3 Super Effective Proven Tactics to Deal with Unfair Treatment and Decisions
Can Another Human Being Really Decide Your Fate?
It's pathetic really!!! - To see people trying to 'play God' with your life. They love being in control of whether you get a particular job/contract, get to keep your job, get a promotion/award, get a raise of pay, get to go on vacation leave, get to go on study leave, get a loan, get a fair trial/judgment...and the list goes on and on.
All the time they are 'playing God' with these 'power cards', I wonder if they ever stop to think that in that very moment they can lose their privileged position or just drop dead! Then all of their plans and 'power' pronouncements will come to nothing, like that rich fool in the Holy Bible to whom God said, "You fool! This very night you will have to give up your life" (Luke 12:20).
This is absolutely no joke since I can personally tell you about the fate of 2 people who were involved in unfair decisions in my case.
In the first case, I went into a company and had no compassion from someone with respect to some overdue payments I had accumulated as a result of my unemployment situation. About 2 months later, I called the institution asking to speak with the person and was told that they had died. I was so shocked I asked "How do you mean X died?"
In the second case, I was employed with an organization and worked alongside someone who kept undermining everything I did and sullying my name with a very powerful superior. I eventually parted ways with that organization and within 1 year that individual was no longer in that privileged position.
I cannot tell you the countless other times in my life that people have tried to 'play God' with my life. When I was younger, I used to be so upset by the unfairness of it all. However, over the years my strengthened relationship with God and the wisdom in my Dad's soothingly wise words which he uttered to me in patois, meaning "What is yours, is yours!" when translated in English, have steadied my heart and provided me with the necessary grounding to wait on God to do my fighting for me.
In this article, I will be sharing with you 3 proven strategies that I have successfully employed in my own life to effectively treat with unfair decisions and treatment.
I will show you how you can use these same strategies to effectively deal with whatever unfair decision has been made with respect to you or whatever unfair treatment that you have suffered (job, promotion, contract, award, salary increase, court judgment, and more). Whatever it is that belongs to you and you are being denied, be assured that it will eventually find its way to the rightful owner - YOU!
Like a skilled chess player, however, you need to make wise countermoves with perfect timing that will allow you to bypass or eliminate your nemesis and open up new and even better opportunities before you.
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YOUR Unfair Decisions/ Unfair Treatment Experience
Where have you had your worst experience of injustice as a result of an unfair decision or unfair treatment?
Countermove No. 1 - Learn, Practice & Perfect the Art of Patience!
Countermove No. 1 - Learn Practice & Perfect the Art of Patience!
Many of you may be familiar with the proverbial saying, “The longest rope has an end!” To break it down, it just means that whatever unpleasant thing is happening in your life right now or whatever unfair situation you are currently experiencing must come to an end sooner or later.
Maybe whatever is being done to you by this ‘acting God’ in your life has been going on for quite a while, so much so that you are beginning to feel that you cannot stomach it any longer. Maybe you’ve been continuously passed up for a promotion that even a blind person can see you deserve, or a much less competent person was given a job/position/contract for which you were clearly the best candidate, or you were dismissed for no substantial reason from your job, or you did not get a salary increase because of a clearly unfair performance appraisal or you did not receive a fair trial or get a fair judgment or compensation.
Many times the "Do Nothing!" approach works best because, like Shylock in William Shakespeare’s 'Merchant of Venice', when we try to exact justice ourselves it is often difficult for us to take exactly that one pound of flesh in revenge in order to satisfy our clamour for justice. Our justice is no comparison with God’s justice! What is also commonly referred to as the ‘Law of Karma’. When God delivers justice it is ALWAYS perfect!
Patience is indeed a virtue! And while we always want justice to be served quickly for injustices we have suffered, it sometimes takes longer than we expect - weeks, months, even years!
There’s a proverbial saying in the Caribbean, "Ants go bring news!" And by golly, in my own personal experience, those sweet ants always bring the juicy news of my vindication served up perfectly by God’s natural 'Law of Karma'. In one instance, I waited for as long as 4 years to receive the news of my vindication while praying and pouring my heart out to God.
Whether it is one individual or a group of persons who is being unjust to you, my own experience has shown that one or more of the following things often happen to vindicate you and/or give you what is rightfully yours:
- That individual or someone in the group will eventually be unable to stomach the injustice being perpetuated and will be forced to speak out and or give you justice.
- The person(s) will be removed from the position in the natural course of events, by force, by illness or by death.
- The person chosen over you for the job/promotion/contract will mess up leaving no doubt in the mind of your nemesis about what an inept and lousy decision he/she made.
At this point, I can hear some of you saying but what does it matter, because he/she still got paid and I am still without the job, promotion, contract, fair judgment or extra income. Well this is where your next chess move comes in. See countermove number 2 below.
Countermove No. 2 - Focus Your Anger About the Injustice on Learning a New Skill &/or Perfecting an Existing Skill!
Countermove No. 2 – Focus Your Anger About the Injustice on Learning a New Skill &/or Perfecting an Existing Skill!
No matter how much you know that things will eventually work together for good for you, you are human, so it is natural that you will be angry about the blatant injustice.
One of the things that has worked each and every time for me is focusing all of that angry energy into improving myself. So I put all my energies into either learning a new skill or I improve on an existing skill by delving deeper into a specific area that I had been meaning to look at but couldn’t seem to find the time to do.
There is a dual-purpose behind this counter move. You would be:
1. Refocusing your energy towards a positive purpose thereby keeping you from wasting time ‘crying over spilled milk’, so to speak, because the decision has already been made or judgment given and there is nothing that you can do at that point to reverse it.
2. Reskilling yourself and/or amplifying your skill sets thereby enabling you to grasp other opportunities that will come your way in the future.
This is no light strategy because “Success always comes when preparation meets opportunity” (Henry Hartman). So you will be preparing yourself for success with another job/promotion/contract/opportunity through your new and/or improved skill sets.
Be reminded that loss of the current opportunity may just lead you into a new and better opportunity totally unrelated to what you were doing before.
Countermove No. 3 - Proceed As Normal & Never Hold Back!
Countermove No. 3 - Proceed As Normal & Never Hold Back!
In anger and very much hurt over the injustice meted out to them, many people stop performing at their best and hold back as a form of payback to the person, persons or organization that is being unjust to them.
It may seem at first that you are ‘getting back’ at them and in some small measure receiving some justice but I assure you that the person most affected by this behavior is YOU!
In the face of injustice, although difficult, I urge you to continue performing at your very best. Not only does it make you the 'bigger' person but it ensures that the quality of your work or output is never compromised. You see, life is such that you have to be at your best at all times because it may just happen that your sub-par performance/output during those angry times is what you are judged by when another opportunity comes along.
Do not, for one second, think that because you move to another place or job or do something else that’s totally different that you will never again encounter injustice. As long as we live among people, you have to realize that you will always encounter frightened, insecure, small-minded people who think that the ‘pie is not big enough for everyone’, that you already have too much X, that you can’t have Y more than them, etc.
Since such persons have no clue about the limitlessness of the options and opportunities available to us in life, they think that more for you means less for them. You can only pity them really and move on with your life. Sure you will encounter some hardship as you make the transition but I PROMISE YOU that you will be in a better position thereafter if you diligently follow these 3 countermoves that I have shared with you here from my very own personal experience. I have also been privy to the stories of others who have had similar experiences to mine.
I personally want to thank all of the people who have denied me things, made unfair decisions and meted out unfair treatment, placed stumbling blocks in my way and maliciously tarnished my name! WHY? Because on each and every occasion, my God has blessed me abundantly more and beyond my wildest dreams in compensation for their human injustice to me.
My final message to you: JUSTICE SEEMINGLY DELAYED IS NOT JUSTICE DENIED! I say seemly because God's timing is always perfect.
YOUR Unfair Decision/Treatment Skill Level
How SKILLED are YOU at Dealing with Unfair Decisions/Treatment?
© 2014 Heidi Vincent