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Honour - made by Man

Updated on January 27, 2017

Being born into a poor family, and one that belongs to a third world country, is more than just a curse for a girl. It does not only mean losing your right to voice, it demands sacrifice and punishment if any desire may be wished for.

Honour is not in sealing lips.
Honour is not in sealing lips. | Source

Rasheeda had once told me that her brother was an alcoholic, and the reason for his addiction was the loss of his girl friend, and so he was playing the role of being a Bollywood Devdas, and this was acceptable, as no one ever pointed a finger at him. He was treated with respect at home and outside.

Recalling what her brother does and how he is getting a way out while she is being beaten for talking to a boy did more than boil my blood.

I at first wanted to arrest the brother, but i also wanted to arrest the mother. Hitting reality i knew that if i start doing that, it will not solve the problem, as the problem does not lie in the physicality, it is the mentality, and that cannot be corrected behind bars.

Society of a third world country destroys lives with ridiculous boundaries that men have made for women, forgetting that they too are a part of this society. The surprising part of this is how women have accepted these rules and do exactly as dictated by men.

If a girl walks out of her house and sits with a boy, she will be locked away in her house and mind you not for a prince to come and save her, instead be forced into a marriage with someone who will keep her locked as well. Rasheeda underwent the same climax, she was married off to someone else. While her brother, who is an alcoholic and has had many relationships, is still a man who can do as his heart desires.

The roots of this injustice lie in the understanding of the word "Honour", it is not fair that a misunderstood word holds such importance only when concerning a girl. What is with the XX chromosome that turns "to be regarded with respect" to "brings disgrace if spoken to the opposite gender out of will".

The correct definition of honour cannot be hammered into the society's head, so something much more is required.

Women need to understand that all these rules are man made, and solely for the purpose of keeping women beneath.

Women need to understand that they have the letters "M-E-N" in women, which makes them rule makers as well and they need to understand that no society can exist with only men, it needs both the genders and so equal respect, equal rights.

It is high time women fight and follow what they believe in instead of what they are told to do.

Women need to break their chains and free their wings and get the honour they deserve.

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      Kenneth Avery 4 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Sadia,

      Very professional, touching, as well as filled with honest emotion.

      Thank you so much for the wonderful talent that you possess.

      Honored.

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      FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA

      While I feel fortunate to live in the US and demand my rights as an equal, it makes me sad that women in other parts of the world endure this suffering merely for being women. Ultimately, I think such hateful men fear women's life giving capacity. An honorable man reveres it. I wish we knew a variety of ways to help our sisters.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 6 months ago from The Caribbean

      Sadia, I totally agree with you that the way these women are treated is dishonourable. I long with you for the day when your women can "break their chains and free their wings and get the honour they deserve." Thanks for your article.

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      teaches12345 6 months ago

      Such a sad reflection here on women and honor. I too hope one day there will be a fair path for women in this world.

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      Gollu GameZalot 6 months ago from Pakistan

      i completely agree with you, is a very long and a very hard way ahead, but it needs an end.

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      RoadMonkey 6 months ago

      Women have always been treated as possessions down the ages by men and still are, even in those countries where there is supposed to be equal rights. It can be hard to fight for your rights, it demands sacrifice and that can be difficult. Your story shows what a long way there still is to go.

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      mabelhenry 6 months ago from Harrisburlg, Pennsylvania

      Hi Sadia:

      Thanks for sharing your story, I am truly sorry for your pain. With respect to honor, I only know and understand "One" to be Honorable, and who gives honor, that is and always will be the Creator of the Universe, woman is His design and only He is capable of extending honor to her. As your story indicates the honor that man knows he keeps for himself, instead of covering a woman with honor, he uncovers.

      Webster's Dictionary defines honor as:

      HONOR, noun on'or. [Latin honor honos.] 1. The esteem due or paid to worth; high estimation. 2. A testimony of esteem; any expression of respect or of high estimation by words or actions;3. Dignity; exalted rank or place; distinction. In doing a good thing, there is both honor and pleasure. 4. Reverence; veneration; or any act by which reverence and submission are expressed, as worship paid to the Supreme Being.

      I encourage you to look up far above the scope of man or woman and seek who created it all. The Creator is honorable He creates honor in us.

      Who knows better than God how to make the barren sing? No one.

      Isaiah 54 - Verses 5-8

      For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is his name; and thy redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.

      For the Lord hath called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a wife of youth, when thou wast refused, saith thy God.

      For a moment have I forsaken thee; but with great mercies will I gather thee.

      In a little wrath I hid my face from thee for a moment; but with everlasting kindness will I have mercy on thee, saith the Lord thy redeemer.

      If you are a woman living here on planet earth. I know that you know what it is like to be forsaken in many ways by others. The single mother raising children alone knows what being forsaken entails. It is too prevalent to cover the entire scope of being forsaken at one time, or the other. But do you know what it is like? The result of being forsaken leads to grief, sorrow and most women know that grief and sorrow also. But, surely He has borne our grief and carried our sorrow. Jesus takes grief and sorrow like no other. The emotional and mental yokes are broken and destroyed and courage and fortitude to stand are given.

      This is a pivotal point to see, the Lord speaking directly and specifically to womanhood. It is a point to capture, and not let go; in that the Bible is primarily written to and by men. Yet, here is God at this place and He is speaking to womanhood, not merely to the barren, and widow. He is also speaking to the forsaken and grieved in spirit or heart. His message is that He has called you as a woman, forsaken and grieved in spirit. This verse qualified that you are called by God, as a woman and not a man.

      Be encouraged.

      Happy Womanhood

      You are a mother, a daughter, and an aunt

      A niece, a cousin,

      You are even great and grand to womanhood.

      You are royal,

      You are regal

      You are a queen.

      Stay kind, and be the peace you deserve

      This greeting is to wish you a blessed womanhood.