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Why do People Lie?

Updated on October 5, 2014

Why the Need to Lie?

The majority of people follow rather than think for themselves. They do not use their brains to work things out because its easier to follow a leader, even if they are being lied to and they may not know they are being lied to because they don't check it out. If they believe lies they will also tell them. It's akin to jumping off into space and hoping there is a soft landing somewhere below. That's how I see things, anyway.

Liars are blind. They cover their eyes to the truth and hope that people they talk to are as stupid as themselves

My father instilled into his children that nothing will happen to you if you tell the truth, so why do people lie? This is a serious question and your response is required to understand why people lie.

You think religions don't lie, well they do! Politicians lie!, Parents lie! strangers lie! And most of all Hollywood lies! People will act out what happens before their eyes. If they are lied to they will probably lie, if they grow up with violence they will probably be violent, if they grow up with abuse they will probably be abusers. Can you change your ways?

If you lie it is important to remember what you told and to whom and then to cover yourself or the swords will be out to cut you down The risk is that you either live the lie or risk being branded a liar for all time. Lies hurt, are unnecessary and usually come from people who are weak willed and/or not confident about themselves. That doesn't mean that well educated people don't lie. Senior people in all walks of life do it. Why do people engage in make-believe, such as Christmas and tell lies to their children about things like Santa Claus? Why do people have faith in religious doctrines that are completely unsubstantiated? Why do they believe in heaven and hell that are without a presence and certainly have no evidence in support?



These are only some of the questions that could be asked along this line. There are hundreds of reasons why people are confused by lies and misinformation and this lens is the tip of the iceberg, but it might get you thinking

Covering Up is a Lie

White lies are still lies

When someone close to me lies it hurts. Many times things are done behind my back so that I don't find out, or the liar thinks that will be the case. But I do find out and then there is a relationship issue because trust is gone. The die is cast and nothing can undo it.

Recently some close relatives hid the facts about their son and brother's marriage partner for fear of causing trouble.. Although they knew she was destroying the marriage and possibly was seeing someone else they kept the secret so he would not find out. The fear they had was that it would cause trouble but they did not consider the pain he received when she eventually told him and it cost him everything.

They deliberately sat back and watched this man quit his job, sell his house, move hundreds of miles to a much more expensive area and do everything he could because his wife demanded it. But they swear they love him dearly. Within days of moving the wife announced the end of their marriage and advised him of her new boy friend. The man was torn apart and now in his forties has to start over. With no job and the prospects he may not get one if he had been told by his relatives about the problems things may have been much better for him. He now rents a flat and sees his children only on her terms. I asked Why?

But I know the answer. It is easier for certain types to avoid telling someone the truth because it can backfire, or so they might think. What would have been better? If the man knew about the affairs she was having, and which were plastered all over Facebook so that anyone could read it, would he have made such a mess of his life if he had known? Now I wonder how they, who concealed it, can live with themselves? But they see nothing wrong in their actions.

Is that why people lie? Is it because the other party may hate you for speaking the truth? What kind of world do we live in when this happens? Is it better in this case to sacrifice the loved one rather than see him/her hurt by the truth? It's a fact that his mother was lied to as a child, she believes in fairy tales and all that rubbish and was reared believing that it is better not to own up to something than face the music. For me it is very sad because she tries so hard to please everyone.

People who believe in fairy tales, as they do, act in an inappropriate way when it comes to the truth. I see this over and over where people are not at peace within themselves or with others. It is like they are being chased by a monster although they make themselves out to be the knight in shining armour. They twist things around to make issues that seem right to them appear the same to others. It doesn't matter how their lies affect their audience. To me this is abuse and when it comes from parents and siblings it is of the worst kind.

Single, divorced and adoptive parents lie about a child's parentage to cover their tracks. If you think you are mislead and need to find a missing parent then this company can help you. It can also iscover whether a partner is genuine, is or has been married and if it is safe to continue a relatrionship. Lovers are notorious liars and partners are robbed of their money, property and other things while your life is in ruins. Be sure, not sorry.



Before you employ someone or use their services run a background check. These days the crooks are out there in numbers ot find opening to rob, kidnap, steal, defraud and so on.

Even banks are being taken for millions by members of their own staff. There are numous cases of identity theft and even one's house and other property being sold from under the, while the owners are away.

Do you know who your neighbor is or your business partner for that matter.






Parents Lying to their Children - Partners lying to each other

Would you prefer to know about your partners affair with another person?

Wars Start With Lies - Power born of Lies

The Iraq war started with lies about weapons of mass destruction. The 9/11 tragedy was the result of lies about heaven and hell and Islam. The 30 years war in Ireland was one branch of Christianity competing with another, yet they read from the same book and supposedly pray to the same God. There are hundreds of cases of wars that start because of lies, power struggles and dictators who think only about their own glory.

Is it all about themselves. Do they lie to avoid being caught out about something or is it that they simply want to confuse the listener over the facts?
Or they find it easier to lie than tell the truth?

Does lying come natural for many people

Intentional lies

Lying to Children is Child Abuse - Lies hurt children

Parents and adults in general lie about all types of things to children. Things they think they shouldn't hear or are to young to know about. But isn't it better to be open with them and explain in detail what they face in the world. Don't fill their heads with rubbish and untruths. Give the facts and help them to cope. If you lie to your children ABOUT ANYTHING they will lie back to you. If they loose trust in you where can they turn?

Lies are the beginning of a life gone wrong. If you respect a young person's mind then give her or him credit to decide for themselves. You are not in their skin so don't make it tougher for them than it already is.



This video goes a step further.

Some Religious People are Killers - Yet they claim to preserve life

This video shows how a doctor was killed by people who were anti-abortionists and yet they killed a man, a doctor. So who is the liar, the real murderer. Religion has always killed those it considers in opposition to its beliefs. There are always those ready to believe the lies and do the killing or blow themselves up for the cause. WHAT CAUSE? Only that for which they have no evidence and which is based on more lies or mishandling of the truth.

Are these political lies

Politicians say whatever they think will get them elected. No one is immune from this failing. After the election, for one reason or another, the promises no longer matter in the long run.

What do you consider a lie? - Is there a degree of lying?

Is it best to take people seriously at all times? Should we accept what they say without question or should we be skeptical and distrust what they do and say ?

Should we search for the evidence to prove it one way or the other?

Just Give us Your Money - Christian Lies

What a performance. Actors in church and people fall for their lies.

Do you consider any of the following lies? - Or are we not allowed to question them?

  1. The Pope claims that he speaks for God - but people of other faiths and agnostics think he is lying
  2. He also claims that condoms do not prevent Aids and yet it is a proven fact that they do. So where does he get his facts?
  3. Jesus Christ was born of a virgin and yet we know that genes are required from both parents to produce an offspring.
  4. It is a recognized fact that all god men were once considered to have been born of virgins. Even Pythagorus had this claim attached to himself.
  5. Why do parents lie to children about Santa and fairies?
  6. Why do we feed children cartoons and ridiculous images?
  7. Are children turned into liars by the make-believe of their younger years?
  8. Do parents lie to their children because of their own childhood memories?
  9. Is it right to sit a young child on the knee of a strange man that they expect will give them toys and other goodies?

Do you think that lies hurt children?

Demonstration against political lies

Occasionally people revolt against the lies and dictators and government will fall. But where the power is strong this cannot always happen, as in Zimbabwe where thousands die from poor government, lack of facilities and resources and a dictator who has only himself in mind. But it is happening elsewhere as well, such as in Budapest.

Lies that make you act

Who are the best liars in society?

Commercially you are targeted every time you walk into a shop. The signs that confront you - Buy Now - Huge Discounts - Specials - Sale - Bargains, and so on, are triggers that make you open your purse and extract money. But shops have a habit of marking things up in order to mark them down so that you THINK you are getting a bargain. Its a well known fact that you can sell anything at a discount much easier than at the real price. So is this form of lying OK?

Politicians notoriously promise what you want to hear before an election and then when they get in they change it around and often do the opposite. Is this because they are liars or simply playing a game. If you expect your politician will do something good for you its human nature that you should vote for him. But what happens when you find out that he lied.

We had a case like this in Australia when John Howard promised that he would never introduce a GST (Goods and Services Tax). yet as soon as he was elected in it came. He also promised he would not sell the national phone carrier and yet when he was elected he got rid of it quick smart. So were they lies, or clever politics. He was dumped at the next election and now his party is in complete disarray.

Every day on the Internet there are people promising that you can make a fortune overnight if you buy such and such a program. Then they brag about the millions of dollars they are making by doing just that. Is this a lie or clever marketing?

You see people accept these things and trust the authors of them until they find out otherwise. But really who can we trust? If parents lie to us that is the worst type of deception that children have to live with forever. We can get rid of politicians, salesmen and others but we can never change our parents. So why do they lie to their children?

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      Renee Dixon 3 years ago from Kentucky

      When someone lies to me it definitely makes me take what they say as a grain of sand in the future. It's hard to trust someone once they have lied to you. Great read, and very informative thanks!

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      seahorse60 3 years ago

      Thanks for a very interesting read! I can't abide liars and a lot of the time there is no need for it and no gain to them. If I find that someone has lied to me I then question everything I know about them, do I really know that person? I remember my mother telling my things that scared me and then having to tell me they were 'fairy stories' because I got so upset!

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      Angelee1027 4 years ago

      Loved this Lens! Very interesting. I'm a very honest person. Lying, even if trying to protect someones feelings, is very hard for me to do. I often come off as mean for it. :/

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      Colin323 4 years ago

      Some people lie because the events in their lives are, in their eyes, too bland and ordinary. So they invent twists, or tweek the events to make them appear larger, brighter than they were, or to put the liar in the spotlight more than was the case. This was the basis for Keith Waterhouse's book, 'Billy Liar'. Harmless, usually, to the listener, but creates a thin wedge action for the self-deceivers involved.

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      Melanie Paige 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia

      I have no idea why people lie. I'm against all forms of it. Someone says to me "Oh just say such and such, it's only a small white lie", but I refuse to. A lie is a lie, no matter how you spin it, and those who lie will have Karma to deal with, which their own self-made problem. The truth always prevails in the end :) Thanks for sharing

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      Dorian Bodnariuc 4 years ago from Ottawa, Ontario Canada

      Excellent lens, food for thought. Thanks for shaking the rust on my neurons.

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      poutine 4 years ago

      Lies, lies, they are everywhere, specially in politics and religion

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      Takkhis 4 years ago

      Lying is bad! It is universal truth. :)

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Your visit is a blessing and much appreciated. Hugs

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      You just gave my brain a good work out here....well done, it looks like you already have the basic 5 blessings for now but I will be back again some day....just like Frosty the Snowman, lol! :)

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      nick-gondoras 4 years ago

      Much needed information and thought provoking-thank you!

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      jayavi 4 years ago

      telling lies is a bad habit. great lens good topic

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      Lorelei Cohen 4 years ago from Canada

      Happy Valentine's day.

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      rasnasah 4 years ago

      Very interesting Lens.

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      CoolFool83 4 years ago

      I've dealt with people that lie, and its just not worth having them in your life. Very interesting lense.

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @pawpaw911: hahaha, sometimes I think that description fits the majority of people

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      pawpaw911 4 years ago

      Interesting subject. I've known a few people in my life who never lied, except when their mouth was moving.

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      applejacking 4 years ago

      Thanks for this life knowledge. It's awesome and I enjoyed read your points one by one. Merry Christmas and happy holiday. D

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @pumpum: Nice to see you here. Glad you enjoyed it, hugs

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      pumpum 4 years ago

      Wonderful lens. I honestly enjoyed a lot.

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @donnetted: Thank you for the visit and blessing. Hugs

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      Donnette Davis 4 years ago from South Africa

      I thoroughly enjoyed reading the input from other lens masters on this wonderful lens. Blessed x

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      malualhati 4 years ago

      an entirely different lens (in a good way) that i visited. amazing article! thank you for sharing :)

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @WriterJanis2: Nice to have you visit. Hugs

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      VspaBotanicals 4 years ago

      I love this lens.

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      WriterJanis2 4 years ago

      Fantastic lens. Blessed!

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      @VspaBotanicals: Nice to have your comment and approval. Hugs

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      Cynthia Sylvestermouse 4 years ago from United States

      Happy Halloween blessings to you!

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      sunny saib 4 years ago

      It's pathetic. Sometimes they do it because they're too weak to say truth out loud and sometimes they're just habitual of it. The problem is others get really hurt sometimes because of lies.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Thanks for good lens. Hope to see more soon.

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      SteveKaye 4 years ago

      People begin by fooling themselves. Then the rest is easy.

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      Tony Bonura 4 years ago from Tickfaw, Louisiana

      I took my time through this lens. I do not agree with almost any of it. Pity 'cause it looks like you put a lot work and thought into it.

      TonyB

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      norma-holt 5 years ago

      @LaraineRoses: Thank you Laraine. Hugs

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      Laraine Sims 5 years ago from Lake Country, B.C.

      I spent a lot of time reading this lens. Although I don't agree with all of it, most of it has the ring of truth to me.

      Angel blessings!

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      Gloria Freeman 5 years ago from Alabama USA

      Hi I enjoyed reading this lens, thank for sharing. Blessed and added to my lens...Squid Angel flinnie.

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      bilafond lm 5 years ago

      Good lens and comments are all worth reading.

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      norma-holt 5 years ago

      @maryLuu: Thank you for visiting and liking, Hugs

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      maryLuu 5 years ago

      Very good lens! Thumb up!

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      norma-holt 5 years ago

      @EMangl: Thank you, I also cannot understand it but that is humans for you, Hugs

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      EMangl 5 years ago

      since you like animated gifs

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      EMangl 5 years ago

      not to approve:

      They loose the most important thing

      you mean "lose"?

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      EMangl 5 years ago

      well written, i will never understand why people fall so easily for obvious lies

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      KimGiancaterino 5 years ago

      Very thought provoking.

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      antoniow 5 years ago

      Very nice and interesting lens, nicely done!

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      chft55 lm 5 years ago

      Good topic. I disagree with most of your views, especially if you count lying by omission as lying, but I see your point. Great way to explore this topic!

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      georgeac lm 5 years ago

      Another awesome read. Learning a lot from the way you are structuring your lenses.

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      equestrianscience 5 years ago

      great lens, very thought provoking

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      You've outdone yourself in this one. Well deserved LOTD.

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      beaworkathomemom 5 years ago

      Great lens on an interesting subject.

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      surfer1969 lm 5 years ago

      If you think about It life Is a big lie really.The truth Is hard to find In this world.A really nice lens.

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      LynetteBell 5 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      What a great lens! I worked with a guy whose mother was actually my boss. He used to tell us about this grand car he had (we knew different as it was parked outside - and quite another model to what he said) and other grandiose lies but he seems to believe them himself. I think in some people it may be an illness, I can't think of any other reason in his case...

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      avigarret 5 years ago

      Fascinating lens on a fascinating subject, thanks for sharing.

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      gatornic15 5 years ago

      Great lens. Lying is the one thing that upsets me the most. Lies always cause disappointment or hurt or some other form of negative action.

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      miaponzo 5 years ago

      I hate lies.. and thanks so much for bringing this up! Blessed!

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      miaponzo 5 years ago

      I hate lies.. and thanks so much for bringing this up! Blessed!

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      Wedding Mom 5 years ago

      Well written article.

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      SteveKaye 5 years ago

      This is a very thought provoking article. You have given me many important questions to ponder.

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      flicker lm 5 years ago

      Very thought-provoking article. Thanks!

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      Ram Ramakrishnan 5 years ago

      Know this, O worthy and diligent lensmaster;

      With accomplishment you've earned a tryster.

      As a token of immense appreciation expressed,

      A squid angel leaves this lens heartily blessed.

      On a rendering that is sparkling in its own right,

      Propagating an appealing thought well and quite;

      If you were to notice a slender shimmering crust;

      From the angels wand, it is a spill of stardust.

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      Ram Ramakrishnan 5 years ago

      Lies are born of lethargy and indolence, of the aversion for industry;

      It seems a quirk of existence that deviltry is easier than the contrary.

      Verifying an avowal isn't such a complexity as it may appear fraught;

      The legitimacy of truth at all times IS and that of a lie always IS NOT.

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      Lorelei Cohen 5 years ago from Canada

      I had visited here once before but had to stop by to sprinkle a little more love on this article on the wisdom and consequences of lying.

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      Tolovaj Publishing House 5 years ago from Ljubljana

      Very intriguing lens. Lie is very complex subject. I believe it is one of things which separate intelligent beings from unintelligent...

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      They are a lot of factors why people lie,

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      goo2eyes lm 5 years ago

      the truth will make you free. i just came back to share with you some squidangel *blessings*.

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      Deadicated LM 5 years ago

      Really great Lens, I totally enjoyed it.

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      sheezie77 5 years ago

      Another amazing lens! interesting reading! thumbs up

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      Andy 5 years ago from London, England

      Great lens. Very interesting and thought provoking

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      fullofshoes 5 years ago

      This was certainly great food for thought. Without going into detail, I have reason to despise lying. I can handle a white lie here and there but the big ones... well... I have zero tolerance!! Excellent lens.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      What an interesting and unique topic for a lens :) A few months ago I could have been badly damaged in a Court of Law, when, to cover up the fact that he failed to make any notes follwing a conversation I had with him, a policeman lied in a statement about an incident and said I had given him some information that would have ended up making it look as though I, and members of my family had lied.

      To lie to cover your own back at the expense of others is despicable.

      Our own Lawyer told me that when I took the stand, the Prosecutor would try to totally discredit me, to prove the case. She asked me if I would be OK and I said:

      "Of course I will. All I have to do is tell the truth, which is a lot easier than lying" - it is a lesson I am constantly reinforcing with my children."

      The case was dropped and I did not have to testify - I wish I had, so that we could have discredited a dishonest policeman.

      I loathe liars with a passion.

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      whiteskyline lm 5 years ago

      Nicely thought provoking, thank you :)

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      Iain84 5 years ago

      Everybody lies at some point in their life. Obviously, some people lie more than others! I think people lie mainly to protect themselves from others or from repurcussions of their actions?

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      goo2eyes lm 5 years ago

      everybody lies from the president of the u.s. to the street worker.

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      kathysart 5 years ago

      Its been fun.. what is a lie exactly.. maybe a lie has degrees.

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      viscri8 5 years ago

      It is not simple -- lies are sometimes white, sometimes a matter of self protection or protection of someone else. It is simplistic to pretend that the world is a place where everyone can say always the truth. However -- in our personal capacity we should try to say the truth every time it is possible -- telling the truth is a matter of freedom and self respect -- we ought to use it as a privilege -- those who have it!

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      flowski lm 5 years ago

      People lie to protect their integrity. Oh wait, how can you...

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      They are a lot of factors why people lie, but i guess we simply just to avoid consequences. You raised such a great topic. Well done, your lens is great!

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      mattseefood lm 6 years ago

      Great interpretation here! Thanks :)

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      SAMEPRINCESS10 6 years ago

      Hi i had a lot to say on here. I hope you get to read it all. Thanks!

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      ChrisDay LM 6 years ago

      I think most lies are to gain an 'edge' or to avoid repercussions.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Telling lies is easier, harder path is to stick to the truth. Also we are often biased by prejudices and our upbringings, we are in a habit of distorting the facts with our beliefs and often gossip so much that the essence is rarely conveyed.

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      photofk3 6 years ago

      A very thought-provoking lens here. I especially liked your point about religion. I have read the writings of Baron Paul Henry Holbach, Sam Harris and Christopher Hitchens. Their writings are completely logical, without a trace of contradiction or irrationality. And most importantly - when I read their writings, I found that I have already experienced the truthfulness of their claims long before I even read their works so what they say is nothing new to me.

      As for the war on terrorism, I think it was the right thing for the USA to defend itself after the terrorist attacks of 2001. Also, the world - and most importantly, Iraq - is better off without Saddam Hussein, even if the claims about WMDs were later found to be incorrect. Saddam was a brutal dictator anyway - and he violated 16 UN resolutions before Iraq was invaded in 2003. In the beginning of the war, US Marines have toppled the statue of Saddam in Baghdad, the Iraqis were happy - and they grateful to the Marines. And I have seen an interview in the Hungarian media with an Iraqi who lives in Hungary (he fled the Saddam regime long before the 2003 invasion), and he said that he is grateful that America liberated Iraq from Saddam. And, like much of the European media, the Hungarian media was not for the Iraq war, either. Now, in 2011, we have yet to see if Iraq will develop into a liberal democracy. I hope it will. So, to sum it up, I think that the liberation of Iraq was the right thing to do, even if several claims - such as about the WMDs - were later found to be incorrect.

      Why do I think that way? Well, because the history of Hungary shows that the use of force is sometimes necessary. After World War 1, Hungary had a pacifist defense minister, who said - "I do not want to see any soldiers". He disbanded the Hungarian Military. What happened after that? The Czech invaded Hungary. It became crystal clear that Hungary needs a military force and has to defend itself. Than the Hungarian Military was reorgonized and we expelled the Czechs. The other historical example of why military intervention is needed sometimes happened just slightly more than a decade ago, during the NATO intervention in the Balkans. Although it was not publicized in the media at the time, years after the NATO bombing campaign it was made public that Slobodan Milosevic wanted to implicate Hungary in the war. He wanted to occupy the Hungarian city of Szeged and several other areas. So the NATO bombing saved Hungary from a war. And it also ended the brutal actions of Milosevic in the Balkans. Today, Yugoslavia has a democratic leadership, although several tensions still exist there. I know that innocent people died in the NATO bombings - but many more innocent would have died if Milosevic could continue his policies. With the NATO intervention, far less people died in the Balkans - and none in Hungary. So the intervention saved lives. Based on this experience, I think it was the right thing to liberate Iraq - even if the some of the reasons that were cited to invade Iraq were exaggerated.

      But by all means, this is a great lens, one of the best lenses I ever read here on Squidoo. Thanks for sharing.

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      MargoPArrowsmith 6 years ago

      Also, many people believe the lies they tell, so technically it isn't a lie

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      MargoPArrowsmith 6 years ago

      Lots to think about here, but I think most people lie because they think it will be easier, although ultimately it isn't.

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      Lorelei Cohen 6 years ago from Canada

      This is indeed a very powerful article. Lies, white truths, fibs, and cover ups...it all amounts to the same thing. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season.

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      julieannbrady 7 years ago

      OMG, this is such a huge topic in so many respects. It is interesting, that attending Catholic school as a child, the fear of GOD was put into us kids. We would be almost going straight to Hell if we did lie. After all those confessions and a variety of penance, I've learned to be a very truthful person. Kind of too thinking about what grandma taught us; if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all. So ...

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      Moe Wood 7 years ago from Eastern Ontario

      I think forgiveness is an important factor in any relationship but when it comes to lying forgiveness only goes so far. I'm not talking about white lies like, I forgot. Also everything has to be taken on a case by case basis. Something things are just not forgivable (in the sense that the relationship continues); and that is each person's personal decision. But every effort needs to be put forth to forgive even if the relationship is over. I think it allows us to move forward and not dwell on what we can't change -- other people's behavior.

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      Kylyssa Shay 7 years ago from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA

      I think what you have to say here is very interesting. However, I don't agree that fiction is lies. Or, it might be more accurate to say, that fiction is a tool which sets a scene that never happened often to deliver a deeper truth or to point out a very important truth.

      In example, I wrote a short story which misleads us to believe that the main character is a creature, a monster but in the end I reveal that it's just a homeless teenage girl. The scenes never happened (mostly) but there is a truth in the fact that many people don't see the homeless as human which people won't hear if you just tell them instead of using a tool like this to show them.

      I think that sometimes the power of storytelling and myth can be used for good, to show unpalatable truths inside a bit of stage dressing. To me, it's like putting a large, mentally handicapped man's medicine in some honey rather than exhausting oneself physically struggling with him to get the medicine into him. He needs the medicine and giving it to him straight up might get both parties hurt and the sick man might not get his medicine. It's just important to make sure that the honey is pure and that the man is not a diabetic.

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      norma-holt 7 years ago

      @kerbev: The statement is not a lie and I have done my research. Prior to the technical side of procreation being realised the fundamentals of procreation were a mystery. The sun was thought to have implanted babies in a woman;s body and in many cultures women are kept out of the sun after puberty until they are married. Thus, it was easy for men to claim virgin births. Your lenses are very fiction orientated so I can understand where you are coming from. Yes, fiction is lies and it leaves me cold and dead inside. I cannot tolerate it as it interferes with my spirituality. Some people would not understand that unless they are spiritual themselves.

      Norma

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      kab 7 years ago from Upstate, NY

      "It is a recognized fact that all god men were once considered to have been born of virgins. Even Pythagorus had this claim attached to himself." I consider this statement to be a lie.

      And, you are anti-cartoon? Really? Do you consider all fiction to be lies or just the ones portrayed in simple animated artwork?