The Neighbour From Hell Lives Nextdoor
You live in a quiet, peaceful neighborhood. You enjoy the presence of the native birds in the trees and your block is planted to encourage them in. You also have a little dog and a couple of cats that make up your house family. That's fine as you live alone and the pleasure they give you is unsurpassed.
You have lived in this house for say 24 years, or thereabouts. You raised your family here and bit by bit you improved the garden from the hard baked clay and rocks that greeted you when you first arrived. Now it is a productive wonderful place to sit and enjoy the environment and to grow some lovely fresh fruit and vegetables in the back garden. Everything is great.
Great that is until 3 years ago when the neighbor from hell moved in next door. A skinny weedy woman of about 30 years of age with 2 small children who delights in telling you she is pregnant. You are shocked as you gaze over the ugly black tattoos down her arms and elsewhere. Her face is spiked with what appears to be diamond bits stuck on the end of skewers. There is even one in her tongue that tends to clash with that on her lip.
You try not to look away in disgust as you half heartedly listen to her news. But you are a generous soul and soon you are running in with fruit from your trees for the children. You offer to help her get her garden going, which looks as yours did when you first arrived. But she is shifty and you feel funny inside. "This is not someone I need in my life" the inner voice is telling you. Nonetheless you are a peaceful soul so you take part in a few conversations with her from time to time. After all you are neighbors.
Physical Bullying - Using Animals, Lights and Explosives to Terrorise
Barking Dogs And No Sleep
Soon after her moving in there are 2 dogs in the yard next door. They bark repeatedly all night under your window. Night after night you try to sleep. Finally you go in and knock on the door and ask politely if they can please keep the dog quiet.
You wonder why the noise is not disturbing them. Its quiet for a night or two and then it starts again. Finally one of the dogs is removed. That means just one dog barking occasionally during the night. You decide to put up with it rather than to ask again for the tenth or twelfth time for them to keep it quiet. Oh, there is suddenly a man living with her.
Then the dog starts digging under the fence. You pick it up and carry it to the neighbor's front door and politely hand it back. It's a nice dog and its obviously distressed about something. Week after week more holes under the fence more trips back with the dog. Then they try to fix the holes but the dog now is coming in under the front fence into your front yard and barking. You let the dog out into the street. It 2.30 a.m. This happens a few more times. By then you are fed up.
A letter comes from dog control asking if you are having trouble as other neighbors have reported it. You ignore the letter because you don't want to get her in trouble. One day you decide to talk to her about working together to fix the fence so that the dog can't get under it. She yells and screams abuse at you. You recoil with shock. Like its her dog and all you are doing is trying to help.
One night you are sound asleep and suddenly a massive explosion happens right outside your bedroom window. You jump out of bed thinking something has blown up in your house. Then you realise that it was a banger, a great big one, more like a bomb. It wasn't in your house but in the neighbor's back yard. Its 3 am and then you are awake for pretty much the remainder of the night.
A few nights later there is this strange green light moving across your ceiling while you are trying to sleep. You get out of bed and look in the neighbor's yard. Your window overlooks their back area. There she is happily sitting outside her backdoor working the laser. You wonder what is it all about?
A few night later you are woken again around 2am with a loud thud on your roof. You think cats and try to go back to sleep. Another night the thud is more intense and against the laundry door. Again you think cats and try to go back to sleep. A few night later a thud on the roof wakes you again. This continues over some months but never regular enough to catch her at it.
You Must Have Evidence
You Must Have Surveillance. If nothing else it will turn the bullying neighbours off a lot of their activity. That's why I have installed security cameras that catch their activity 24/7. It is also monitored by the Security Company who can inform the police if something that should be reported is going on.
Recently there are new sheds in their backyard and they are lined with foil so the police are interested as it looks like they are growing drugs. Hopefully they will eventually have to move and then peace will be restored.
The house has been raided several times and now the eldest son is in jail for holding up a supermarket with a knife. He is about 14 years old. The husband has recently got out of prison and is probably on parole. Without evidence, however, there is no way they can be caught out.
How Do You Respond to Barking Dogs? - Would you ask the neighbor to keep it quiet?
Would you Try to Stop It by Reporting it to Authorities?
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Dog Watch Recorder
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Bullying and Harassment
What is Bullying
The situation deteriorates rapidly from then on. One morning your emptied garbage bin is suddenly full again and your recycling bin is jammed packed with old toys, clothes, bags and so on, with her children s names on them. This is stuff that is not supposed to be in it. So you politely empty them out onto her front lawn and restore the recycle bin, which has not been emptied, to its rightful position.
Meanwhile the skinny weedy woman has bounced out of her house and is calling you all the names under the sun, You politely explain to her that toys and so on are not recyclable. Then she really lets go. Without repeating the conversation, which is bad enough but the oft repeated 'f' words and the 'old bitch;' name calling is too much to regurgitate.
This poor excuse for a lady is now threatening to drive you out of your home. She wants you dead and you don't know who she is connected to, according to her. She then threatens to harm your car, your animals, you and your home and everything else that she can think of. She tells you she will be the neighbor from hell so "what are you going to do about it" shoots out of her mouth like bullets.
Fed up with listening to her you go inside. You notice her through the window racing over to your recycling bin and spewing the contents over the road. You re-emerge and pick it up and restore it to the bin. Now you cop more 'f' words and name calling along with threats. You guard your bin for a while and then seek help from a neighbor. But he is not interested in getting involved.
The following night she crashes against the fence outside your bedroom window well after you have gone to sleep. She starts calling out the loud names along with the 'f' words. Then the man comes out and tries to restrain her. She races inside and locks him out. So he starts calling her to let him back in. You don't see what state of dress he is in but now its time to call the police.
They arrive and he is still calling out to her. They escort him away. the night then passes peacefully.
A few days later you enter the driveway getting ready to visit the grandchildren when she pops her head over the fence and starts screaming abuse. This time she accuses you of taking her cat. She is again threatening your life and that of your animals. Again she reminds you that she is the neighbor from hell and is going to damage your car and everything else. You call the police and they tell you to get an AVO so they can arrest her if she does anything else.
A few days after that your solar light in the front is kicked to pieces. You had it there so people could find their way to the path. Then your pot with plant is also destroyed.
Legal Help to Get Your Life in order
When your life turns upside down for any reason you need help to get back onto a level field. Here are some legal outlets that may help you. Check out their web sites for more information and don't be intimidated by what your neighbour is doing.
The best way to survive is to have your program running on track. Eliminate as much of the stress from your life as you can and talk to others, have visitors come to your home and get support from your family and friends. If you work then get security to watch your house while you are away from it and at other times when you are not alert to outsiders doing damage.
Be Informed to Stop Bullying
This might help you understand how to prevent harrassment of youself and others. It is good to be armed with knowledge.
How Would You Handle Being Abused? - What if your neighbour was a tyrant?
Would you take it or call the police?
You Have Your AVO
An AVO is an Apprehension Violence Order and it means that if the offender is in breach of it they can be arrested, charged and jailed. Suddenly you feel rather good about it all until the next incident occurs. That's when the blood pressure rises enormously.
You are on your own when the police refuse to do anything about the rocks thrown, the urine filled plastic bottle chucked at you by her children. the hose aimed at full pressure while you are working in your garden, and so on.
You get more and more frustrated until one day your prized pumpkin has disappeared over the fence. There is no one else who could have taken it but the police do nothing. They admire your corn and sympathise with you over the loss of the pumpkin. Later that day all the corn disappears. You contact them again. You can see where the skinny weed has jumped the fence and there is no way anyone else can access your garden. The neighbors at the back are older and there is a much higher color bond fence all around them, including her except for the much lower fence between her and you.
Two weeks later she enters again and removes all the remainder of your butternut pumpkins. You are furious and beside yourself with grief. You have spent months, during heavy drought and water restrictions to grow these as food for the winter. Now the garden is practically bare because along with taking the pumpkins and corn she has trampled over and destroyed other plants, such as the zucchinis.
So what can you now do? You contact the media, email all members of parliament. But the phone does not ring as not a soul responds. No one appears interested in the activities of someone who is driving you crazy, who is compromising your economic welfare and health. She is set on fulfilling her goal of forcing you to move or die.
Security For Your Home
How do you watch your home and assets 24/7. You can't! So the only thing you can do is to install cameras and alarms that will at least turn the bully around as she thinks about the consquences of her actions.
What Would You Do in This Situation? - Do you retaliate and do things to hurt her?
Or do you move?
A Funny Take on The Neighbour from Hell - Some Light Relief
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