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" Love doesn't live here anymore"

Updated on December 3, 2009

"Love doesn't live here anymore"

In so many relationships, somewhere down the road; one or each of the parties involved realize for themselves, that love  doesn't live here anymore. When couples are deep in love or shall I say lust, they often grow apart from each other; and realize they no longer love or lust after the person they thought was their dream come true.  There are so many incidents that damage a relationship beyond repair and we grow tired and weary of those that we're suppose to love. When we are misused and abused, by the other party,our love starts to wane; and after many months or years of taking emotional or physical abused, we realize that the love we thought we had for the other person no longer exist.

When I was married to my children dad, he verbally and physically abused me; and I guess we don't realize with each aciton a person performed against the person that you suppose to love ,takes away the emotional part of love. My husband at the time wasn't only an; he was a male whore, that would sleep around with anything wearing a skirt.  He also had two outside children on me while we were still married, you some people have morals of an alley cat.  I married him when I was very young and naive; but I always believe that you married for keeps, but after reading the bible about the women at the well with the six husbands, I can to the realization that everyone we marry isn't our husbands or wife.

After learning about the truth and outcome of some marriages, I still wanted to try and make my marriage work, but I didn't know at the time that it wasn't a marriage; it was just a travesty. well after going through so much with my husband at the time, I came to the realization that love doesn't live here anymore.  In all relationship it takes two to make any relationship work; we can't do it alone and we should stop while we're ahead. You will soon understand thata all the love you had for you special person has turned into hate and disgust and that's when you really realize that love doesn't live here anymore,

I'm sure many of you have went through the love doesn't live here anymore syndrome, because when it's over, it's over and it can't be fixed, because you're the only one trying and when you except that and throw in the towel, the relationship dies a sudden death.

Benny Faye Douglass


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      StricktlyDating 8 years ago from Australia

      Great original and authentic Hub on this topic creativeone! Best wishes!

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      Alfreta Sailor 8 years ago from Southern California

      Very informative hub creativeone. Looking forward to reading more of the same.

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      RevLady 8 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      Creativeone, it seems as if domestic violence is becoming epidemic. It is disturbing to read of many (mostly men) who are not only abusing but killing their families and then themselves.

      I thank God that He led and strengthened you to take the steps necessary to free yourself from Satan's evil.

      All glory to God! Amen.

      Love and hugs,

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you esllr, you and my other fans make my heart very joyful, because you all always say something to touch my heart and I wouldn't have it any other way. I appreciate your comments and feedback. God bless you. creativeone59

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      esllr 8 years ago

      Thank you so much for sharing this hub, so many are embarrassed that this could happen to them. But this is life.

      The children are hurt and confused about what a healthy relationship is and this is why many stay in bad relationships as adults,this may be all they know.

      Thank You again for writing this wonderful hub. It took me back. I too was in a horrible relationship.

      What kind of family would I have if I stayed? I shudder to think. It's never to late to save you and your children or potential family.

      One moment of being loved and cherished is better than a bad husband or boyfriend to tear you down .

      Creativeone I'm glad you picked you.

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      thank you Veronica for supporting my writing and thanks for your commnent and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Veronica Allen 8 years ago from Georgia

      I so agree with BkCeative, our relationships - especially one so intimate as marriage - should build us up, not tear us down. So many women and men go through this on a daily basis and I know your words will help them see that there is a way out and that they are worthy of being with someone who will truly love and care for them.

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you BK, it's always good to know that someone else can relate to your experience, it makes it a little easier. thank you for your cooment, feedback and supoort. I appreciate you to the highest. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you sweet lady for your comment, I knew some else went through the same madness, I endure in a bad relationship. thanks for your feedback. blessing to you dear. creativeone59

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      Hello, hello, 8 years ago from London, UK

      Hello, creativeone59, and I know exactly what you mean. You choosen a perfect title and every word is so perfect. I wasn't very young and we were courting for a long time and I thought I knew him but as you say 'Alley Cat'. I think it is like gambling or drinking, they can't leave off. Congratulation for a grand hub.

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      BkCreative 8 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      So true! We have to get out and away because after all we are entitled to be healthy, wealthy, and wise. No one should be entitled to take away our health and happiness.

      Thanks for sharing and showing some women that the options may be limited but sometimes there is no choice - and I can truthfully attest to the fact that life is better if you leave an inadequate relationship.

      Your relationships should empower you - not weaken you.