How and Why to Change Your Legal Name
You Want Me To Call You What?
My name is gia combs-ramirez. Legally my name is Virginia Combs and as a kid and in the community where I grew up (where I still live) I was and am called Ginger. People change their names for many reasons from getting rid of a difficult pronunciation, to change in marital status, to reflecting a new sense of themselves, and to becoming famous or infamous. Here I want to explore how and why you might change your name, as well as how to tell your friends you've changed your name. Although many people change their names, it is often hard to get family and friends to accept the new name.
At the Very Beginning of Your Life - When should a child be named?
The name game all starts at birth...or does it? My father ended up with Baby Boy Combs on his birth certificate because obviously his parents hadn't come up with a name in the hospital. He didn't discover this till he enrolled in the Navy and had to produce his birth certificate. Oops! Some cultures don't name their children for a whole year because of the high rate of infant mortality. Some people wait a month or so.
When should a baby get that first name?
Good Names For Your Baby - How do you choose it?
My parents chose names based on ancestry.
We chose names for our kids based on their bicultural heritage...what names could be said in Spanish or English with equal ease?
My advise is to think about the child and a name that resonates well with her or him (place one hand on your belly and say a name out loud. If it doesn't match it will not feel good).
On the other hand, Google thinks most teenagers will trash their own name on the internet with all the postings of their indiscretions. So maybe you need to pick out a name that is good for 20 years with the "real" name for when your kids turn 21!
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Reasons for Picking A Name - Ancestors, fads, or something else?
Why did you get your name?
I sometimes think I was born to live up to my name. I'd either have been a nun or this. Madonna
The Top Five Reasons People Change Their Names
First, last or both for changing names
1. Change your last name because of marriage.
2. Change your last name because of divorce.
3. Change your first and last names to sound less ethnic or cultural.
4. Change your first name because it no longer reflects who you are.
5. Change your name because as a movie star or public figure you need something catchy.
Newest! Change your name because of being infamous or associated with someone infamous. Google CEO Eric Schmidt says this will be a growing trend for teenagers who want to get away from indiscretions posted on the internet.
How to Legally Change Your Name - It's tiresome
It took me about 5 years after I got married the first time to get everything changed to my husband's last name. Then we got divorced. When I remarried I didn't change my legal name again. Now I have my legal name and my dba name or professional name. My biggest challenge is trying to remember which name I gave people for registering for something!
If I got to do it all again, I'd never have changed my name legally after the first marriage.
- Changing Your Name After Marriage
Why is it only women who change their names?
- Social Security
Be sure to let them know for your *cough* benefits some day.
- Changing Your Passport Name
Are we having fun yet?
- Legal Zoom
Does the research for you. Fill out their forms then just file them.
- Changing Your Name After Divorce
All divorce decrees now are required to ask you if you are changing your name or not. It's a Homeland Security thing.
Numerology of Names
The Numerology Name Dictionary by America’s Foremost Numerologist Ellin Dodge. Wondering what your career strengths are? Confused by your boss? Is "John" really your soul mate? Nervous about impressing your future mother-in-law? Well, throw away those self-help books, skip your therapist appointment, and let your fingers do the walking through YOU ARE YOUR FIRST NAME for all the answers and more! Taught in the ancient mystery schools, the first letter of any name, the vowels, and the consonants all have meaning unveiling secrets and providing you with great insight about yourself, your friends, lover, boss and everyone else in your life! With YOU ARE YOUR FIRST NAME, all the answers you've ever wanted are pages away.
Any child can tell you that the purpose of a middle name is to tell when he's really in trouble.
My name may have buoyancy enough to float upon the sea of time. Keats
Did You Change Your First Name - Or Know Someone Who Did?
How did you handle it?
So You Took The Big Leap and Changed Your Name, What Now?
Or someone you know changed their name, what do you do?
It's okay socially to change your last name because of marriage or even divorce. But there's kind of a taboo about changing your first name. How do you handle telling your friends and family? You may find plenty of resistance to changing a name because they associate your name with a feeling of love (or whatever view they have of you). And then there's just the basic memory aspect of it. For some reason people get embarrassed if they forget someone's new name and call them by their old name. At my age, I'm just happy if I remember any name, so I certainly don't fault any one else's memory!
In my own life I stayed "Ginger" for a long time with friends and family. With my clients I was "gia." And never the two shall meet! My friends who know me in the energy healing/intuitive world readily switched to gia. But others didn't and I was fine with that. But then one day...two years ago, I joined Facebook and my two worlds came together as one. I immediately confused old friends who always knew me as Ginger. Sometimes family don't know how to introduce me (do I introduce you the old way or the new way?)
My personal feeling is, if you knew me as Ginger...keep calling me that! And if you know me as gia...please call me that! And if you're introducing me and you're not sure...just introduce me as your sister, daughter, friend and I'll supply the name.
But other people are adamant that their new names are recognized and acknowledged by family and friends. If you've changed your name, send an email to friends and family. For businesses send a formal letter.
If you are on the other side of the equation and someone you know has changed their first name and they haven't officially told you anything...just ask what their preference is!
Here's a good tip for committing the new name to memory. Picture the person in front of you. Connect to the heart feeling you have for that person. With your nondominant hand lightly tap your thumb on each finger tip while repeating the new name over and over. Give it 20-30 seconds if you are feeling resistant to it. Voila! Committed to memory.
Name-Calling - The Ugly Side of Others Picking a Name for You
When some one else picks your name and adds meanness to it...it can affect you forever.
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Got a story about a name or a nickname?