Native American Teachings Of How To Respect Others
What Is Respect And How Do We Show Respect
Native American young people are taught by our Elders to respect Mother Earth, our families, our friends, our communities and all our relations. As I was growing up there were definite things that were appropriate ways to show respect and there were definite things that you did not do. What many people call common courtesy or etiquette.
In the recent past there has been
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Photo in Public Domain .a shift from emphasis on family and community to emphasis for what is best for the individual needs. As a result the individuals pleasure or gain becomes so important that respect for other individuals is set aside. This lenses is meant to be food for thought to help us check up on what we are doing and to remind us to teach our children and grandchildren about respect.
Who I Speak For
In no way do I want to imply that I am speaking for all Native Americans or for a certain tribe. This is what I was taught by my Choctaw Grandparents and Great Grandparents. Many of things I talk about are also from the teachings of Elders from other nations that I have met through my lifetime. What I learned I teach.
Book About the Choctaw
Here is a very good book that has become a collectors item and has been going up in the last few years. It was written my a man who walked among the Choctaw about the time of the Trail Of Tears.
This was written by someone who lived among the Choctaw in the 1800's. It is a good account of what life was like and who the Choctaw are.
What Happened To Respecting All People
As we travel around to elementary schools giving presentations I see some schools and teachers struggling to continue to teach respect of others and their property so there is still hope. Yet in other schools and teachers seem to have given up the battle and struggle to maintain order in their own schools.
We still pass on respect for others in our community
Photo In Public Domain.just as families in many cultures do. But more and more as I go into different public places I see an increasing lack of respect among younger generations.
Where has the respect gone
Do you think people are as respectful of each other as they used to be
Native American Teachings on Respect - Good Books To Learn More
They cannot learn respect unless someone who cares teaches them.
In our Native American families it is the Elders who teach the younger generations right ways of living. It is also important to those of us who are Elders to pass on what we have learned. With that in mind I decided to write this lens on respect as I was taught it. Hopefully it will help you teach others respect or give you food for thought about respect with in our societies.
I know that it is very important that I mention it is not only Native Americans who teach respect within their culture. I have run into many, many cultures and families that still do teach respect. I am writing this lenses not from a place of being better then any other culture but a place of sharing what we were taught hoping that it will help someone else. Ome.
You Can Teach Someone Respect No Matter What Their Age
This movie is an interesting journey from having a lack of respect to learning respect. It is one of my favorite moves and worth watching.
Ways To Show Respect
Here is a list of ways that I was taught how to show respect.
It is by no stretch of the imagination anywhere a complete list but is a place to start.
Dictionary meaning of respect: is to consider worthy of high regard :
1.) Most important is not interfering with others right to believe like they choose to believe.
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2. Never intrude on someone who is taking a quiet moment or hasn't indicated it is okay to approach them.
3. If you walk up to someone you do not speak until they acknowledge you especially when they are talking to someone else.
4. If two people are talking do not walk between them unless it is impossible to get around them and then always excuse yourself when you do.
5. When you are talking to someone do not stand where people have to walk between you to get around you. Step out of the way to stand and speak to someone.
6. Speak in a soft voice especially when around elders.
7. When someone else is speaking listen to what they are saying. Do not be busy thinking about what you are going to say next when others are talking.
8. Do not interrupt anyone when they are speaking especially an Elder. Most Elders I know will quit speaking or teaching if they keep getting interrupted.
9. If you do not want to listen to someone do not put yourself in a position where you have to listen to them.
10. When at a gathering where elders are present do not speak unless asked to.
11. When you have guest always great them with respect. Give them the best place to sleep, the best blankets to use, and the best food.
12. We two-leggeds (humans) are the only ones that are out of balance with Mother Earth. Always strive to keep your life in balance as that is where true peace comes from.
13. Everything on Mother Earth is our relatives. Treat them with respect. If we were not here the plants and animals would be better off. If the plants and animals were not here we would die and could not exist. Remember who needs who.
14. When you hurt someone you hurt yourself, when you respect someone you respect yourself.
15. No matter what color a two-legged (human) is they have there own beauty. A rainbow is not beautiful because it is one color. A rainbow is beautiful because it has many colors. No matter what color someone is or what they look like they carry their own beauty.
16. There is no one you cannot learn something from as long as you treat them with respect. We learn from the little child and from the Elder. No matter what season someone is on the circle of life we can learn from them.
17. Today is your yesterday and today is your tomorrow. You can only live now but how you live now affects your tomorrow.
18. Walk in a good way today and tomorrow will be good.
19. If you are reading this you were given the breathe of life today and that is a wonderful gift. Many did not wake up today. Be grateful for another walking on Mother Earth and breathing the breathe of life.
20. Spend time each day saying thank you for the ones in your life and what you have.
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