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Confidence Is the Key to Women's Equality

Updated on January 18, 2016

Gender equality

The trend on twitter today was #WhatWomenWantIn5words. An interesting concept that lead most women to answer "we want equality", "we want equal pay for equal jobs" and the ever prominent "we want the last slice of pizza". It opened room for debate about wether feminism is dead. Some individuals say feminism is too harsh, demanding more and coming on to strong. Simply put, confidence may be the key to equality without being arrogant.

Women are bombarded with images of how they should look, who they should be, what they should buy, what men want, how to cater to men's desires. Is it any wonder a large number of women suffer from self esteem issues? Confidence comes from a divine place within, when all of the false masks one puts on finally disappear, and the real person emerges. The real "you" can often be disappointing at first, not living up to every high standing expectation you may have of yourself. Yet as the fog begins to clear, people are usually pleasantly surprised and can finally breath a sigh of relief. Living in the truth brings an immediate sense of freedom. So how can confidence help in the fight against gender equality?

Someone who is confident with themselves is often cool, calm and collected. They know who they are, what they want and what they will stand for. Standing up for themselves in an authoritative yet non-aggressive way. Respect is earned when you don't compromise your values for anyone.

What's the first step? Determining your values. This can often be quite revealing. When I first did this exercise I realized most of my friends didn't have the same values and I was living in a tug of war with my real self and the self I thought I had to portray to the world. What are your best five qualities? What do you like about other people? What are you good at? Honest, charismatic, caring, loyal, loving, hard working, intelligent, creative, good communication can all be qualities you have or admire. Once you narrow down your values such as integrity, don't budge. Knowing what is right and what is wrong in your own heart is the first step to becoming and staying confident, holding true to your own beliefs.

Saying "I love you" to yourself and really meaning it. Everyday. Once someone truly loves themselves they start taking better care of their health, nutrition, appearance etc. They nurture themselves as they would a loved one or best friend. Loving yourself means no one else can tell you that your not good enough, or that you don't deserve fair and equal treatment. This kind of confidence means new opportunities will begin to come your way, realizing your worth is a magical thing.

Can I trust you? Are you warm and welcoming? These are the two questions people ask themselves upon meeting new people. Confidence along with a welcoming and friendly demeanour directly correlates into respect. Feminism is not dead, the name may have changed, some may argue it is too "aggressive" but all this talk on a dead subject? Lets be serious.

1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. 54,000 mothers lose their jobs each year to maternity leave. 1 in 3 women will be assaulted by a domestic partner in her lifetime. The pay gap in Canada is a little of $8,000 each year between men and women. If feminism is dead, it clearly shouldn't be.

If education is power and confidence is key than women may be on the right track with more women successfully completing college and university each year than men. Not that men shouldn't have an education, but it is nice to see the evolution of society blossoming as women become more confident, relevant and irreplaceable in the workforce.

Self esteem workshops and classes can be found at local health centres, online or at certain colleges around the country. One on one counselling or group therapy may also help. Asking for help is a sign of great strength and true strength comes in the ability to be vulnerable. Women are strong, women are powerful. Women should be nothing less than confident and proud of how far we have come and how far we are going.


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    • yecall profile image


      2 years ago from California

      Oh I so agree. What women really want is safety and prosperity and opportunities for themselves and their families. We can achieve this!

    • limpet profile image

      Ian Stuart Robertson 

      2 years ago from London England

      Here in 'merrie olde England' we have inherited something based on a class system where each locale was run by the local Lord & Lady of the manor and the populace did all the work supposedly for protection of life and property. Of course after a few revolts, a civil war and some Acts of Parliament we became a bit more equal but a divide still exists with certain professions,colleges and clubs. In the 1950's trainee nurses had the strictest of regimes about on a par as army recruits. The nurses needed to ask the hospital chiefs for permission to get married and were tried to be talked out of it. BUT! It was a good health care system and those ladies in retirement if still living are of the highest character. Hope that covers as a start regarding confidence and equality, for now.

    • Michaela Osiecki profile image


      2 years ago from USA

      This is a good message, but it's not always gonna have positive results. Women who are assertive, confident, and have high self-esteem are often looked upon negatively in the workplace and especially by men, who will use the labels bossy, arrogant, or vain to try and tear those qualities in us down. And often-times, it'll work. A woman who's too 'bossy' might get overlooked for a promotion while her 'assertive' male counterpart gets the job. This still happens all the time, unfortunately.

    • carleelloyd profile imageAUTHOR

      Carlee Lloyd 

      2 years ago

      Yes, a male's perspective is appreciated, men and women see gender equality differently and it is only right to look at both sides.

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      Ian Stuart Robertson 

      2 years ago from London England

      I've commented on the topic quite often on the many hub pages over the last 20 months and when i review them at a later stage i think with regret 'did i write that'! So i shall consolidate my real thoughts with a fresh start providing that a male perspective is appreciated.


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