Personal visits are gifts to the sick and shut in
Sick and shut in
Elderly people need love and respect
Over the years, after my mother passed away, I have felt the need to visit elderly relatives and friends who were ill and not receiving many visitors. Watching my mother progress through Alzheimer’s, I learned how important it is to show love and respect for elder loved ones.
Grace for the journey
As I made the return from my bi-weekly visit to see Jean, I thanked God for another safe trip. My car is old but it gives me no problems. I've found that Sunday morning is the best time to drive to LA. It is a blessing to see Jean and braid her hair. She always wore it short. It is now below her shoulders and silvery gray.
I touched Sheila on the shoulder and spoke to her. When my mother was ill with Alzheimers, I learned how important it is to call the names of elderly people as you care for them. When I say, "Hi Sheila!", she gives me a big wide grin.
I thank God for the grace to make the journey!
Every other week I travel to Los Angeles to visit my friend, Jean, and braid her hair. She is 23 years older than I am and has been a great friend and mentor for more than thirty years. The last time I saw Jean before her commitment to a board and care facility was at her home. I realized that something was different because she was not her talkative self. When I left her house, I told her I would come to see her soon. The next time I saw her Jean was in a board and care facility. A passerby saw her sitting in her car at a gas station in obvious need of medical care. She had had a stroke.
Jean’s health has declined significantly since her commitment to board and care. She was able to walk when I first visited. Over time she fell out of bed and had surgery on her femur. Last year she had a stroke. During the summer I realized that she no longer remembers me. One lady asked why I still go to visit if Jean doesn’t remember me. My response was, “I remember her.”
Care and compassion
Make friends while you visit
Last Sunday as I braided Jean’s hair I noticed another resident, Sheila, crying in front of the television. Sheila is a new resident. I walked over to her and talked to her softly about the future. She smiled and stopped crying, at least for a while. Sheila was being attended by a caregiver when I left. I don’t know how many visitors she will have but she will have at least one … me.
The cost of a visit
Is there someone who needs a visit from you
For months on end no one, other than me, signs the guest register for Jean. I will continue to visit her as long as I am able to make the drive. I will also visit Sheila. Every confined person needs to have visitors. Please visit elderly, sick and shut in relatives and friends. If possible, befriend and encourage others. We all need to know that someone cares.
February 10, 2013 visit
I went to visit my friend this morning and am really concerned. When a facility smells like urine, there is a problem. I don't know how to get in touch with my friend's family but doubt that contacting them would help. Because I live so far away and can't visit every day, I am afraid to say something about the odor. What should I do?
Visiting the sick
Is there someone you need to visit in a nursing home or board and care?
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