Why do People Lie?
Why the Need to Lie?
The majority of people follow rather than think for themselves. They do not use their brains to work things out because its easier to follow a leader, even if they are being lied to and they may not know they are being lied to because they don't check it out. If they believe lies they will also tell them. It's akin to jumping off into space and hoping there is a soft landing somewhere below. That's how I see things, anyway.
Liars are blind. They cover their eyes to the truth and hope that people they talk to are as stupid as themselves
My father instilled into his children that nothing will happen to you if you tell the truth, so why do people lie? This is a serious question and your response is required to understand why people lie.
You think religions don't lie, well they do! Politicians lie!, Parents lie! strangers lie! And most of all Hollywood lies! People will act out what happens before their eyes. If they are lied to they will probably lie, if they grow up with violence they will probably be violent, if they grow up with abuse they will probably be abusers. Can you change your ways?
If you lie it is important to remember what you told and to whom and then to cover yourself or the swords will be out to cut you down The risk is that you either live the lie or risk being branded a liar for all time. Lies hurt, are unnecessary and usually come from people who are weak willed and/or not confident about themselves. That doesn't mean that well educated people don't lie. Senior people in all walks of life do it. Why do people engage in make-believe, such as Christmas and tell lies to their children about things like Santa Claus? Why do people have faith in religious doctrines that are completely unsubstantiated? Why do they believe in heaven and hell that are without a presence and certainly have no evidence in support?
These are only some of the questions that could be asked along this line. There are hundreds of reasons why people are confused by lies and misinformation and this lens is the tip of the iceberg, but it might get you thinking
Covering Up is a Lie
White lies are still lies
When someone close to me lies it hurts. Many times things are done behind my back so that I don't find out, or the liar thinks that will be the case. But I do find out and then there is a relationship issue because trust is gone. The die is cast and nothing can undo it.
Recently some close relatives hid the facts about their son and brother's marriage partner for fear of causing trouble.. Although they knew she was destroying the marriage and possibly was seeing someone else they kept the secret so he would not find out. The fear they had was that it would cause trouble but they did not consider the pain he received when she eventually told him and it cost him everything.
They deliberately sat back and watched this man quit his job, sell his house, move hundreds of miles to a much more expensive area and do everything he could because his wife demanded it. But they swear they love him dearly. Within days of moving the wife announced the end of their marriage and advised him of her new boy friend. The man was torn apart and now in his forties has to start over. With no job and the prospects he may not get one if he had been told by his relatives about the problems things may have been much better for him. He now rents a flat and sees his children only on her terms. I asked Why?
But I know the answer. It is easier for certain types to avoid telling someone the truth because it can backfire, or so they might think. What would have been better? If the man knew about the affairs she was having, and which were plastered all over Facebook so that anyone could read it, would he have made such a mess of his life if he had known? Now I wonder how they, who concealed it, can live with themselves? But they see nothing wrong in their actions.
Is that why people lie? Is it because the other party may hate you for speaking the truth? What kind of world do we live in when this happens? Is it better in this case to sacrifice the loved one rather than see him/her hurt by the truth? It's a fact that his mother was lied to as a child, she believes in fairy tales and all that rubbish and was reared believing that it is better not to own up to something than face the music. For me it is very sad because she tries so hard to please everyone.
People who believe in fairy tales, as they do, act in an inappropriate way when it comes to the truth. I see this over and over where people are not at peace within themselves or with others. It is like they are being chased by a monster although they make themselves out to be the knight in shining armour. They twist things around to make issues that seem right to them appear the same to others. It doesn't matter how their lies affect their audience. To me this is abuse and when it comes from parents and siblings it is of the worst kind.
Single, divorced and adoptive parents lie about a child's parentage to cover their tracks. If you think you are mislead and need to find a missing parent then this company can help you. It can also iscover whether a partner is genuine, is or has been married and if it is safe to continue a relatrionship. Lovers are notorious liars and partners are robbed of their money, property and other things while your life is in ruins. Be sure, not sorry.
Before you employ someone or use their services run a background check. These days the crooks are out there in numbers ot find opening to rob, kidnap, steal, defraud and so on.
Even banks are being taken for millions by members of their own staff. There are numous cases of identity theft and even one's house and other property being sold from under the, while the owners are away.
Do you know who your neighbor is or your business partner for that matter.
Parents Lying to their Children - Partners lying to each other
Would you prefer to know about your partners affair with another person?
Wars Start With Lies - Power born of Lies
The Iraq war started with lies about weapons of mass destruction. The 9/11 tragedy was the result of lies about heaven and hell and Islam. The 30 years war in Ireland was one branch of Christianity competing with another, yet they read from the same book and supposedly pray to the same God. There are hundreds of cases of wars that start because of lies, power struggles and dictators who think only about their own glory.
Is it all about themselves. Do they lie to avoid being caught out about something or is it that they simply want to confuse the listener over the facts?
Or they find it easier to lie than tell the truth?
Does lying come natural for many people
Lying to Children is Child Abuse - Lies hurt children
Parents and adults in general lie about all types of things to children. Things they think they shouldn't hear or are to young to know about. But isn't it better to be open with them and explain in detail what they face in the world. Don't fill their heads with rubbish and untruths. Give the facts and help them to cope. If you lie to your children ABOUT ANYTHING they will lie back to you. If they loose trust in you where can they turn?
Lies are the beginning of a life gone wrong. If you respect a young person's mind then give her or him credit to decide for themselves. You are not in their skin so don't make it tougher for them than it already is.
This video goes a step further.
Some Religious People are Killers - Yet they claim to preserve life
This video shows how a doctor was killed by people who were anti-abortionists and yet they killed a man, a doctor. So who is the liar, the real murderer. Religion has always killed those it considers in opposition to its beliefs. There are always those ready to believe the lies and do the killing or blow themselves up for the cause. WHAT CAUSE? Only that for which they have no evidence and which is based on more lies or mishandling of the truth.
Are these political lies
Politicians say whatever they think will get them elected. No one is immune from this failing. After the election, for one reason or another, the promises no longer matter in the long run.
What do you consider a lie? - Is there a degree of lying?
Is it best to take people seriously at all times? Should we accept what they say without question or should we be skeptical and distrust what they do and say ?
Should we search for the evidence to prove it one way or the other?
Just Give us Your Money - Christian Lies
What a performance. Actors in church and people fall for their lies.
Do you consider any of the following lies? - Or are we not allowed to question them?
- The Pope claims that he speaks for God - but people of other faiths and agnostics think he is lying
- He also claims that condoms do not prevent Aids and yet it is a proven fact that they do. So where does he get his facts?
- Jesus Christ was born of a virgin and yet we know that genes are required from both parents to produce an offspring.
- It is a recognized fact that all god men were once considered to have been born of virgins. Even Pythagorus had this claim attached to himself.
- Why do parents lie to children about Santa and fairies?
- Why do we feed children cartoons and ridiculous images?
- Are children turned into liars by the make-believe of their younger years?
- Do parents lie to their children because of their own childhood memories?
- Is it right to sit a young child on the knee of a strange man that they expect will give them toys and other goodies?
Do you think that lies hurt children?
Demonstration against political lies
Occasionally people revolt against the lies and dictators and government will fall. But where the power is strong this cannot always happen, as in Zimbabwe where thousands die from poor government, lack of facilities and resources and a dictator who has only himself in mind. But it is happening elsewhere as well, such as in Budapest.
Lies that make you act
Who are the best liars in society?
Commercially you are targeted every time you walk into a shop. The signs that confront you - Buy Now - Huge Discounts - Specials - Sale - Bargains, and so on, are triggers that make you open your purse and extract money. But shops have a habit of marking things up in order to mark them down so that you THINK you are getting a bargain. Its a well known fact that you can sell anything at a discount much easier than at the real price. So is this form of lying OK?
Politicians notoriously promise what you want to hear before an election and then when they get in they change it around and often do the opposite. Is this because they are liars or simply playing a game. If you expect your politician will do something good for you its human nature that you should vote for him. But what happens when you find out that he lied.
We had a case like this in Australia when John Howard promised that he would never introduce a GST (Goods and Services Tax). yet as soon as he was elected in it came. He also promised he would not sell the national phone carrier and yet when he was elected he got rid of it quick smart. So were they lies, or clever politics. He was dumped at the next election and now his party is in complete disarray.
Every day on the Internet there are people promising that you can make a fortune overnight if you buy such and such a program. Then they brag about the millions of dollars they are making by doing just that. Is this a lie or clever marketing?
You see people accept these things and trust the authors of them until they find out otherwise. But really who can we trust? If parents lie to us that is the worst type of deception that children have to live with forever. We can get rid of politicians, salesmen and others but we can never change our parents. So why do they lie to their children?
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