust hes will.

      Congrats for LOTD

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      You are brining restoration to those with "hearts shaved of hope" and doing it beautifully. You have a tender, sweet gentleness here that is healing. Congratulations on LOTD!

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      lotusflowers 6 years ago

      lovely lens , when I saw these stories, life have many unhappy things everyday, but we face to these everyday, sad happy good bad have everyday, when my love gone away far from me, I feel very sad and don't know how to describe my feeling. empty heart......

      if the God blesses me , I hope ........

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      Wendy Leanne 6 years ago from Texas

      Wow, what an amazing lens full of biblical insight! Congratulations on a well deserved LOTD.

      I was an infertile woman for 6 years. I muttered prayers continuously much like Hannah (which we named our 3rd child after). Then one day, when I felt I couldn't take being childless any longer, I cried out to the Lord and released all of the anguish and despair I had felt over the years. We got pregnant that very week. Since then, we have had two very surprising pregnancies that have completely baffled my doctors. A friend of mine says that my womb was closed and now God has opened it.

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      weddingsnews 6 years ago

      congrats for the LoTD.

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      Stephen Carr 6 years ago from Corona, CA

      Interesting topic for a lens. Congrats on LOTD. Nice job.

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      UKGhostwriter 6 years ago

      Well done, this is a fantastic lens, professionally executed and truly worthy of LOTD!

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      Jeanette 6 years ago from Australia

      Very thoughtful and thought-provoking lens. I can relate somewhat to barren women as we had to wait over a year before we fell pregnant with our first baby. I found the Bible very helpful during that wait.

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      criminalbackgroundchks 6 years ago

      Great Thoughts !!