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Tips to being a good husband
The purpose of this hub is to give you some ideas that may help you be a better husband.
Most of this is just common sense and strictly my opinion.
Keep your wife satisfied in the bedroom
It is a fact that if you aren't taking care of your wife"s needs in the bedroom,then someone else may be doing it for you soon.
Most women need sex & often, now this may not be the case with your partner,if you aren't sure just ask her. She will tell you if you aren't meeting her needs.
Tell her you love her everyday
You can't tell a loved one that you love them too much.
Many women are insecure and they need to know that you love them,so do your job & tell her you love her everyday.
Take her out for dinner
This is a must if you have kids & your wife works.
The last thing she wants to do after work is come home and cook so surprise her by taking her out to dinner on occasion.
It does not have to be a expensive dinner, just take her out & if you can't afford it then cook her a meal, she may even like that better than being taken out to eat.
Give your wife a massage
People pay good money to be massaged & there is a reason for that.
They help to relieve stress & anxiety and a massage from a husband makes a wife feel sexy and that she is loved & important.
Start with the back and legs the do the arms and even the feet,trust me your wife deserves it.
Remember that a massage should last around 20-30 minutes so take the time and do it right.
Help out around the house
Your wife isn't your mom or your maid, she shouldn't have to do everything by herself.
Help her out around the house, wash the dishes & do the laundry, and see the look of amazement in her eyes when she comes home to a clean house.
It may be some work but the payoff is worth the effort.
Don't gawk at other women in public
It really hurts a woman when their spouse is gawking or looking at other women in front of them, don't be guilty of it.
Keep your eyes on your wife,if she isn't the apple of your eye then why did you marry her?
Don't flirt with other women in front of your wife
It is alright to speak to other women in front of your wife but don't get to touchy or grope on them in front of her,it will hurt her feelings and she will rightfully resent you for it.
You should be focused on your wife and not on anything else.
If you must say hello to a female friend,keep it brief & appropriate.
Be a good listener
If your wife is having a problem and she needs your advice, listen to her.
She may just want to vent but if she can't get you her husband to listen to her then who can she count on.
If you are having trouble in your marriage and you listen most of the time your wife will tell you what is wrong or what her needs are, if you are listening.
Don't scream at your wife or call her names
Obviously screaming isn't going to do any good at all, in fact it tends to elevate a situation and make it worse.
If you are fighting with your wife take a timeout, go for a walk or a drive and let things calm down before you speak with her, now I don't mean to leave a stay gone for the night, I'm suggesting that you leave for about 20-30 minutes.
Don't call your wife derogatory names, trust me I have learned this the hard way,she will remember whatever you called her and never let you forget it.
So don't do it and you won't have to worry about it.
Do things together as a couple
If you are having trouble in your marriage sometimes something as simple as having a hobby to do together can really help. Find something that you both enjoy & take the time to do it together as a couple a minimum of once every couple weeks.
If you can't think of anything here are a few suggestions
- Singing Karaoke
- Building Model Cars
- Playing Pool
- Playing Darts
- Playing Cards
- Playing Video Games
- Writing Hubs
- Candle Making
- Arts & Crafts
- Go to Yard Sales
- Go to Thrift Shops
Don't cheat on your wife
This should go without saying, if you cheat on her she may not be able to forgive you for it and one night of fun could cost you a marriage.
If you are having problems staying faithful remember that when you got married you took an oath,to be faithful.
Also whatever is tempting you, you need to stay as far away from it as possible,don't be a cheater it isn't worth it.
Don't lie to your wife
Honesty is always the best policy, it may be hard sometimes but if you will be honest then you will learn that most of the time your wife can & will forgive you.
Most of the time your wife already knows what you have done and lying certainly isn't going to help, just admit what you did and ask her to forgive you.
It is a better option than lying.
In closing I would like to say thanks for reading this hub I hope it helps you to be a better husband.