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How to Avoid Getting A Bad Advice

Updated on July 2, 2017


Sometimes the advice people can give us can bring down the whole house if care is not taken. This is usually because getting a good advice is as simple as getting a bad one too. In fact, one of my crazy friends even told me that there is nothing like good or bad advice. She said it all depends on how one handles the whole thing. Don’t blame her. Remember, I told you she’s crazy though sensible?


You really have to be careful if you want to get some advice because getting a good advice is as simple as getting a bad one as it could all happen at the same time. Getting a candid advice is something we all want but we still know that you sometimes it is so hard to get.


But then the problem with giving and getting advices is that it doesn’t solely depend on one side.


There are many reasons why we might not be able to get the right advice but in this piece, I intend to make things a whole lot easier or simplified by pointing out those factors that I believe anybody seeking serious advice should consider so as to avoid getting a wrong advice.


Here they are –


Is he well-informed?

You have to know this fact before you act on the advice this person is giving you. How well-informed or knowledgeable is s/he in this field. Does s/he have any personal experience? These types of questions will really help you in knowing how capable your advisor is and how worthy whatever s/he is telling you is.


You should be ready with your own questions to help you in actually determining this person’s depth of knowledge and/or experience.


This will help you in determining whether you are dealing with someone whose advice will really help or just a charlatan.


Is he biased?

One of the hardest things for people to do is to be free from bias. There is always an atom of biasness in what we do. Such bias can always affect someone’s sense of judgment if care is not taken.


So for you to grab a sure working advice from this person or people, it will be in your best interest to first of all make sure there opinion will not be in any way affected by bias or their belief system.


For example, you don’t expect to get the best nutritional advice on proper proteins intake for the body from someone who is a hard core vegan!


Does he understand the situation? Does he really care?

Understanding is the key. Sometimes people feign their understanding with such affectedness which you might even mistake for their understanding of the whole situation but then you should also be aware that most people really know how to act and show concern i.e. shallow concern actually…


One nice way I will use to determine if the person advising me really understands the whole situation is to ask him or her repeat the whole story to me while I will be watching out for certain discrepancies that will confirm to me that s/he did not even get the gist in the first place.


One way in which I will also use to determine if this person really cares is to watch out later to see if s/he really comes back and asks me what happened. That way, I will know that s/he really has my concerns.


Is he using popular opinion?

Like I said before getting a candid advice is something we all want but we still know that you sometimes it is so hard to get. There are many people out there who can advice us but any sensible person will not just rush out to get advised simply because of the problems and dangers of popular opinion.


Popular opinion is always an easy way out as it does not involve much logical thinking or thoughts. It leads to generalization which can easily lead to false conclusions sometimes.


Everyone knows it is so, so what else do you want to know or hear? And with that dismissal, someone is pushed into making an irreparable mistake that may never be erased again in his/her life. The inherent problem is that many people are repeaters and so when you ask them for their opinions, they simply do what they do best which is to repeat what they have been told or what they have heard while forgetting that each person’s experience can actually be different.


So in your best interest, don’t just work with popular opinions. If you must use the popular opinion, make sure you are working with justified popular opinions.


Is he truthful?

One thing everybody, and even criminals, love is truthfulness. It is one nice way to build trust very fast. Once people know that you do say the truth, they will most likely seek your advice because they believe you will give them the whole truth.


On the other hand, known liars hardly get people to seek their advice except in the rare case where someone is seeking to make some deceitful moves.


So if you really want to get a good advice, you must first determine the type of person your advisor is so as to know what to believe in.


Get many other people’s opinion

For you to make a good decision, sometimes you just need to hear many views and opinions from several people as one man’s experience may not be adequate in your own situation.


This is one way of quelling the issue of popular opinion.


The only problem here is that if you are the type that is always indecisive, then you may have just opened yourself up for another round of confusion as you may end up NOT knowing what to do again.


But one way to curtail this effect is to first realize that not everybody is capable of advising someone. So you have to be careful in choosing your advisers.


Have you considered the consequences?

By considering the consequences, you should be able to determine for yourself whether you are getting a good advice or not because sometimes, the consequences of our actions may even be worse than the situation we really want to handle or control.


So in your quest of getting a sound advice, always make sure that you consider all the possible consequences of each and every action you are bound to make or take.


If you can get the person advising you to help you out on this one, you will surely improve your chances of getting a sound advice.


And the last but not the least…


Have you decided on what to do?

This is one thing I always remind anyone who is seeking for advice. This is simply because sometimes when we seek advice, it is not because we need it rather it is simply because we want to hear other people’s opinion or just seeking justification for our actions to come meaning that we must have already decided on what to do.


Deciding on what to do earlier on can be good, can be bad. But the reason why I think it is necessary is because no matter what happens, it is still going to be you that will experience the experience. No one else, not even your advisor.


So by deciding earlier on, it will make us to have a clearer view and judgment of the whole issue at hand giving us the ability to compare judgments or having another view to the whole thing leading to a good advice.


The only people I can think of who will have serious problem with this are those who are strictly stereotypical because they will always have that problem of having a hard time in bending over their rules...

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      Emmyboy 6 years ago from Nigeria

      Thank you so much Kiandra. Most times, popular opinion tend to misleading because it usually comes from generalization as against individualization.

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      KiandraRutledge 6 years ago from Nashville, TN

      I voted this up, I really enjoyed the article and it was VERY sensible. Especially the points about not following popular opinion, and making sure the person you're getting advice from someone who is well informed about your situation.

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