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3 Super Effective Proven Tactics to Deal with Unfair Treatment and Decisions

Updated on March 8, 2015
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Ms. Vincent is an M.B.A graduate, Business Consultant and health, wellness & natural healing enthusiast, who reads a lot on those subjects.

Can Another Human Being Really Decide Your Fate?

It's pathetic really!!! - To see people trying to 'play God' with your life. They love being in control of whether you get a particular job/contract, get to keep your job, get a promotion/award, get a raise of pay, get to go on vacation leave, get to go on study leave, get a loan, get a fair trial/judgment...and the list goes on and on.

All the time they are 'playing God' with these 'power cards', I wonder if they ever stop to think that in that very moment they can lose their privileged position or just drop dead! Then all of their plans and 'power' pronouncements will come to nothing, like that rich fool in the Holy Bible to whom God said, "You fool! This very night you will have to give up your life" (Luke 12:20).

This is absolutely no joke since I can personally tell you about the fate of 2 people who were involved in unfair decisions in my case.

In the first case, I went into a company and had no compassion from someone with respect to some overdue payments I had accumulated as a result of my unemployment situation. About 2 months later, I called the institution asking to speak with the person and was told that they had died. I was so shocked I asked "How do you mean X died?"

In the second case, I was employed with an organization and worked alongside someone who kept undermining everything I did and sullying my name with a very powerful superior. I eventually parted ways with that organization and within 1 year that individual was no longer in that privileged position.

I cannot tell you the countless other times in my life that people have tried to 'play God' with my life. When I was younger, I used to be so upset by the unfairness of it all. However, over the years my strengthened relationship with God and the wisdom in my Dad's soothingly wise words which he uttered to me in patois, meaning "What is yours, is yours!" when translated in English, have steadied my heart and provided me with the necessary grounding to wait on God to do my fighting for me.

In this article, I will be sharing with you 3 proven strategies that I have successfully employed in my own life to effectively treat with unfair decisions and treatment.

I will show you how you can use these same strategies to effectively deal with whatever unfair decision has been made with respect to you or whatever unfair treatment that you have suffered (job, promotion, contract, award, salary increase, court judgment, and more). Whatever it is that belongs to you and you are being denied, be assured that it will eventually find its way to the rightful owner - YOU!

Like a skilled chess player, however, you need to make wise countermoves with perfect timing that will allow you to bypass or eliminate your nemesis and open up new and even better opportunities before you.

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Generous Justice: How God's Grace Makes Us Just
Generous Justice: How God's Grace Makes Us Just

There is a clamour for justice in all walks of life and in every single part of the world! Unfortunately, what many people never grasp is that:1.Justice cannot be achieved with injustice.2.Justice starts with YOU not them. If you are unjust to others, no matter how seemingly small, you contribute to injustice in our world. This book is bible-based and New York Times Bestselling Author, Timothy Keller, explores and shows us how each and every one of us can lead and live a life of justice empowered by an experience of God’s grace.

 

YOUR Unfair Decisions/ Unfair Treatment Experience

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Countermove No. 1 - Learn, Practice & Perfect the Art of Patience!

Practicing Patience
Practicing Patience | Source

Countermove No. 1 - Learn Practice & Perfect the Art of Patience!

Many of you may be familiar with the proverbial saying, “The longest rope has an end!” To break it down, it just means that whatever unpleasant thing is happening in your life right now or whatever unfair situation you are currently experiencing must come to an end sooner or later.

Maybe whatever is being done to you by this ‘acting God’ in your life has been going on for quite a while, so much so that you are beginning to feel that you cannot stomach it any longer. Maybe you’ve been continuously passed up for a promotion that even a blind person can see you deserve, or a much less competent person was given a job/position/contract for which you were clearly the best candidate, or you were dismissed for no substantial reason from your job, or you did not get a salary increase because of a clearly unfair performance appraisal or you did not receive a fair trial or get a fair judgment or compensation.

Many times the "Do Nothing!" approach works best because, like Shylock in William Shakespeare’s 'Merchant of Venice', when we try to exact justice ourselves it is often difficult for us to take exactly that one pound of flesh in revenge in order to satisfy our clamour for justice. Our justice is no comparison with God’s justice! What is also commonly referred to as the ‘Law of Karma’. When God delivers justice it is ALWAYS perfect!

Patience is indeed a virtue! And while we always want justice to be served quickly for injustices we have suffered, it sometimes takes longer than we expect - weeks, months, even years!

There’s a proverbial saying in the Caribbean, "Ants go bring news!" And by golly, in my own personal experience, those sweet ants always bring the juicy news of my vindication served up perfectly by God’s natural 'Law of Karma'. In one instance, I waited for as long as 4 years to receive the news of my vindication while praying and pouring my heart out to God.

Whether it is one individual or a group of persons who is being unjust to you, my own experience has shown that one or more of the following things often happen to vindicate you and/or give you what is rightfully yours:

  1. That individual or someone in the group will eventually be unable to stomach the injustice being perpetuated and will be forced to speak out and or give you justice.
  2. The person(s) will be removed from the position in the natural course of events, by force, by illness or by death.
  3. The person chosen over you for the job/promotion/contract will mess up leaving no doubt in the mind of your nemesis about what an inept and lousy decision he/she made.

At this point, I can hear some of you saying but what does it matter, because he/she still got paid and I am still without the job, promotion, contract, fair judgment or extra income. Well this is where your next chess move comes in. See countermove number 2 below.

Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living
Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living

Practicing the simple, but often difficult-to-acquire, virtue of patience in every area of our life undoubtedly leads to a more peaceful life, less stress and less illnesses. In this book, Allan Lokos uses his accumulated years of experience as a Buddhist practitioner and spiritual teacher to show us how we can cultivate greater patience in our lives and reap the resultant rewards.

 

Countermove No. 2 - Focus Your Anger About the Injustice on Learning a New Skill &/or Perfecting an Existing Skill!

21st Century Learning Skills - Improving/Expanding Your Skills Sets
21st Century Learning Skills - Improving/Expanding Your Skills Sets | Source

Countermove No. 2 – Focus Your Anger About the Injustice on Learning a New Skill &/or Perfecting an Existing Skill!

No matter how much you know that things will eventually work together for good for you, you are human, so it is natural that you will be angry about the blatant injustice.

One of the things that has worked each and every time for me is focusing all of that angry energy into improving myself. So I put all my energies into either learning a new skill or I improve on an existing skill by delving deeper into a specific area that I had been meaning to look at but couldn’t seem to find the time to do.

There is a dual-purpose behind this counter move. You would be:

1. Refocusing your energy towards a positive purpose thereby keeping you from wasting time ‘crying over spilled milk’, so to speak, because the decision has already been made or judgment given and there is nothing that you can do at that point to reverse it.

2. Reskilling yourself and/or amplifying your skill sets thereby enabling you to grasp other opportunities that will come your way in the future.

This is no light strategy because “Success always comes when preparation meets opportunity” (Henry Hartman). So you will be preparing yourself for success with another job/promotion/contract/opportunity through your new and/or improved skill sets.

Be reminded that loss of the current opportunity may just lead you into a new and better opportunity totally unrelated to what you were doing before.

Rapid Learning: How to engage your natural ability to learn anything easily and quickly (Study guide, Study skills, Memory improvement, Speed Reading Book 1)
Rapid Learning: How to engage your natural ability to learn anything easily and quickly (Study guide, Study skills, Memory improvement, Speed Reading Book 1)

Many people use age, circumstances or lack of money as an excuse for not learning new skills. None of these, or any other excuse that you can come up with, is a valid one.We are all blessed with a natural ability to learn easily AND quickly. The thing is that we are more naturally inclined to learn things that we are interested in.In this kindle eBook, which you can quickly download and read on your Mac, PC, smart phone, tablet or Kindle device, you will learn some special skills that will enable you to quickly and easily learn anything.

 

Countermove No. 3 - Proceed As Normal & Never Hold Back!

Persistence - Keep Doing Your Best
Persistence - Keep Doing Your Best | Source

Countermove No. 3 - Proceed As Normal & Never Hold Back!

In anger and very much hurt over the injustice meted out to them, many people stop performing at their best and hold back as a form of payback to the person, persons or organization that is being unjust to them.

It may seem at first that you are ‘getting back’ at them and in some small measure receiving some justice but I assure you that the person most affected by this behavior is YOU!

In the face of injustice, although difficult, I urge you to continue performing at your very best. Not only does it make you the 'bigger' person but it ensures that the quality of your work or output is never compromised. You see, life is such that you have to be at your best at all times because it may just happen that your sub-par performance/output during those angry times is what you are judged by when another opportunity comes along.

Do not, for one second, think that because you move to another place or job or do something else that’s totally different that you will never again encounter injustice. As long as we live among people, you have to realize that you will always encounter frightened, insecure, small-minded people who think that the ‘pie is not big enough for everyone’, that you already have too much X, that you can’t have Y more than them, etc.

Since such persons have no clue about the limitlessness of the options and opportunities available to us in life, they think that more for you means less for them. You can only pity them really and move on with your life. Sure you will encounter some hardship as you make the transition but I PROMISE YOU that you will be in a better position thereafter if you diligently follow these 3 countermoves that I have shared with you here from my very own personal experience. I have also been privy to the stories of others who have had similar experiences to mine.

I personally want to thank all of the people who have denied me things, made unfair decisions and meted out unfair treatment, placed stumbling blocks in my way and maliciously tarnished my name! WHY? Because on each and every occasion, my God has blessed me abundantly more and beyond my wildest dreams in compensation for their human injustice to me.

My final message to you: JUSTICE SEEMINGLY DELAYED IS NOT JUSTICE DENIED! I say seemly because God's timing is always perfect.

The Success Principles(TM): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be
The Success Principles(TM): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

Jack Canfield knows about turning one’s life around to be a resounding success. In this book, he “spells out the 64 timeless principles used by successful men and women throughout history.” Some of them may seem obvious to you but then you would have to earnestly ask yourself, “Am I doing these things consistently?” So I suggest that you purchase this book, read about the principles, practice them and keep reminding yourself by re-reading them periodically.Success is really dependent on YOU not the things that people deny you or the injustices that you suffer!

 

YOUR Unfair Decision/Treatment Skill Level

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      Heidi Vincent 2 years ago from GRENADA

      I am so sorry to hear about this problem that you are experiencing with your pension fund. Unfortunately, our society is becoming more and more neglectful of pensioners, forgetting the contributions that they have made in the past that have contributed to improvement in the society. I agree that you need to offer up this situation to God in prayer. He did not say that we can come to Him for some things. We can be sure that if we approach Him for help, that He will always help and work things together for our good. I wish you a speedy and fair resolution to your pension fund problem, David! Thanks for visiting and have a very blessed week!

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      David Edward Lynch 2 years ago from Port Elizabeth, South Africa

      Some good advice here, I'm experiencing problems with my pension fund and although something is gradually being done about it by disgruntled pensioners I have forgotten to pray very much about it.

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      Heidi Vincent 2 years ago from GRENADA

      Thanks Rhonda! I'm happy to see you. I can well relate to your anger, which is why I took a break, as I explained to you some time ago. Your stubbornness WILL pay off and you may be surprised to know that you are already practicing the art of patience :) Thanks for visiting and have a fabulous weekend!

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      Rhonda Lytle 2 years ago from Deep in the heart of Dixie

      I'm so glad I came to read this again. I've been very angry lately about all the net changes outside my control that are beyond unjust. While I still do my best out of personal stubbornness more than anything else, this reminds me I really have to work on the patience part. I know you are right but it doesn't make it easier.

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      Thank you for taking the time to read through my article Ron and your lovely compliments. Have a wonderful weekend and a blessed week ahead!

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      Ronald E Franklin 3 years ago from Mechanicsburg, PA

      All of your points are great. Patience is indeed a virtue. And the anger that injustice arouses should be turned into energy to improve or advance. Most of all, I really like #3. Keep moving forward! Don't allow anger or frustration to deflect you or hold you back. Good article!

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      Glad you liked it smine27. Thanks for visiting and have a blessed week.

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      Shinichi Mine 3 years ago from Tokyo, Japan

      I love the advice written here.

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      June Campbell 3 years ago from North Vancouver, BC, Canada

      Good points you make. The truth is, we have no control over how people treat us (well, not generally), but we have the ability to control how it affects us emotionally and psychologically, and how we choose to live the rest of our lives.

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      Denise McGill 3 years ago from Fresno CA

      Heidi, this is some of the best advice I have ever read. I loved all of it and absolutely agree. Sometimes it seems that justice is not done at all but time shows differently. I appreciate the reminders. You remember me as DeniseMcGill from Squidoo? Now I am Paintdrips. Glad to see you here!

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      Merry Citarella 3 years ago from Oregon's Southern Coast

      Just had to stop by to say hi and tell you it looks great! Nicely done!

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      @Lorelei Cohen: Thank you so very much for your courage in sharing this very personal injustice to you. I am really thrilled that you found your way out since the reality that many women do not and in many cases end up dead by the hands of their abusive spouse. I am also very happy that you found something positive - your writing - to channel your hurt. You are quite right about it taking only 1 person to bring change. Thanks for visiting, have a very blessed week and I wish you perfect peace in your relationships!

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      Yes yes and yes you have hit this character trait bang on the nail head. An injustice came to me in the form of a violent ex-husband who refused to let me go. It took a long time but I found my way out of the abuse and I have not looked back since. I feel that through my writing I can now help other people who may have lost their way, or at least I hope, to help even one person would be okay. It only takes one person to change the world in a more positive way then it flows out like a tidal wave.

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      @Rhonda Lytle: Thanks poetvix. I did take me a while to get there and I have my God and my Dad to thank immensely for that. Thanks for visiting and have a very blessed week!

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      Rhonda Lytle 3 years ago from Deep in the heart of Dixie

      Sage advice on something we all must deal with. I admire your attitude.

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      @Facleu: Glad you liked it Facleu. Thanks for visiting and have a blessed week!

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      Facundo 3 years ago

      Nice lens!

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      Heidi Vincent 3 years ago from GRENADA

      @Merrci: You're welcome, Merrci! Glad you liked them. Thanks for visiting and have a blessed week!

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      Merry Citarella 3 years ago from Oregon's Southern Coast

      Good points for all, FreshStart. Thanks for putting this together.