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Honour - made by Man
Being born into a poor family, and one that belongs to a third world country, is more than just a curse for a girl. It does not only mean losing your right to voice, it demands sacrifice and punishment if any desire may be wished for.
Rasheeda had once told me that her brother was an alcoholic, and the reason for his addiction was the loss of his girl friend, and so he was playing the role of being a Bollywood Devdas, and this was acceptable, as no one ever pointed a finger at him. He was treated with respect at home and outside.
Recalling what her brother does and how he is getting a way out while she is being beaten for talking to a boy did more than boil my blood.
I at first wanted to arrest the brother, but i also wanted to arrest the mother. Hitting reality i knew that if i start doing that, it will not solve the problem, as the problem does not lie in the physicality, it is the mentality, and that cannot be corrected behind bars.
Society of a third world country destroys lives with ridiculous boundaries that men have made for women, forgetting that they too are a part of this society. The surprising part of this is how women have accepted these rules and do exactly as dictated by men.
If a girl walks out of her house and sits with a boy, she will be locked away in her house and mind you not for a prince to come and save her, instead be forced into a marriage with someone who will keep her locked as well. Rasheeda underwent the same climax, she was married off to someone else. While her brother, who is an alcoholic and has had many relationships, is still a man who can do as his heart desires.
The roots of this injustice lie in the understanding of the word "Honour", it is not fair that a misunderstood word holds such importance only when concerning a girl. What is with the XX chromosome that turns "to be regarded with respect" to "brings disgrace if spoken to the opposite gender out of will".
The correct definition of honour cannot be hammered into the society's head, so something much more is required.
Women need to understand that all these rules are man made, and solely for the purpose of keeping women beneath.
Women need to understand that they have the letters "M-E-N" in women, which makes them rule makers as well and they need to understand that no society can exist with only men, it needs both the genders and so equal respect, equal rights.
It is high time women fight and follow what they believe in instead of what they are told to do.
Women need to break their chains and free their wings and get the honour they deserve.