Is Chivalry Officially Dead???
A few weeks ago I was headed to work to begin the daunting task of surviving yet another mundane Monday. As I headed out of the parking garage I noticed a younger gentleman a few steps ahead of me walking in the same direction. We briskly headed toward the doors as I struggled to carry my tote bag, purse, and sunglasses. Just before exiting the lower level of the garage, I looked down to watch my step on the last stair. Suddenly I looked back up and… BAM! The heavy glass door shut just inches away from my face. The gentleman (actually not so much anymore) who was walking ahead of me continued across the street, oblivious to the act of rudeness that had just occurred. To be quite frank my level of irritation went from a zero to a ten immediately. To think of how extremely close we were in proximity left me perplexed. Reflecting back to that moment, I had to at least be close enough to reach out and tap him on the shoulder. However we could not have been further apart, when it relates to values and respect for old fashioned tradition. It probably would have taken little to no extra effort for him to hold the door open for just a few seconds longer, but for some reason or another he chose not to. I remember thinking, “Where is a man’s chivalry when a woman truly needs it?”
As I attempted to calm my nerves by thinking “happy thoughts” my mind continued to wander else where. I found myself reflecting on all the dates I’ve gone on in the past year. How many times have I had my door opened? How often has my chair been pulled out for me? Had anyone taken the time to assist me in taking off my coat? Did they remember to place themselves on the outside of the sidewalk (closest to the street), so as to protect me from some unforeseen accident with a motorist by chance? Humm… Most of the guys that I’ve dated were considerate enough to open the door for me when we entered establishments but very seldom had they opened car doors. On top of all that, they hardly ever cared enough to walk me to my front door, that is, unless they were expecting something at the end of the evening.
Years ago (before my time) it was normal for a man to provide extra care towards a woman’s needs and safety. I remember how negatively my grandfather thought of young men who refused to introduce themselves to him and my grandmother when picking up one of their daughters for a date. Although my grandparents were considered very traditional God-fearing people this was a way of life all throughout the country years ago. Now try to fast forward to the new millennium…Many parents in this generation seem to have no idea who their children are going out with, let alone where their children are. Which brings me to this point… Is it possible that the lack of chivalry that is displayed in the younger generation stems from the shortage of good fathers or good parenting altogether?
As I watched the clip of the gentlemen (and I use the term loosely) who has been nick-named “The Bailer” I have to wonder where the disconnect occurred. For those of you who are not in the know, here is a brief synopsis of what occurred. Last week during the Houston Astros game, a couple (Bo & Sarah) in attendance unknowingly became the target of a speeding ball. Chris Johnson, who was up for bat, sent a foul ball flying in their direction. As the fast traveling ball was headed towards them Bo stood on his feet in hopes of catching it. However, the ball neared the couple and in fear of actually being hit Bo dodged the ball, bailing on his girlfriend Sarah. As a result, Sarah was struck with the foul ball instead. Because this awkward moment was caught of camera, this couple has become quite famous, and has since broken up. If you’d like to see the actual footage you can You Tube “Bo The Bailer”. There is no way anyone can refute the fact that this Bo character did not have a chivalrous bone in his body. I admit that the clip of this incident is quite humorous but his reaction represents one of the problems present in the generation of men we are raising.
While a great number of people view the idea of chivalry as being antiquated, I am sure there are many more people who respect traditional values and beliefs. The question is, what can we do to make sure that chivalry does not die? In my opinon this responsibility falls mostly on the parents. We have to teach our daughters to expect chivalry. Truly they are delicate stones worthy of being treated with the utmost respect. We must also teach our sons how to treat women or better yet ladies. If the fathers aren't present, moms have to step up and carry the torch. But... it doesn't end there. Let us make room for mentors and individuals who are considered role models to revive chivalry in the younger generation. Everyone has a responsibility to share in the knowledge, values, and traditions that they have learned. Otherwise, we'll raise a self centered and misdirected generation who have no regard for values or tradition. With this being said, DO YOUR PART to ensure that "Chivalry Is Dead" becomes a quote of the past.