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Tips to being a good husband

Updated on July 22, 2011
Me with my beautiful wife Tracie
Me with my beautiful wife Tracie | Source

The purpose of this hub is to give you some ideas that may help you be a better husband.

Most of this is just common sense and strictly my opinion.

Keep your wife satisfied in the bedroom

It is a fact that if you aren't taking care of your wife"s needs in the bedroom,then someone else may be doing it for you soon.

Most women need sex & often, now this may not be the case with your partner,if you aren't sure just ask her. She will tell you if you aren't meeting her needs.

Tell her you love her everyday

You can't tell a loved one that you love them too much.

Many women are insecure and they need to know that you love them,so do your job & tell her you love her everyday.

Take her out for dinner

This is a must if you have kids & your wife works.

The last thing she wants to do after work is come home and cook so surprise her by taking her out to dinner on occasion.

It does not have to be a expensive dinner, just take her out & if you can't afford it then cook her a meal, she may even like that better than being taken out to eat.

Give your wife a massage

People pay good money to be massaged & there is a reason for that.

They help to relieve stress & anxiety and a massage from a husband makes a wife feel sexy and that she is loved & important.

Start with the back and legs the do the arms and even the feet,trust me your wife deserves it.

Remember that a massage should last around 20-30 minutes so take the time and do it right.

Help out around the house

Your wife isn't your mom or your maid, she shouldn't have to do everything by herself.

Help her out around the house, wash the dishes & do the laundry, and see the look of amazement in her eyes when she comes home to a clean house.

It may be some work but the payoff is worth the effort.

Don't gawk at other women in public

It really hurts a woman when their spouse is gawking or looking at other women in front of them, don't be guilty of it.

Keep your eyes on your wife,if she isn't the apple of your eye then why did you marry her?

Don't flirt with other women in front of your wife

It is alright to speak to other women in front of your wife but don't get to touchy or grope on them in front of her,it will hurt her feelings and she will rightfully resent you for it.

You should be focused on your wife and not on anything else.

If you must say hello to a female friend,keep it brief & appropriate.

Be a good listener

If your wife is having a problem and she needs your advice, listen to her.

She may just want to vent but if she can't get you her husband to listen to her then who can she count on.

If you are having trouble in your marriage and you listen most of the time your wife will tell you what is wrong or what her needs are, if you are listening.

Don't scream at your wife or call her names

Obviously screaming isn't going to do any good at all, in fact it tends to elevate a situation and make it worse.

If you are fighting with your wife take a timeout, go for a walk or a drive and let things calm down before you speak with her, now I don't mean to leave a stay gone for the night, I'm suggesting that you leave for about 20-30 minutes.

Don't call your wife derogatory names, trust me I have learned this the hard way,she will remember whatever you called her and never let you forget it.

So don't do it and you won't have to worry about it.

Do things together as a couple

If you are having trouble in your marriage sometimes something as simple as having a hobby to do together can really help. Find something that you both enjoy & take the time to do it together as a couple a minimum of once every couple weeks.

If you can't think of anything here are a few suggestions

  • Dancing
  • Singing Karaoke
  • Building Model Cars
  • Bowling
  • Cycling
  • Playing Pool
  • Swimming
  • Playing Darts
  • Playing Cards
  • Playing Video Games
  • Writing Hubs
  • Photography
  • Candle Making
  • Arts & Crafts
  • Go to Yard Sales
  • Go to Thrift Shops
  • Exercising
  • Walking

Don't cheat on your wife

This should go without saying, if you cheat on her she may not be able to forgive you for it and one night of fun could cost you a marriage.

If you are having problems staying faithful remember that when you got married you took an oath,to be faithful.

Also whatever is tempting you, you need to stay as far away from it as possible,don't be a cheater it isn't worth it.

Don't lie to your wife

Honesty is always the best policy, it may be hard sometimes but if you will be honest then you will learn that most of the time your wife can & will forgive you.

Most of the time your wife already knows what you have done and lying certainly isn't going to help, just admit what you did and ask her to forgive you.

It is a better option than lying.

In closing I would like to say thanks for reading this hub I hope it helps you to be a better husband.



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  • SidKemp profile image

    Sid Kemp 

    5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

    These are all good tips. I say that as a husband of 27 years, and things are getting better between us. I would just add that it is not enough to tell my wife I love her every day. It's my job to make sure she knows it!

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    Nancy McClintock 

    6 years ago from Southeast USA

    Very good advice!!!

  • Esther  Strong profile image

    Esther Strong 

    6 years ago from UK

    Your wife most certainly looks happy and contented in the photo - no doubt this is working for you and will work for others.

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    @srossjul - I certainly am far from perfect but I did learn that if my wife isn't happy, NO-ONE is..LOL

    No I am actually very lucky to have been blessed with a fantastic wife and I made a lot of mistakes so I thought I would write this to try to help someone, Thanks for the kind words ;0)

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    Julie S Ross 

    7 years ago from Irvine, California

    I like the way you think in reference to women. You got it! You are the perfect husband! Congratulations.

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    @Joseph - Yes marriage is a wonderful thing, I always thought I would stay single and I did until my late 20s but I can honestly say that marraige has saved my life and made my life so much better is every way, I can't imagine living alone now that is how dramatic a change it has made and it just gets better all the time, Thanks for stopping by I appreciate you

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    joseph merlin 

    7 years ago from Jupiter

    This is Beautiful Hub , I am not married yet when I will marry I will follow everything that you said for a happy life as you are doing God Bless You.

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    I am glad you liked it ichelleonly3

    Please stop by again

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    MD Jackson MSIOP 

    7 years ago from Western United States

    Nice to see a man say this! :)

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    I'm lucky to have her

    Thanks for reading it

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    7 years ago

    WOW! I didn't think men like you were still alive.. boy was I wrong. Great tips!! One lucky lady....

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    Thanks Thelma

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    Thelma Alberts 

    7 years ago from Germany and Philippines

    Very good tips. Voted up.

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    7 years ago from India

    If you do all this you wife is one lucky lady!

    And I need to mail this link to my husband...not that he's all bad :)

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    Ty Lady rain - my wife is a super person I'm gonna write a hub about her soon ;0)

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    lady rain 

    7 years ago from Australia

    Great hub. You are an amazing person who deserves an amazing wife.

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    Thanks You MimiKat - I like good feedback.

  • MimiKat33 profile image


    7 years ago from Northeastern NY State, USA

    Very good advice, and I will follow your Hubs and give you feedback. Good luck

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    Finda & sprout

    I will be the first to tell you I am the lucky one to have my wife, Thanks for stopping by & leaving your feedback - I really appreciate it

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    7 years ago from North Carolina

    Your wife is one lucky woman!!!

  • findaman profile image


    7 years ago from England

    This is great hub Mark - more husbands should be like that. In fact even my boyfriend should read it ;)

    A lot of these things do not take much effort but make such a difference in a relationship/marriage. If only more guys realised that making their woman happy automatically guarantees a happier relationship/marriage.

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    TY Lorne - I appreciate the kind words

  • Lorne Hemmerling profile image

    Lorne Hemmerling 

    7 years ago from Oshawa

    Great article, my friend......and so true.....every point!

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    I love you more Tracie & MasMasika & Ubanichi thanks for the kind words

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    7 years ago

    Maybe I should do just that. Lol

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    7 years ago

    Thank You Mark, for just being you, You have made my life so much better and I love You! I am truly blessed to have you!

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    Alexander Thandi Ubani 

    7 years ago from Lagos

    Excellent that's the right word. Suffice it to say that if all men would take to this advice, their homes surely will brew happiness, joy & whole peaceful atmosphere.

    Thanks for sharing. I love this so much

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    TY for the kind words HattieMattieMae - I am going to do my best to be a better husband!

  • HattieMattieMae profile image


    7 years ago from Europe

    Very wonderful advice! :)

  • manthy profile imageAUTHOR


    7 years ago from Alabama,USA

    Thanks for all the gr8 feedback - It makes me feel good when I see that people are reading my hubs.

    Miss Married - if you voted me up that means you liked the hub ;0)

    Louis - spoil your wife she deserves it

    Pudding - I am the lucky one my wife is a amazing person

    MasMas - you need to make that ex read the hub email it to him ;0)

    God-Bless-Us All

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    Miss Married 

    7 years ago

    I voted you up, but I am not quite sure what that means.

    Great Hub

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    Louis Fourie 

    7 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

    Thx this is a stunning tips, going to spoil wife.

  • puddingicecream profile image


    7 years ago from United States

    You must be a really sweet husband - your wife's lucky. These are excellent tips - I agree with all of them! Voted up and useful.

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    7 years ago

    I love your tips. I wish all men were hmmm. Unfortunately, the man I lived with for a few years is far from what these are. Thanks for the tips. Hope the negative men will follow your tips and do have a happy relationship.

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    Aurelio Locsin 

    7 years ago from Orange County, CA

    One excellent key to a happy marriage. Voting this Up and Awesome.


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