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Non verbal ways to love someone

Updated on July 12, 2011

The word "I Love You" has lost it's meaning

The word "I love you " has become cheep, thrown around and said in passing. The saying no longer has the impact that it used to. What does have meaning though is the non-verbal way in which we can show someone how we love them. This can be with a good friend, parent, spouse, partner, child, someone that we care for and love deeply. Show them instead of telling them "I Love You" in five non-verbal ways.

Before the invention of the phone words had more meaning because when we expressed them it was face to face. With the invention of the telephone and then later the computer and cell phone it cut our face to face communication in half. Making words the primary form of communication rather than body language and facial expressions. Men especially are more communicative in the form of showing rather than talking.

Learning how to improve our non-verbal communications skills is a valuable tool. Showing your loved one how much you care for them without words is an expression of love.

Active listening

One of the best ways to show someone that we love them is to listen to them actively.

This means allowing them to speak to you without judgement or criticism and with an open mind. Many parents forget to do this simple task with their children. Ask your child how their day was. Listen without judging or wanting to give suggestions, have an open mind. The way your child responds to you may surprise you! We can also try this with a spouse or partner and be amazed by the results of simple active listening .Active listening may feel uncomfortable at first if we are not used to it, but don't give up, this is a wonderful way of showing someone how much you love them without saying anything. When we give someone we care about our full attention it is showing them that we want to hear what they are saying and that they are important to us.

Eye Contact

When we give our loved ones eye contact we are showing them that we are paying attention to what they are saying.  When speaking to that special someone, look them in the eyes and give them your full attention.  Most children will respond to this with parents in a very positive way.  This also works very well with husband and wife, a woman will really appreciate it when her husband can look her in the eye when she is speaking to him, even if it is just for a short time.  This type of non-verbal communication will show a woman how much her husband loves her by paying attention to what she is saying. 

Give a person a hug

Lots of hugs ! We kiss, we touch, but a good hug goes a long way. The best hugs to give are the unexpected ones.

When your loved one is down or had a rough day, instead of asking them what is wrong, just give them a big bear hug and watch the tension fade away. Hugging kids and parents, friends and even someone you just met can change that persons mood and make them feel special and loved .

If you are uncomfortable withhugging then work on it. We are humans and we are made to be touched, loved and hugged and communicated with in that way. When we are able to open ourselves up to others and make them feel better than we will feel better in return, This is one non-verbal way of saying I love you that will never go out of style.


Showing Patience

The old saying that patience is a virtue is true, and for those we love it seems to be in short supply. Many times we have more patience for those we don't know rather than for the people we truly love. Showing your patience for a loved one is showing that you love them and they are worth the extra time. When you are patient with a child, or a spouse it will change their mood and they may feel less anxious around you. Patience is a wonderful non-verbal way to say I love you!

Smile at someone you love

Smiling communicates that you are enjoying the other persons company. It is wonderful to be around a person who is happy and knows how toshow it. Sometimes even when you are down or in a bad mood, fake a smile on your face and you will see a change in yourself. You can even master this one alone and practice smiling when you feel down. There is nothing better than to come home to someone with a big smile on their face and a warm hug. A big smile is also a way of showing thanks in a non-verbal way.

A Diamond Says I Love You!

When all else fails you can always buy her a diamond,

What is that saying, "A diamond is a girls best friend" or "Say I love you with a diamond"


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      mike 4 years ago

      Thanks for your article very interesting.

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      JP Carlos 5 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      Small things do matter in a relationship. Sometimes we fail to realize how important a hug can be. A simple smile or just focusing on the other person for a change. Voted up and shared.

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      dipsmi 6 years ago from Plymouth, Minnisota

      such a sweet hub on such a sensitive issue...

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      Naomi's Banner 6 years ago from United States

      Excellent advice on love and affection. It is amazing how just taking five minutes of your day and looking them in the eye while they tell you about their day makes them feel you really care compared to doing something else and saying I'm listening, what did you say? Great Hub.

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      Dawn Michael 7 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      thank you michael ely

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      michael ely 7 years ago from Scotland

      Hi dawnM, A really good article with a lot of valuable points made.

      Thanks. Michael.

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      katiem2 7 years ago from I'm outta here

      powerful stuff, oh yes the things we communicate non-verbally :)

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      unkn0wN 7 years ago

      perfect right on the money now a days i love you does not mean much unless you got back up !

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      Dawn Michael 7 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      thank-you solar for your wonderful comment!!!!!

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      SOLAR383 7 years ago from BRADFORD UK

      Very good hub, having an open mind is where both partners can understand each other yes - I like that & communication is a must as you have described which requires time for each other without this things start going wrong.

      The word I love you on its own is never enough which I have experienced in my life we often settle for this not knowing the ongoing changes that grow within your partner without you being aware.

      So the word I love you should be backed by other things you mentioned which I liked very much - GOOD WORK!