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How Many Times have You Broken up with the Same Person

Updated on May 14, 2015

Relationships are Tough and can get Tougher Over Time.

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Relationships are Great Experiences.

Breaking up with someone more than once and still getting back together or married.

Did that happen to you?

You must have read many times, either on line, or in guide-books.

Breaking up with a partner and not staying friends should be a best idea.

You feel the same mistake will be repeated twice in your relationship and that you don't need in your life.

Though, that has been said, most couples break up, stay friends, and get back into their relationship. Sometimes even marrying each other at later stages.

An example as follows:

Angel was with her boyfriend for six months. She broke up with him once, and he broke up with her three times.

These break-ups happened in the first four to five months.

Somehow they found their differences and decided to break up.

Another couple broke up twice in the couple of months, and still managed to get back together.

Sometimes you break up to spend time with other people, and want to date different people to see how you find yourself in different experiences.

You split from the relationship and get back together again.

Thinking it would work out the second time round.

It doesn't always work out does it?

Yet you still choose to get back break-up and get back again.

  • Has this happened to you in past dating experiences?

  • What are the most times you have broken up with someone, or with the same person?

  • When you broke up did you still speak to your past love?

    For Example:

An incident with a couple who broke up for a month. One night she called him up and asked to help her set up her television set.

He went over to her place, helped her out with the task, and felt hungry afterward. They chose to go out for something to eat had a few snappy shots of alcoholic drinks. He ended up sleeping at her place.

She was insecure in sleeping at her new place, and asked him to stay over. The experience had been taken as a mixed message to her. Thinking he wanted to get back with her. After their break up of a seven year relationship that can be a misleading thought.

  • Maybe you did not get back together self-respect counts doesn't it?

It is pointless getting back in a relationship though celebrities keep on doing it.

If you get back together after a breakup it can feel good.

  • If it did not work out for the first time what makes you think it will work the second time?

Trusting somebody again is not always as simple. Such choices does not work out for everyone. It is not worth going through a relationship after a break up, also all depends on the issues one had experienced.

You can lose track of how many times you have broken up with someone. Some couples have these experiences more than twice. This makes it hard to let go.

Thinking that someone is going to change for you, and to think the changes will be good again is a dream that will not be fulfilled.

  • Who will change for who or another?

Breaking up many times and getting back together with the same person can be most confusing.

  • Why do people date other people?

  • Why do people want to take time-out from each other?

Understand the meaning of dating. It is not just about hanging out with someone on weekends dating is about having someone for much longer in your life, and that can be for months or years.

A partner whom you can rely on, trust, have faith in and share your a big part of your life. You can go on many dates until you find that someone you think is really the one for you.

You would eventually want to have a family, and settle down and buy yourself a new home. Build a foundation and grow together.

  • A commitment does not come lightly.

People often go back on their word, and when you see that in your date you know that person is not the one for you.

Tolerating each other is a huge part of your relationship. Breaking upon numerous occasions is not going to make much right in your life or relationship.

You could have a poor marriage. If you get back together with someone who goes back on their word. After all, that could be the reason of your break up in the first place.

Problems can be overlooked if you don’t make the problem.

If you don’t see your relationship as an experience, you could see your relationship as the problem then don't get back together.

Respect is crucial in a marriage, or any relationship for that matter. Accept each other, and you will see how much better you can be together with your partner.

A relationship of four years and has been on and off, he in his thirties, she is much younger and in her twenties.

The decisions along the way went hand in hand, until she broke up with him due to going to different schools.

Things changed and they did not want to be together anymore.

She broke up with him three times, and he chose to be friends with her. He convinced his girlfriend they would be together again.

You have shown her many good times while together. You had made her see that only you can give her what she wants and needs, and that nobody else can do that for her.

The problem he has been divorced twice, and she has never been married. Her decision was not to be with anyone.

  • Should you try to keep someone who doesn't want to keep you?

Anybody can break up with anyone, he with her or she with him.

  • Who is at fault when you break up?

  • How long did you be apart for before reconciliation?

  • How many times can you breakup and makeup with someone before marriage?

When you break up for the first time, and get back together that should be a lesson learned and you should not blame it on love.

The second time when you break up blame it on fate.

If you break up for the third time then you can say you were meant to be together.

Breaking up for the fourth time, well that must be your stupidity, and by then your friends would be quite irritable with your faulty relationship.

In the process you can lose more of your friends because of your miserable relationship.

The constant complaining, and aching can be annoying to your friends.

At the fifth break up your friends have had it with you. They will stay away from you until you work out your life.

  • Why would he or she be you ex?

There must be a reason for the break up it can be about your personality or behavior.

At any other point after the fifth time you got to seek professional help.

Move on to something new. Sometimes loneliness brings you back together.

There are a couple of important aspects one can learn from dealing with relationships, and with friends.

Don't tell friends the unnecessary details. Focus on the most important details. They can get tired and bored with your complaining.

When you reach a certain age, you have to work it out on your own.

Find your significant other and move on.

When you are young and in love you think you have it all.

  • Should you cut all ties with someone after a break up?

You are not always ready for a commitment.

  • Do you fear commitment?

Many relationships don't end at the first break up.

  • Can two people love each other the same?

  • Why do you get back to the same person after so many break ups?

You are afraid of being alone.

The fear of commitment, taking the next step, and dating other people, can all make one feel insecure about another date.

Safety is another aspect of one’s life.

Nobody will love you again or the same as he or she once did.

You don't want to feel abandoned.

Blame gets in the way.

Loving someone unconditionally is all part of what you experience in a relationship. Holding on to what have is most important of all.

Breaking up with Your Partner More than Once

Breaking up more than once

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Now you are writing about Bev and me. We broke up four times before we finally settled down and made it work. Relationships are oh so difficult, especially when both parties carry so much emotional baggage. :) Great thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc you know it happens to so many couples glad it worked out for thanks for sharing part of your experience have a good day

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      DDE, sometimes if it's a sexual relationship, the couple gets back together for the sex, but the problems are still there and they resurface causing another breakup. There could be a host of other reasons. Thank you for making us think about it.

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      I know.... I will not be very original again. I never broke up :-) And I am very happy it's that way!

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      I've never been married and have never gotten back together with anyone after one or the other of us have broke off the relationship. Basically it came down to we weren't right for each other and I doubt getting back together would've changed that.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Yeah happened once to me, or twice, or so...lol

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora, you made a good point about the sex so true thanks very much for commenting

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kidscrafts good point you are the original thanks very much for sharing your comment

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sheilamyers interesting relationships don't always work out the same for everyone thanks very much for commenting on my hubs

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jackie Lynnley so glad you stopped by thanks for commenting

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      I tended to see break-ups as one-time things. On-again and off again and you develop such instability that I don't want that as the basis of any long-term relationship, let alone marriage. That kind of behavior was a deal breaker.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello FlourishAnyway so nice of you to come by here, thanks for sharing your thoughtful message

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      Pamela Oglesby 3 years ago from United States

      Relationships can be so complicated, and they sure require a lot of acceptance. I think the stars are sort of in another category because they often have so much money and a big fan base. They travel alone quite often also.

      I think if you keep breaking up that you might as well move on. It is like banging your head on the wall sometiesm. Interesting hub.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Pamela99 thanks for commenting on How Many Times have You Broken up with the Same Person, so glad you came by

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      Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

      This has never happened to me. But I think I will never connect with the same person again.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Vinaya Ghimire you made a good point and thanks for commenting here

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      anita 3 years ago

      How can u have a realtionship no phone calls,personel letters nor via personal text,no dates no nothing im fed up,i need hands on realtionship not alien.i need a man who knows what he wants n mature enough to ask me out really take me.after a yr n nothings happen.ihavent even spent time with this guy its crazy.im done.its no fool like an old fool.next:-)

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi anita How Many Times have You Broken up with the Same Person is a normal issue in relationships it happens all the time but not every one will go back to the same person. Thank you for commenting I appreciate you coming by.

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      Samantha 2 years ago

      My ex and I dated the first time for a month, and I was too busy at the time for a relationship, so we broke up. 7 months later we reunited, we were extremely happy and lasted a year, breaking up in May 2014. He said he needed to be alone. He tried to date another girl, but two weeks into their relationship, he came to Mr. Told me he was with her and miserable because I'm all he wants. So after working everything out, we date again, only to last two and a half weeks. He said he can't stay happy, that we are great, and I did nothing wrong, he's just not happy. Everyone says he loves me, and I believe him when he tells me he does. he said we could stay friends, and maybe someday be more than friends

      What if he dates again? We always manage to come back to each other. Is it over for good, or is there still a chance. Im so confused, because i love this boy a lot!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Samantha I think it is over for good he is not happy and not sure of what he wants. He comes to you and leaves you needing to be alone again. It is confusing but if he truly loved you he would not treat you like that.When two people love each other they don't just ask for timeout and come back again to each other. He will date again and do the exact same as before with you. Is that what you want him to do? It is time to move on. Sounds like love is only from your side he is confused boy and not about his dating activities.I hope i helped you with your thoughts thank you for sharing your story.

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      I broke up twice and still married the same guy

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      peachpurple thank you for sharing your experience here

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      Tony 2 years ago

      I've broke up with my ex about 3 times the last time I told her I wasn't happy with the relationship.and after two weeks she went on her first date but she claims theirs no one likens she can't live with out me and that I'm her everything but she started dating before me idk what to do help me ??

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Tony sorry for the late reply. It sounds like she is not sure of what she really wants. If someone really wants to be with a partner they don't behave in this manner. It is time she made up her mind of what makes her happy. Not being able to live without you is not the only part of a relationship. Dating before you means she wants to experience new dating partners. If she loved you truly she wouldn't date so soon.

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      Anonymous 22 months ago

      I broke up with my girlfriend twice, each time it was due to me being afraid she was going to leave me, we're back together now. While I did want more romance and presence from her in her relationship, we both also realized that I have abandonment and self-esteem issues. I'm seeing a therapist, and she's communicating with me more/being more romantic. I hope it works out, if not, then lesson learned.

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      Devika Primić 22 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great and so courageously thought of. A lesson learned always shows you the better side of you. Thank you

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      destiny 16 months ago

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      Tamara Wilhite 13 months ago from Fort Worth, Texas

      If you have broken up two or more times, you are not a match and should move on to find someone else who is a better match.

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      Devika Primić 13 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tamarawilhite thank you for stopping by here I appreciate it.

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