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Be Careful Who You Unfriend on Facebook: You Never Know What Might Happen

Updated on February 11, 2015

There is no denying social media has provided a platform for people to communicate and share ideas, get to know people from different languages and countries and discuss issues of importance locally, nationally and internationally.

However, when something is invented for the betterment of humanity, others have found an opportunity for their own misdoings. One wouldn’t need look further to see the hate and racial messages posted on the walls of social media especially in the case of Facebook.

Now, onto Facebook, some of us can boast how many friends we have in our Facebook list numbering to hundreds and thousands. We read their posts and like or comment and they do likewise when we post ours. But, what if you decide to block or unfriend a friend from your Facebook list? Yes, you have justifiable and sometimes unjustifiable reasons to unfriend your friend from your Facebook list, but did you know many of us don’t take it well?


We feel we are not loved, we are hated; we feel rejected, develop low self-esteem and other emotions start taking toil upon us because a friend decided to unfriend us from his/her list.

Whether you know your friend well or you have never met face-to-face, unfriending someone can lead to tragic consequences in your case, and also in their case. Pray, when you unfriend someone from your list, it doesn’t happen affect you one way or another or, though you cannot avoid it, affect the one you have unfriended.

4) Transgender Woman Attacked Her Boyfriend for Unfriending Her

25-years-old, William Hanz De Veyra Arriesgado was sentenced to 2 years imprisonment after she attacked her boyfriend, 47-years-old Colin James Peady, a bank worker. She used three tools to attack him which included a pair of scissors, a knife and fork.

William Hanz De Veyra Arriesgado, a Fillipino who changed her sex or gender but was unable to change her name from male to female since her country’s law wouldn’t allow it, quarreled with Mr. Peady concerning his Facebook status. Hours later in Peady’s rented Sunhaven condominium in Changi, the arguments picked a note higher leading to the attack.

During the attack he was seriously wounded.

Unfriending and then changing his status from married to single didn’t seem to go well with her girlfriend, William Hanz.


3) A Woman Burned Down Her Friend’s House for Being Unfriended

30-years-old Jennifer Christine Harris was arrested and charged with first-degree arson for burning down the house of Nikki Rasmussen, her old friend. Nikki and her husband were lucky to escape the fire.

At 1 am when the fire broke out in the separated garage, Nikki and her husband were sleeping. Items that were stored in the garage were damaged and the roof of the garage gave way. They were woken by the popping sound which resulted as a product of the fire followed by a loud ‘boom’ sound. Only the side of the house began melting. Luckily, they were not injured.

The reason which resulted to Harris torching her friend’s house was because Nikki unfriended her from her Facebook list. This got Harris angry.

Harris had asked Nikki to create a birthday event on Facebook. Nikki did that but the number of those who declined to attend it was ‘not welcoming’ as the date for the event approached. Nonetheless, the better part of the problem started when Harris began posting nasty things about Nikki. This led to Nikki unfriending her to the extent of blocking her.

Their relationship turned worse when they sought to arrange Harris’ birthday party but according to Nikki the time was not enough to do that.

Harris, working as a teacher’s associate at Smouse Elementary School was put on unpaid leave.

Interesting, Harris was maid of honor at Nikki’s wedding.

2) Tennessee Couple Murdered for Unfriending a Woman

For this couple, they didn’t know unfriending a young lady would cost them their lives.

Billy Payne Jr., 36-years-old, and his 23-years-old girlfriend Billie Jean unfriended 30-years-old Jenelle Potter. This got Jenelle upset but it couldn’t be likened to the degree of anger and upset her father felt to see her daughter unfriended or how upset her daughter was.

Jenelle’s father, Marvin Enoch ‘Buddy’ Potter, 60, enlisted the help of Jamie Lynn Curd, 38, who together went to the couple’s house, and shot them in the head. Billy Payne’s throat was found slit.

However, the couple’s eight-month-old baby was unharmed. Mr. Payne was found dead in his bedroom while his girlfriend, Billie was found dead in the baby’s room; the unharmed baby in her arms.

Both Jenelle’s father and Jamie Lynn were arrested and charged with murder.

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1) A Tragic End of Simon Floxley’s Life

There is nothing more hurting in this world than either being ignored, rejected or receiving a decline to your request in matters of love.

Simon, 21, had a bright future. Nevertheless, he decided to end his own life because of the pain he couldn’t carry anymore.

Simon had a friend in his Facebook list, a young woman of whom they communicated a lot through Facebook though they had never seen each other face-to-face.

The more they communicated the more the feelings towards this lady grew in him. He decided to let her know through Facebook. What he expected wasn’t what he had hoped to expect. She declined. It seems she didn’t share the same feelings. The decline was followed by her unfriending him from her Facebook list.

He tried to get back to her by trying to contact her but what followed was too much for him to bear. The lady’s friends started sending him insulting and abusive messages. They told him to leave the girl alone.

A shy and sensitive boy, what made him to commit suicide was the abusive messages he received with the final straw being, “Go and die.” According to his parents, Simon was suffering from having low confidence. This coupled with how sensitive he was; he decided to do exactly that.

He was found by his father and younger brother. He had hanged himself in the family’s home garden.

Before hanging himself, he had left a will which he wrote and a suicide note, which by quoting from Daily Mail read, “Thank you for everything that you have done for me. I hope you make the most of your lives and cherish the people and the moments you share with them. I can’t say sorry enough times for it to be the slightest bit good.”

Her parents declined to file the case of the people who cyber-bullied their son, instead they urged young people to be aware of cyber bullies, praying others won’t come to the conclusion their son arrived as a result of social bullying.

This is a sad story.


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      Kiss andTales 2 years ago

      Thank you I am looking forward in continuing to read more of your posted hubs thank you Ben.

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      Alianess Benny Njuguna 2 years ago from Kenya

      @ Kiss and Tales, those were nice words from your father. And, true we should be careful who we befriend on Facebook. Some may pretend to be nice but they have a different motive.

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      Kiss andTales 2 years ago

      Very interesting hub and good subject ,and some real sad endings, perhaps people should know who they are befriending ,because realistically everybody is not your friend just because you know of them ,or something about them.

      Some wise advice was given long ago to my mother ,I never forget it.

      My mother had a habit of calling people she just meet as being nice, my father told her stop calling everyone one you just meet nice,because you really know nothing about this person, we are so quick to want to label people nice and friend ,when they will never fit those shoes .