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Friends who helped me laugh again

Updated on November 7, 2014

Rough Times Didn't Get the Best of Me

Have you ever had a string of bad luck? Bad things that seem to happen all at once? I went through such a patch a few years back, but with the help of some awesome people, I got through it just fine. It's my gratitude for them that inspired this hub.

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Thank you Flower
Thank you Flower

Back when this Hub was a Lens, it won the Friendship Month Lens Contest! - Thanks to GypsyOwl for running a Fun competition!

Thanks for being there when I needed you . . .

Thanks to Lester and Esther, I was able to laugh again.....

Hello there!

Taking the time to take care of a friend in need is a noble thing.

Several years back I went through a "rough patch", when I was robbed, then my washer pipe broke and flooded my house, and I totaled my car.

My friend Lester took me shopping to replace some of the items that were stolen, and loaned me his vehicle while I was waiting on the insurance check.

Esther, another friend and co-worker, took up a collection at work and got my washer replaced.

I was touched so much more by their kindness than I was hurt by the robbery and mechanical breakdown.

It means more to me than any physical item could ever mean.

Esther at fundraising walk
Esther at fundraising walk

No Cash to Give?

Helping a friend is not always about money.

Here are some good ways to be helpful to a friend during a tough time:

1. Genuine Compliments: Noticing something nice about her and sharing it can make an otherwise stressful day a little brighter

2. Practice Active Listening: Let her talk about it. Active listening shows her you are there for her.

a. Keep eye contact, Lean forward

b. Keep an open posture - nod frequently to show her you understand

c. Mirror her expression and Clarify what you hear: "Sounds really challenging"

d. Keep focused on her: avoid personal distractions or other distractions from the environment

3. Offer Your Time: Can you run an errand or two for her? Maybe pick up a few groceries while you're there for your family already? Offer to wash a couple of loads of clothes or to cook dinner in her home. When someone is in crisis mode, every little thing is one more thing to add to the stress. Taking a little off her plate really lets her know how much you care.

4. It's Okay to Laugh: When times are tough, it's easy to forget how therapeutic laughter can be. Sometimes, life just calls for a little humor. See if you can find the humor in her situation and share it.

Could you take care of me?

Could you take care of me?
Could you take care of me?

Lester and his beautiful kids at recent Hondurus Medical Mission Trip

Lester and his beautiful kids at recent Hondurus Medical Mission Trip
Lester and his beautiful kids at recent Hondurus Medical Mission Trip

Pay it Forward - Generosity goes much further than your pocketbook

Thanks to my friends I don't have to go to the laundromat - But these guys have a good time anyway!

The art of giving - Might be a gift to yourself

My friend Lester loves his hot tub. This one's for him!

My friend Lester loves his hot tub. This one's for him!
My friend Lester loves his hot tub. This one's for him!

Things to do today


Pick up dry cleaning

Dog to vet

Give to charity


Help a friend


Pay it forward

To inspire and show gratitude - Where I find the love, I share it!

Starting this list out with a song gifted to his friends by Musician Mark Shepard

How do you pay it forward? - What are some really creative things you can do to help others?

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      6 years ago

      Inspiring lens! Glad to hear you had the love of friends to help you through the rough patch. Your story and this lens will probably help more people than you'll ever know!

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      6 years ago

      Paying it forward and gratitude! Yes and Yes! Lovely lens.

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      6 years ago

      Heartfelt and generous! Kudos to you :)

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      6 years ago

      I am so glad you got the help and support you needed when you most needed it :)

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      karen550 lm 

      9 years ago

      I read through your lens, then was reading the comments and realized your name is like mine...Karen Kay...great name. Anyway, thank you so much for this lens. Its is awesome. You are a diamond. All the best.

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      9 years ago

      Karen, your story made me smile, because you're proof that we can rise above hardship and tragedy with the help of a few good friends. You've created something special here. Thank you.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 

      9 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      Congratulations on being a first place winner in the International Friendship Month Contest

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      Kate Loving Shenk 

      9 years ago from Lancaster PA

      Congrats on winning the International Friendship Contest!! Happy to celebrate with you!!

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      Deb Bryan 

      9 years ago from Chico California

      Congratulations! This Lens won 1st Place in category in the International Friendship Month Lens Contest! Be sure to visit the contest lens and retrieve your badge. Prizes have also been posted and you will be contacted about retrieval of your prize. Brightest Blessings! Thank you for entering!

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      9 years ago

      Oh this is such a happy lens! I enjoyed every minute! and yes Paying It Forward is always a treasure!

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 

      9 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      I love Paying It Forward. Very beautiful, charitable lens. Lensrolled to My Friends lens.

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      Laurel Johnson 

      9 years ago from Washington KS

      PAY IT FORWARD is one of my favorite philosophies. This is a beautiful lens. Five and faves to you.

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      Kate Loving Shenk 

      9 years ago from Lancaster PA

      Great lens and happy you submitted it to the contest!!


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      Kathy McGraw 

      9 years ago from California

      Paying it foreward is one of life's treasures....nice to see that you believe the same.


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