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Work After Baby

Updated on March 12, 2013

Many New Parents Struggle with the Choice

After the little bundle of joy arrives and maternity or paternity leave starts drawing to an end, many new moms and dads are faced with choosing whether or not having a parent stay at home or return to work is best for their family. I know I felt a strong pull to quit my job and make maternity leave a permanent venture, though I did return to work.

This page is meant to be an interactive debate where we can learn and grow from each other. I believe this is an extremely personal decision and there is no right or wrong side of the fence to be on. There is no one size fits all answer so to speak. However, it's still a choice that can be an extremely difficult one to make for any number of reasons. Having information and recommendations from real people may help guide someone into making the best decision for themselves and their family.

Bonding with baby is so important in those early months and it can be crushing to return to work after a leave of absence, allowing daycare to take over your daytime parenting role. In the same respect leaving work may be a set back to your career or financial well being, and even more so if you take an extended leave for the first few years of the child's life.

For every Pro in one direction you're met with a Con in the other. Please help us hash out a good Pro and Con list on this family and life changing subject.

Photo used under Creative Commons from ECohen.

The Pros & Cons of Staying at Home

Focus on the advantages, special experiences, and memories that would not have been created if you had no made the choice to be a stay at home mom or dad.

Focus on the not so great or annoying aspects of not returning to a career after baby.

The Pros & Cons of Returning to Work

Focus on the advantages, special experiences, and memories that would not have been created if you had not made the choice to return to work. Are you a do it all Careerwoman and a Supermom? How do you make it work?

Focus on the bad or downside to being a working parent? Do you feel like you miss out on certain aspects of home life?

What was your choice?

We've worked through the Pros and Cons - Lets take a side on work after baby

Which type of parent are you and why did you make that choice?

Stay at Home Dads - Are becoming more prevalent

If life were easy, and there were no what if's... - if only...

Photo used under Creative Commons from jefield.

Which choice would you make, if there were no cons in staying at home or working?

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Thank you so much for participating in this debate. I hope it will help parents trying to decide what will be best for their families and give them food for thought to lead them in the right direction.

Still have something left to say? - Feel free to do so here. Thank for your sharing your thoughts!

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    • draik profile image


      7 years ago

      Another thing to add is that it is really hard for me when I go back to work. I came back home feeling like a dead fish everyday until my body was used to waking up early and working. I took months looking for a job because I stated in my resume that I cannot work overtime due to family commitment. My feet hurts like hell because it was not used to being in a pair of "business" shoes all day long. However, my son was there to kiss and hug all my miserable days away.

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      7 years ago

      I was able to stay at home to raise my children. I was self-employed from the home also. Children are our future, and I didn't want strangers raising them, and didn't live close enough to family.

    • MagpieNest profile image


      7 years ago

      Being a working parent takes a lot of planning. In my experience it's better if both parents work part time rather than one parent quitting their career. In our case we both work at the same place and live 5 minutes from work and our daycare is in the same road - that took some planning. (Great topic for a lens!)

    • hayleylou lm profile image

      hayleylou lm 

      7 years ago

      This will be a good lens to re-visit when you the debate starts :)


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