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Neighbour Bullying

Updated on August 23, 2017

The Neighbour From Hell Lives Nextdoor

You live in a quiet, peaceful neighborhood. You enjoy the presence of the native birds in the trees and your block is planted to encourage them in. You also have a little dog and a couple of cats that make up your house family. That's fine as you live alone and the pleasure they give you is unsurpassed.

You have lived in this house for say 24 years, or thereabouts. You raised your family here and bit by bit you improved the garden from the hard baked clay and rocks that greeted you when you first arrived. Now it is a productive wonderful place to sit and enjoy the environment and to grow some lovely fresh fruit and vegetables in the back garden. Everything is great.

Great that is until 3 years ago when the neighbor from hell moved in next door. A skinny weedy woman of about 30 years of age with 2 small children who delights in telling you she is pregnant. You are shocked as you gaze over the ugly black tattoos down her arms and elsewhere. Her face is spiked with what appears to be diamond bits stuck on the end of skewers. There is even one in her tongue that tends to clash with that on her lip.

You try not to look away in disgust as you half heartedly listen to her news. But you are a generous soul and soon you are running in with fruit from your trees for the children. You offer to help her get her garden going, which looks as yours did when you first arrived. But she is shifty and you feel funny inside. "This is not someone I need in my life" the inner voice is telling you. Nonetheless you are a peaceful soul so you take part in a few conversations with her from time to time. After all you are neighbors.

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Barking Dogs And No Sleep

Soon after her moving in there are 2 dogs in the yard next door. They bark repeatedly all night under your window. Night after night you try to sleep. Finally you go in and knock on the door and ask politely if they can please keep the dog quiet.

You wonder why the noise is not disturbing them. Its quiet for a night or two and then it starts again. Finally one of the dogs is removed. That means just one dog barking occasionally during the night. You decide to put up with it rather than to ask again for the tenth or twelfth time for them to keep it quiet. Oh, there is suddenly a man living with her.

Then the dog starts digging under the fence. You pick it up and carry it to the neighbor's front door and politely hand it back. It's a nice dog and its obviously distressed about something. Week after week more holes under the fence more trips back with the dog. Then they try to fix the holes but the dog now is coming in under the front fence into your front yard and barking. You let the dog out into the street. It 2.30 a.m. This happens a few more times. By then you are fed up.

A letter comes from dog control asking if you are having trouble as other neighbors have reported it. You ignore the letter because you don't want to get her in trouble. One day you decide to talk to her about working together to fix the fence so that the dog can't get under it. She yells and screams abuse at you. You recoil with shock. Like its her dog and all you are doing is trying to help.

One night you are sound asleep and suddenly a massive explosion happens right outside your bedroom window. You jump out of bed thinking something has blown up in your house. Then you realise that it was a banger, a great big one, more like a bomb. It wasn't in your house but in the neighbor's back yard. Its 3 am and then you are awake for pretty much the remainder of the night.

A few nights later there is this strange green light moving across your ceiling while you are trying to sleep. You get out of bed and look in the neighbor's yard. Your window overlooks their back area. There she is happily sitting outside her backdoor working the laser. You wonder what is it all about?

A few night later you are woken again around 2am with a loud thud on your roof. You think cats and try to go back to sleep. Another night the thud is more intense and against the laundry door. Again you think cats and try to go back to sleep. A few night later a thud on the roof wakes you again. This continues over some months but never regular enough to catch her at it.

You Must Have Evidence

You Must Have Surveillance. If nothing else it will turn the bullying neighbours off a lot of their activity. That's why I have installed security cameras that catch their activity 24/7. It is also monitored by the Security Company who can inform the police if something that should be reported is going on.

Recently there are new sheds in their backyard and they are lined with foil so the police are interested as it looks like they are growing drugs. Hopefully they will eventually have to move and then peace will be restored.

The house has been raided several times and now the eldest son is in jail for holding up a supermarket with a knife. He is about 14 years old. The husband has recently got out of prison and is probably on parole. Without evidence, however, there is no way they can be caught out.

How Do You Respond to Barking Dogs? - Would you ask the neighbor to keep it quiet?

Would you Try to Stop It by Reporting it to Authorities?

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Bullying and Harassment

What is Bullying

The situation deteriorates rapidly from then on. One morning your emptied garbage bin is suddenly full again and your recycling bin is jammed packed with old toys, clothes, bags and so on, with her children s names on them. This is stuff that is not supposed to be in it. So you politely empty them out onto her front lawn and restore the recycle bin, which has not been emptied, to its rightful position.

Meanwhile the skinny weedy woman has bounced out of her house and is calling you all the names under the sun, You politely explain to her that toys and so on are not recyclable. Then she really lets go. Without repeating the conversation, which is bad enough but the oft repeated 'f' words and the 'old bitch;' name calling is too much to regurgitate.

This poor excuse for a lady is now threatening to drive you out of your home. She wants you dead and you don't know who she is connected to, according to her. She then threatens to harm your car, your animals, you and your home and everything else that she can think of. She tells you she will be the neighbor from hell so "what are you going to do about it" shoots out of her mouth like bullets.

Fed up with listening to her you go inside. You notice her through the window racing over to your recycling bin and spewing the contents over the road. You re-emerge and pick it up and restore it to the bin. Now you cop more 'f' words and name calling along with threats. You guard your bin for a while and then seek help from a neighbor. But he is not interested in getting involved.

The following night she crashes against the fence outside your bedroom window well after you have gone to sleep. She starts calling out the loud names along with the 'f' words. Then the man comes out and tries to restrain her. She races inside and locks him out. So he starts calling her to let him back in. You don't see what state of dress he is in but now its time to call the police.

They arrive and he is still calling out to her. They escort him away. the night then passes peacefully.

A few days later you enter the driveway getting ready to visit the grandchildren when she pops her head over the fence and starts screaming abuse. This time she accuses you of taking her cat. She is again threatening your life and that of your animals. Again she reminds you that she is the neighbor from hell and is going to damage your car and everything else. You call the police and they tell you to get an AVO so they can arrest her if she does anything else.

A few days after that your solar light in the front is kicked to pieces. You had it there so people could find their way to the path. Then your pot with plant is also destroyed.

Legal Help to Get Your Life in order

When your life turns upside down for any reason you need help to get back onto a level field. Here are some legal outlets that may help you. Check out their web sites for more information and don't be intimidated by what your neighbour is doing.

The best way to survive is to have your program running on track. Eliminate as much of the stress from your life as you can and talk to others, have visitors come to your home and get support from your family and friends. If you work then get security to watch your house while you are away from it and at other times when you are not alert to outsiders doing damage.

Be Informed to Stop Bullying

Adult Bullying: Perpetrators and Victims (Cambridge Cultural Social Studies (Paperback))
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This might help you understand how to prevent harrassment of youself and others. It is good to be armed with knowledge.

 

How Would You Handle Being Abused? - What if your neighbour was a tyrant?

Would you take it or call the police?

You Have Your AVO

An AVO is an Apprehension Violence Order and it means that if the offender is in breach of it they can be arrested, charged and jailed. Suddenly you feel rather good about it all until the next incident occurs. That's when the blood pressure rises enormously.

You are on your own when the police refuse to do anything about the rocks thrown, the urine filled plastic bottle chucked at you by her children. the hose aimed at full pressure while you are working in your garden, and so on.

You get more and more frustrated until one day your prized pumpkin has disappeared over the fence. There is no one else who could have taken it but the police do nothing. They admire your corn and sympathise with you over the loss of the pumpkin. Later that day all the corn disappears. You contact them again. You can see where the skinny weed has jumped the fence and there is no way anyone else can access your garden. The neighbors at the back are older and there is a much higher color bond fence all around them, including her except for the much lower fence between her and you.

Two weeks later she enters again and removes all the remainder of your butternut pumpkins. You are furious and beside yourself with grief. You have spent months, during heavy drought and water restrictions to grow these as food for the winter. Now the garden is practically bare because along with taking the pumpkins and corn she has trampled over and destroyed other plants, such as the zucchinis.

So what can you now do? You contact the media, email all members of parliament. But the phone does not ring as not a soul responds. No one appears interested in the activities of someone who is driving you crazy, who is compromising your economic welfare and health. She is set on fulfilling her goal of forcing you to move or die.

Security For Your Home

How do you watch your home and assets 24/7. You can't! So the only thing you can do is to install cameras and alarms that will at least turn the bully around as she thinks about the consquences of her actions.

What Would You Do in This Situation? - Do you retaliate and do things to hurt her?

Or do you move?

A Funny Take on The Neighbour from Hell - Some Light Relief

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    • RoadMonkey profile image

      RoadMonkey 3 years ago

      I am SO glad that woman is not my neighbour. None of the polls worked for me?????

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      susan369 3 years ago

      I couldn't vote in the poll for some reason, but I would move if I had a chance. These people are simply not worth being stressed about. I would want to be as far away from them as possible. These confrontations usually happen when people move into an area they do not belong to. People who like noise and violence, should live somewhere noisy and violent and not choose to move into a quiet, friendly neighbourhood. We've got a pair of inconvenient neighbours, but they're nothing compared to what you've just described.

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      Shinichi Mine 3 years ago from Tokyo, Japan

      Oh gosh, I'm really lucky that I've never had an experience like that. Goodness!

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      Colin323 3 years ago

      A truely awful experience for you

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      Michael Yoshinaka 3 years ago from Honolulu, Hawaii

      Great and helpful lens to speak out about. I hate bullying. : D

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      Michael Yoshinaka 3 years ago from Honolulu, Hawaii

      Is this really true? I hope everything turns for the better. HUGS !

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      sweetstickyrainbo 3 years ago

      Now if only I could get my neighbors to stop encouraging their dogs to use my lawn as a potty.

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @Frischy: The only advice I have is to stand your ground and not retaliate. That hurts bullies more than anything. Take noted of times and what they do and report to authorities. Take pics where possible and get witnesses. It's a hard thing to live with but in the end they are the ones who are defeated.

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      Frischy 4 years ago from Kentucky, USA

      I had nice neighbors until recently, when they seem to have popped a few screws upstairs. Came by to see if you had some advice for me. I am not the retaliatory type, and I cannot afford to move.

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      kathysart 4 years ago

      It is just so crazy isn't it? We have the sweetest neighbors. I feel so lucky in that cause wow people can be coo coo.

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      sheriangell 4 years ago

      I hate that you are going through this and hope and pray you find peace from this very soon. Squid Angel Blessed today.

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      JoleneBelmain 4 years ago

      I do have a neighbour I do not like the slightest little bit... and to me she is a terrible neighbour, but nowhere near as terrible and hellish as the one you describe. The first 30 minutes that she had taken over the house next door, she was outside yelling at my children because they had "stepped foot" on her lawn, and were told not to go past this one tree in the front. There is no fence and the lady who lived there before had children. All of us neighbours just let the kids of the street roam through the yards playing their games, they aren't hurting or destroying anything... but you never come out and yell at someone else's kids, especially when they are only playing a harmless game. I was not impressed... yet the following day she was walking all over my lawn because her "precious barks at the wind dog" had escaped her house... it took everything I had not to tell her the same thing she had told my children just the day prior.

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      Cynthia Sylvestermouse 4 years ago from United States

      This is a very scary situation. I have no idea what I would do. Moving is not a easy thing to do, but living with the constant harassment and bullying like you have described would be horrible! I am hoping she will move soon.

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      writerkath 4 years ago

      I just wanted to check back in to see if things have improved - and I see from one of your comments last month that it's quieted down, at least a little. So sad that her kids are now getting into trouble. Maybe the one who was taken away will improve if allowed to live in a healthier setting.

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      Jo-Jackson 4 years ago

      I really hope your situation has improved. I have lived in my home for over 25 years but in the past year have got bad neighbours renting on one side and it is terrible and the police are very llittle help.

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      Jo-Jackson 4 years ago

      I really hope your situation has improved. I have lived in my home for over 25 years but in the past year have got bad neighbours renting on one side and it is terrible and the police are very llittle help.

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @Aunt-Mollie: Thanks for the visit and comment. Neighbour bullying is one of those things that police and the community are at a loss to deal with.

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      Aunt-Mollie 4 years ago

      What a terrible experience you have had. I'm convinced that your neighbor is suffering from mental illness, as more than 1/3 of all people are. I agree with your calling the police. Unfortunately, the police can't solve mental illness. Did you ever try contacting a government social services department in your area?

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      Sonia DB 4 years ago

      @norma-holt: Yes, its a very sad situation indeed. Her children have lived through all the craziness and have been affected by the sounds of things.

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @Sonia DB: She still lives next door but a higher fence and court appearances, etc. have quietened her somewhat. Now her kids are in trouble with the police and one was forcibly taken away a few days ago. Very sad and I feel sorry for them.

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      Sonia DB 4 years ago

      Does your dreadful neighbour still live next door? Has anything progressed in your favour?

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @gsaber2: Really!

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      gsaber2 4 years ago

      A great one with lots of fun.

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @JJNW: I think the spouse of that bad neighbour was arrested a couple of days ago, Someone was taken away in handcuffs after police were there for 6 hours,

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      Gregory Moore 4 years ago from Louisville, KY

      This issue has been in the press in my town recently. A disgruntled neighbor shot and killed two members of the neighborhood home owners association at a meeting a couple of months ago. The dirtbag that did it was in the wrong on all issues that he was protesting. It is a shame that violence is the only solution for some people. Now, families are without their loved ones, that this idiot has lost his freedom.

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      JJNW 4 years ago from USA

      Turns out my almost-ex-husband was not only covertly hurting the kids and I, he was driving the neighbors crazy doing weird controlling things to them too. Maybe make sure the spouse of a bad neighbor knows what is going on.

      *** Blessed by a SquidAngel ***

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @GregoryMoore: You are so right but hatred is bred into some children who grow into violent and non thinking adults. Even simple expressions of disapproval can be magnified in a child's brain to become something outrageous by the time they are adults. We are not born violent so it has to come from somewhere. Then again it only emerges in some people while others offer peace, security and friendship. Bullying starts with dislike and grows into hatred and retaliation, often against what they see in the mirror image of themselves reflected in others or because of jealousy, religious intolerance or such.

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      Melissa Miotke 4 years ago from Arizona

      How terrible it would be to have neighbor troubles like that! I moved to my new house about 6 months ago and I think I've only met one neighbor... I wish there were more interaction but only if it's friendly. Great lens-Blessed!

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @Diva2Mom: Thank you for your visit, comment and blessing. Hugs

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Wow that was a really interesting story ... I just couldn't stop reading. Luckilly my neighbours are really friendly:).

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      Diva2Mom 4 years ago

      Had to come back to IMMENSELY BLESS this amazing lens. God bless you, dear Norma!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      nice lens

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I used to be very happy to seek out this lens. I wanted to thanks for this nice learn!

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      SteveKaye 4 years ago

      Situations like this are tragic.

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      Tony Bonura 4 years ago from Tickfaw, Louisiana

      I really enjoyed your lens and I am serious about my "remedies." With most bullies, it won't go much further than the punch in the nose.

      TonyB

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      JerseyJames 5 years ago

      Very nice lens!

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      norma-holt 5 years ago

      @Elyn MacInnis: Thank you for your gracious comment. The number of neighbourhood disputes in Sydney has led to some being murdered, It is hard to imagine why this is happening but it is, everywhere. Hugs

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      Elyn MacInnis 5 years ago from Shanghai, China

      You have so many things to think about here - and so many ways to deal with something like this. Someone that awful is hard to imagine. But you have really turned lemons into lemonade with this page - Angel blessings to you and your good work!

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      attraction 42 5 years ago

      PEACE & LOVE all.

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      TwistedWiseman 5 years ago

      I enjoyed reading this lens, I am glad that you wrote it :D

      I relate to most of the stories.

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      norma-holt 5 years ago

      @maryLuu: Thank you for your visit and comment, Hugs

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      sunny saib 5 years ago

      My friend has had one since always and it has never been peaceful for them..

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      maryLuu 5 years ago

      Very nice lens. I like the way you wrote it!

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      roony672 5 years ago

      I enjoyed reading your lens.

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      norma-holt 5 years ago

      @SailingPassion LM: Don't even think of moving. If he is not completely mad you will win, just keep a record and ring the police for every incident. Do things to annoy him, such as grow bushes to block out his view, etc. Hugs

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      SailingPassion LM 5 years ago

      Why can't people live next to each other in harmony? We have had someone move in next door who is causing us so many problems. We have lived here almost 20 years and had great relations with all our neighbours. Now all we want to do is mover :-( So sad, I think his intention is actually to drive us away as he has lots of money and would love our house to add to his estate. Must remember KARMA.

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      norma-holt 5 years ago

      @casquid: If the Spirit is with you who can be against you. Everything happens for a reason and eventually the biggest bullies are brought to heel. As long as you are in peace in your own mind then they cannot really hurt you. God bless my friend. Hugs

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      casquid 5 years ago

      I have the Highest Good Intentions for you and your neighbor. There is a fine example of legal abuse going on, next door to me, too. So, life has to be in God's Hands to get through a year. But we stand gracefully kind to all. So that his insults bounce off and we get to enjoy living here, too. You stay Blessed, my friend!

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      siobhanryan 5 years ago

      Blessed

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      siobhanryan 5 years ago

      Blessed

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      Rankography 5 years ago

      Great lens. I really hope that all the public talk about bullying can stem the tide and change behavior. Blessings to you.

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      UKGhostwriter 5 years ago

      Good topic! well done

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      TeacherSerenia 5 years ago

      So what happened? Did you get the matter resolved, take her to court or did you end up moving?

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      Dan 5 years ago from CNY

      Every once in a while You get that one neighbor....your title up top has a spelling error you may want to fix.

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      Tia Novak 5 years ago

      I hope I will never have problem with neighbour bullying.

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      Paul 5 years ago from Montreal

      Wow, what a nightmare, good luck.

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      VeseliDan 5 years ago

      Neighbour bullying is a big problem in a lot of towns. I'm really happy that I don't have that kind of neighbours.

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      Teri Villars 5 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      Funny that this lens hit home! Do you know me personally? ha! Squid Angel blessed for another fabulous lens.

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      Elizabeth Sheppard 5 years ago from Bowling Green, Kentucky

      I really liked this lens, because people must realize that sometimes bullies grow up to be grown-up bullies. There need to be better and stronger laws against bullying at any age.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Returning with fresh angel dust for this important article on neighbor bullying.

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      Kay 5 years ago

      We went through a brief half year of neighbor abuse. As sad as it is to say, though, fortunately the husband lost his job and they moved. Life has been peaceful since! Other than them, we've always been blessed with great neighbors and I hope that continues.

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      Annamadagan 5 years ago

      I have never been abused like this, and I thank the Lord!

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      Katie Harp 5 years ago

      blessed by a squid angel :) <3

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Sadly, I know of an elderly lady who has been putting up with years and years of abuse from her neighbours. Her adult children have done everything they can to try to resolve the situation but the police have ignored them over the past few years. She ended up being assaulted and the police mysteriously "lost" the photos but because the neighbours got in first with false accusations about her children intimidating them, they are the ones facing police action.

      I used to trust the police in this country but now I do not. My own family has been subjected to less than fair treatment by the police and it all comes down to them trying to take the easy option. They are under pressure to get quick results and convictions but the conviction rates do not tell you whether the right people were convicted or not.

      You can tell I feel very strongly about this and I cannot bring myself to contribute to your polls because I would end up getting cross again for hours.

      I abhor all forms of bullying and even though we have laws against it here in the UK, as usual it comes down to individuals' interpretations of policies and how they apply it. Sadly, many people charged with interpreting the law get it wrong and then all they want to do is cover their own backs.

      Until bullying is regarded as a serious assault, along the sames lines as Grevious Bodily Harm, then it will continue unabated. Bullying in all its forms is so wrong, but when it is conducted against the most vulnerable members of society, like the elderly and the young children, it is shameful. And in the scenario you describe, what I would ask is where are the neighbours? Pretending it is not happening so they do not have to get involved. Bystanders.

      And of course, those of us who campaign against bullying know that it is the Bystanders who hold the key. When the Bystanders stand up to the Bully, they usually stop because they are too cowardly to stand up to a group of people.

      Thank you so much for featuring my page about School Bullying :)

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      writerkath 5 years ago

      I just had to come back and spread some angle dust on this lens now that I've got my wings. This story has haunted me, and I hope things have gotten better

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      myraggededge 5 years ago

      Horrible situation, Don't know what I would do... get a big dog perhaps? Focus wheel spells are good - they worked for us when a single bloke moved in next door and started having loud blokey parties. Hugs, hope it gets sorted.

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      goo2eyes lm 5 years ago

      there is a camera peephole available in the market. you can protect yourself and your property. i hope your neighbor is not with squidoo and reading your lenses. i also wrote a fiction story about the neighborhood but i guess my story is utopic. squidliked and blessed by a squidangel. by the way, i could not leave my comments in all 3 duel modules.

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      jeremykim2011 5 years ago

      I can totally relate.

      One suggestion, though. Perhaps you can equip your home with cameras. At least you can have solid proof.

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      KeepsakeIdeas 5 years ago

      This made my blood pressure rise simply reading it. What a nightmare. People should not be allowed to get away with such vile behaviour. She sounds like she needs to be locked up!

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      antoniow 5 years ago

      Nice reading! Keep up the good work!Thumbs up

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      Miha Gasper 5 years ago from Ljubljana, Slovenia, EU

      Oh, the neighbors... One rotten apple in full basket spoil the overall feel. And there is always at least one!

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      Helene-Malmsio 5 years ago

      Its horrible when neighbours turn feral - I am a very quiet person, no parties or disturbances ever from my property, and I used to have good relations with the couples on both sides of me, but then one reported me to the Health Dept for using greywater on my garden in the drought (no report was filed by the inspector, as all was OK) and my other neighbour started to shriek at me over the fence that my evergreen Loquat and Gum trees were dropping leaves in the lane between her garage and our fence... and after 17 years of bullying by her and her husband I finally had the trees cut down. The other neighbours also think that screaming over the fence like hysterical hyenas, instead of asking me to prune a tree branch, is appropriate behaviour.

      I can't stand to look at or talk to either of my neigbours now.

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      Lemming13 5 years ago

      I know how this feels, having been the victim of such behaviour more than once. All I can say is, keep trying; use every weapon you have (for instance, if you are elderly you may want to frame this as elder abuse, since you will get more response than if it is just 'nuisance neighbour'. Report every incident, log everything in detail, and never give up. You have done no wrong, why should you be forced from your home?

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      Paul 5 years ago from Liverpool, England

      Powerfully written: will you be continuing the sad tale?

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      ElizabethJeanAl 5 years ago

      I've had difficult neighbors. There are no easy answers or solutions.

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      writerkath 5 years ago

      This is really a difficult situation. What makes it so much worse is that you have so much wonderful history in this home prior to this one particular nut case. I wish I had a solution to offer. My gut feeling is that if no one in law enforcement can help, then I would have to find a way to move. I hope this somehow works out for the best.

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I never thought neighbors could be like that. What a horror story. I really sympathize with you and admire your patience.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I hope I never get a neighbor like that, maybe social service can do something? She clearly has mental issues and can be dangerous

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      Virginia Allain 5 years ago from Central Florida

      Your narrative sends shivers up my spine. I've had one neighbor that we got crosswise with when we asked her to stop backing into our car parked on the street. It escalated from there. How can one stop that downward spiral? Beats me and it seems you haven't found a solution either.

      If she is renting, I'd call her landlord about her behavior. How sad to have your peaceful life destroyed by someone who is obviously unbalanced.

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      Angela F 5 years ago from Seattle, WA

      Sounds like a few neighbors I've unfortunately had to experience as well!

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      Laurel Johnson 5 years ago from Washington KS

      Oh my yes. We have had a couple neighbors from hell.

      Some of the things they did went beyond explanation.

      We tried all the ways a reasonable person might pursue. Nothing worked.

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      pheonix76 6 years ago from WNY

      I feel lucky to have never experienced such bullying. It sounds so horrible to not feel safe in ones own home! I do hope your situation improves...some people are just so miserable and hateful.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I have had some problems with bullies in the neighborhood, but I don't want to recall it. Its in the past and better left there, sure wouldn't want to relive that again, not even in thought.

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      bikerchickie 6 years ago

      You just described my neighbors to a T. I've never called the cops on them because I have a feeling that it might make things worse, not better. These people don't seem to understand that living in an apartment building means you have neighbors and that you should be a little considerate.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Unfortunately, my mum is going through the samething with her neighbours. The worst thing about it is that the man is a policeman! He has a policedog alsatian which goes for my mum and her dogs and today he deliberately took him off the lead to scare her! He he tells her that she's crazy and it is all in her head and his wife calls her all the names under the sun. What do u do when it is a member of the police force doing this to u?

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I also believe that retaliation is what the devil wants so that he can fuel the fire and fan the flames. Things will only get worse. I have such sympathy for you and I feel for your situation because sometimes, we can't just move. I agree with 2muchtrash, sounds like a drug issue. You can't reason with a mind that's not reasonable. My parents had neighbors like this that were actually on the same property, it was one of those duplexes. OMG! I remember my mom would retaliate and do stuff back to them and it just got worse and worse and worse and made my mom go insane. Don't do that to yourself. It just drags you down to their level. You are better than that my friend.

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      Lee Hansen 6 years ago from Vermont

      @KimGiancaterino: Wow, Kim. We have a neighbor who cuts branches off a huge tree from our yard because they hang over his backfield - actually, he pays some guy to do it. He's got no gardens, we have nothing but beauty. Hubby thinks the guy is jealous. I think he's a bully. But he stays away from us physically, unlike another neighbor ... why do nice people attract the wrath of fools and nasties? Counting on karma to take care of it all in due time.

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      Lee Hansen 6 years ago from Vermont

      We have been dealing with psycho neighbors for about 10 years. We have managed to keep them at bay with a fence and a lawsuit that cost them some money for legal representation. They still try to be intimidating but we can ignore them and all other neighbors in the area except one are keeping a close eye on their nasty business and other comings and goings. We can breathe more easily. So sorry you have to deal with this type of abuse. We also have a security camera that records anything in our yard now ...

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      KimGiancaterino 6 years ago

      I'm sorry you're going through this. We had a destructive neighbor (renter) for many years, but he finally moved. The new tenant (owner) is absolutely wonderful. Our neighbor on the other side hates me because I grow lots of plants in the front yard. She sabotages them from time to time, and uses her bare hands to break off any twig that crosses the property line. So petty! I try to ignore her as much as possible. Hopefully your problem person will move on.

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      KimGiancaterino 6 years ago

      @anonymous: I disagree ... only because this woman would probably poison the dog out of spite. Play a tape recording of a big dog barking and let her imagination do the rest.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Does she RENT or own the property next door? If she rents, locate the landlord and tell them. If she behaves in such a way, chances are she is wrecking the inside of the property too. She sounds like she is on drugs or something. Fear of retaliation is what comes to mind though. Get an attack dog! Borrow one, rent one, whatever it takes to prevent her giving your trouble. It needs to be well trained though, and you could notify the police so they know up front that you are keeping a dog for protection. You must be terrified of what she will do next. She is mentally unstable from what you have told us. No reasoning with her, so talking is out of the question. Yep, a guard dog is the answer in my book. I suspect its because you are alone a lot that she thinks she can get away with it. In order for the police to be able to do anything, you will need proof. Video camera, if you can afford it, then you will have something to show the police next time she does something. Wow....you poor thing! How miserable it must be for you right now. Leaving for awhile will just let her think she has won. I am still thinking guard dog! Big, strong, scary guard dog, but it must be extremely well trained. Just so it will growl when she is around. Scare the bejeezers out of her.

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      Bullying 6 years ago

      I think any kind of bullying has a serious impact on people. We have tried to educated our children at a young age by using multi media bullying resources (http://www.bullyinginschool.org) at least its a step towards trying to understand how certain people behave and ideally will stop them from being bullies (or neighbours from hell!)

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      GrowWear 7 years ago

      It's a hard situation. Might be better to move. Retaliation and all that would just escalate the abuse.

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      myneverboredhands 7 years ago

      Police or Media won't react to your calls or do something to her, just taking your word for it, until you have enough evidence and witnesses to prove your statements or get her caught in the action. For that you need to set up 24/7 camera(s) to monitor everything that is going on on your territory (similar to those in supermarkets or banks). Cameras should not be seen easily, hide them, otherwise she will destroy them as soon as she sees them before you actually recorded something. Important(!!!): DO NOT MENTION the CAMERAS TO HER!!! After you gather some video-proof, make 2 copies of the video: one for the Police, another for the Media (original leave for yourself, just in case), then, only then, you can go to the Police Department. Hopefully, it will work. Good luck!!!

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      Virginia Allain 7 years ago from Central Florida

      I have a friend dealing with a similar situation. Forunately the neighbor was a renter and the landlord was willing to get them out. Hopefully in 30 days she will be rid of the attacker. We are all holding our breath and fearing something really bad will happen in that short time.

      Sorry to hear how bad your situation is getting.

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      reasonablerobby 7 years ago

      This is a very important lens theme. It reminds me when we had a neighbour from hell. Here in the UK we used to live in old Victorian semi-detached with a shared driveway. My neighbour knocked on my door and said I owed him $100 because he had resurfaced the communal driveway. He never asked in advance and I felt very pressured. The job was shoddy too. I didn't argue because he was 'trouble'. We had bought the house off him and he had just moved next door. I was always puzzled why our front door didn't have the same original 1902 stained glass in it, only to find out that his wife had blasted the door with a shotgun during a row!!

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      SylvianeNuccio1 7 years ago

      What a nightmare. I am surprised that the local media wouldn't be interested in such a story.

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      vanidiana24 7 years ago

      Such awful thing! Hope everything will be okay soon!

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      Marcia 7 years ago from England

      Great lens, and I have also encountered the barking dogs situation, more than once - very hard to live with. Have lensrolled it to one of mine on bullying.

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      Diana Grant 7 years ago from United Kingdom

      It's made me feel upset just reading about this. People cause so much unhappiness by their selfishness, don' they?

      I suppose if the law won't help you, the best thing to do is publicity, enlisting the help of your MP and social services, retaliation in kind (only more so), and generally taking the law into your own hands. Could be risky though, because obviously she's not normal and you would probably have a lot more to lose than she does.