- Gender and Relationships
The five worst personality traits
The Judger: This is the type of person who is constantly finding fault in others, they have unrealistic expectations of those around them.It does not matter what others in their lives do right, they will continue to find fault. It is exhausting to be around these people, as being in their presence is a constant drain. In the end, People begin to stop trying to please them or being around them because they know they will never perform anything right. The sad fact is that many people of this type never realize that by being this way, they are in fact failing themselves, and depriving themselves of fulfilling relationships and life experiences.
The Nagger: There are many out there that can lay claim this this personality trait. The nagger, similar to the judger is a huge drain on other people. They are often, although not always very stubborn. In their defense, their nagging often comes from a place of love. Most of us in our lifetime have been subject to nagging by our mums and dads, trying to get us to do the right thing. However i'm talking about a different kind of nagger, and it's the people that make it their ultimate past time that begin to have a problem. The nagger is a very annoying personality type because they never let up, and most of the time they become bullies. That is they nag so much, and tend to be aggressive and in people's face that the other party will eventually give in. Unfortunately, this outcome often encourages the nagger because they figure that in the end their opponent has seen the light!!!
The do nothing: The do nothing is one of the most frustrating personality types, because they always give you the impression that simply do not care, they are un-responsive to managing important situations in life, and are often difficult to trust with responsibility, They seem to have 'memory lapses' when asked why they did not perform a task, they seem to simply forget. This is consequently due to their relaxed attitude, where they take life's problems in their stride, that is they believe life will some how sort out the problem for them. Often, 'the do nothing' is an escapist, that is they will escape responsibility by indulging themselves into something more fun. Clearly, these are the people that have extreme difficulty in coping, life seems to feel daunting to them so they simply play it down,
The Aggressor: The aggressor is clearly someone who has a lot of built up frustration, and often they fail to deal with their frustration; anger, hurt and feelings in general. As a result, their aggression often comes in outbursts. It is most often directed at those they care about most and they can be the most hurtful of people. They have an attitude that 'everything that goes wrong in the world happens to them.' They look at themselves as victims who cant get a break. It often pains them to see others succeed. Due to their high level of frustration, they receive release by aggressive outbursts.This type of personality never finds inner peace until they learn to speak up and deal with their emotions as they arise.
The over opinionated: This is the type of personality where the person has to throw their two bobs into every discussion. They simply can't hold back their opinion because it is to valuable. This can become very frustrating for those around them, as others become set into the background and their opinions go unheard. The 'Over opinionated' clearly has narcissistic qualities because they fail to see or understand that they are too dominant, and that their's is not the only opinion that counts. In the long run, they often defeat their own purpose as those around them become so frustrated and sick of their voice, that they stop listening to their opinions.
It is fair to say that at least one time in our lives or another, we have all been consumed by one or more of these personality traits, the facts are that it's normal. This article is not meant to place blame or make other people feel guilty, rather it is just a wake up call to those who may not realize what they are doing to erode their relationships and self-worth. Lets face it, life is so busy and it is so easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle and lose sight of everything. It is my personal opinion, that life would not be worth living without valuable relationships.