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Whatever happened to courtesy?

Updated on February 4, 2012

Be Courteous

People are rude

I don’t know, maybe it’s just me or maybe it’s just living in the Rio Grande Valley of Texas, but it just seems as though people are so very rude anymore.

Most people who live in the Rio Grande Valley of Texas will tell you, there is the way it’s done everywhere else in the country and then there is the Valley’s way.

The Rio Grande Valley has a very strong connection to Mexico; obviously it’s just across the Rio Grande River. As such its’ a little bit Mexico and a little bit America even though it’s all the United States and the sixth fastest growing area of the country with a very developing metropolis yet still very laid back.

There is also a very large population of what is known as “Winter Texans” made up of senior adults who come down from the frigid Midwest each winter to our very balmy climate of an average seventy degrees and an attractive economic situation (lowest prices in the nation and most economic housing as well).

Top all of this off with the United States/Mexican NAFTA treaty and you have ingredients for “experiences in strangeness”.

But back to courtesy; it has all but disappeared from normal living here.

It you’re standing in line in the check out of a super market, people push and shove you with no apology and they might actually cut in front of you with no thought what so ever. There is no courtesy and it is just plain rude.

Then there is eating out. You go out, you give your name and the hostess even with a buzzer forgets you are on the list because she was too busy carrying on a conversation with a fellow worker when you came in. Then when you’re finally seated, it can take fifteen minutes to sometimes a half hour to get waited, then you pray you get what you ordered and that it’s eatable.

And don’t get me started on the all you can eat joints or buffets; cold food, often uncooked, no flavor and you just pray you don’t get ptomaine poisoning. Thank God for McDonalds and Burger King.

There is also the driving issue. It is unbelievable. It is hard to believe the State of Texas just raised the speed limit on Interstates to eighty five miles per hour. The people in the Valley are already driving that speed and there are currently no interstates here although Interstate sixty nine is scheduled for construction which means the people here will be driving well over one hundred miles per hour once the interstate is completed.

It’s not just the speed that people travel but the way they drive as well. People think nothing of passing on the right on an entrance or off ramp and the yellow on and off ramp speed signs are said by some as only a “suggestion” and not considered real speed limit signs. Can you believe that? For the record, as a Texas licensed auto Insurance Adjuster, I assure you the YELLOW speed limit sign on the on or off ramp is the speed you are to yield to and NOT just a suggestion.

People have also become “slobs” in the way they dress as well; very rude, crude, offensive and discourteous. I detest having to look at old, ugly bare legs and rolls of blob. I have bad legs, don’t display them except at home and have worked hard to lose nearly seventy pounds and even with loss of wages, went to thrift stores to purchase clothing that fits well. It doesn’t take much to look clean and decent in public.

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Courtesy forgotten

I am amazed that down here men wear almost nothing but t-shirts which is fine; but everywhere? They don’t even tuck them in and then they wear shirts too short for them or too large. They wear no belts, run around with their pants falling off. Talk about plumber’s crack, it is everywhere down here. There is just no excuse. Frankly I think it should be an arrestable offense.

Obesity is an extreme problem here as well; men and women both. We’re not talking over weight but obesity. Three hundred pound or above people of both genders are not unusual here. Sadly, this is all too true for people of twenty and thirty something age. The obesity itself is visually uncomfortable enough for most people but dressed in clothes which are too tight and not covering large rolls of fat is just plain rude and demonstrates a lack of pride and concern for others.

Personally as an epileptic and currently not able to get disability (because the Social Security Disability Administration says my illness is controlled), I resent people who literally admit they have eaten their way to disability by being extremely obese.

Again this is another lack of courtesy, rudeness and selfishness.

Like I said, it might just be me or where I live but it sure seems that people today have completely forgotten about courtesy and kindness to others.

©Copyright 2012 Dr. Lee W. Outlaw III

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 6 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      boy oh boy I have experience the valleys way.. lol.. but I will tell you there is rudeness everywhere you go.. when I as young if I was not polite my father would have got out his belt. he only had to spank me twice in my life. but it was never about being rude.. lol.. great hub. Dr. Lee.

      voted way up

      God bless you Dr. Lee


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      Drtruthman 6 years ago from Harlingen, Texas

      Thanks Christy. I appreciate the read and the comment. Yes that is a problem here with the bagging groceries also. Then, if I try to help, they get all defensive like I've broken a law or something. Thanks so much for stopping by. I look forward to reading more of your writing also.

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      Christy Birmingham 6 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I think this is a good insight. The other day the grocery store cashier was more interested in her watch, likely counting down the amount of time she finished her shift, than in properly bagging my groceries!

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      Drtruthman 6 years ago from Harlingen, Texas

      Right you are Susan. I am receiving dozens of emails from friends and family who don't like to leave comments that they are saying Amen and have experienced the same thing. I appreciate your read and taking the time to comment.

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      Susan Joyner-Stumpf 6 years ago

      Great HUB Dr. Lee. I have noticed as well an incline in rudeness. I can remember when I was young, the mentality was, the customer is always right. Well, that's gone out the window. Customer Service People, Bank Managers, Store Managers, Service Shop People (for cars, etc.) have been extremely rude, abrasive, unprofessional, to the point of putting me down, yelling at me, talking over me, and hanging up on me, that's right. I tell you at jobs I had, if I ever treated a customer, patient or client the way I've been treated, I would have been fired on the spot.

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      Drtruthman 6 years ago from Harlingen, Texas

      Thanks so much for taking the time to read and leave such a nice comment Michele. Yes, the world has definitely changed and I agree the media has allot to do with it as well as children in daycare. I know My kids were sometimes left in daycare because often as a pastor I didn't make that much and so my wife would work. thankfully that was mainly when they were real small, she was home in their very formative years. As far as change, it will take one heart at a time with us as Christians sharing the love of Christ and trying to make a difference, one person and one heart at a time.....IF the person or persons will allow us. Thanks so much for the read, the comment and the thumbs up.

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      Michele Travis 6 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      This is an amazing a very real hub. I was born in 1964. And have seen this happen. My parents raised me to be polite to people. This is not happening anymore. Children, and adults call everyone names, push in front of people in line... Maybe it is TV. The shows they have on televion are worse then was ever shown when I was a child. Now it is commen for people to insult each other, talk behind their backs and other things. Adults don't seem to have time for their children ( maybe I am not sure) They do love their children, but more are in daycare, mine was before I was disabled by epilepsy. The world is changing. You can't spank your child, it is abuse now. If a child acts up in school, the teacher is the one to blame not the child. Is there anyway to change this?

      This is a wonderful hub. Gave it a thumbs up!