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10 good questions to ask to get to know someone really well
What are good questions to ask to get to know someone really well?
In a relationship there first needs to be love, encompassing this love are the strong holds of a relationship and they are trust and respect. Then this will evolve into a natural relationship of getting to know the person. We don’t need to chase or work hard at finding our mate, loves comes when we least expected.
Your first few dates is the time to get to know someone before getting too involved. Getting to know this person and who they really are. Although you are a strong woman or man and can handle remarks, sarcasms and verbalism of that sort, by asking and studying this person you can find out who they are by their responses, reactions and facial expressions right from the beginning. Human nature, we do more non-verbal communications than verbal communications, so follow their actions. This is the most significant.
When you begin your questioning per se, you must stay strong to your beliefs and be true to yourself. When you ask your questions and the answers begin and they are things you don’t agree with because of your beliefs, education, friends and family then these are signs for you, and know that this is not right for you no matter what, turn the other way.
If you proceed with such relationship just for the sake of having someone, later, you’ll pay a strong price of your pain and suffering. This is how a lot of women and men are charmed into a relationship, and then the battles began and can last for years. Therefore when these questions and answers take place listen carefully and watch closely and if there are some things you do not approve of then you know this is not the right person. Do not mentally make excuses or believe you can change a person or learn to live with this type of person because usually it turns out to be the other way around and they are on the controlling side of the relationship. This happens even quicker if you are dealing with the so-called “Charmers”, these individuals are professionals in their mind games on targeting women or men. How do they know, they are like lions for years watching and studying their prey. Their prey are usually the low-self esteem women and men, that they can easily manipulate. Do not interrogate your date. The best tool is to simply listen to them be yourself, and enjoy the evening and you’ll see the person reveal himself or herself to you.
Ask about friends
Usually who they hang out with is usually who they are. Friends play a strong part in our lives, does he or she casually meet or it’s a strong buddy thing? We humans find friends and contacts and judge them by our standards. We usually surround ourselves with people like ourselves. Human nature.
Ask about his or her family
Does he speak well of his family his mother?
What is he saying about his / her ex? Is he speaking negative about them?
Does he want marriage and children? (He may get up and run, but you do need to know this so you are not just waiting around for someone to make up their mind about marrying you later.
If he or she is slow in answering then he or she is avoiding something.
How does he/she speak, does he/she speak with foul language.
Do they take things, steal extra change that is not theirs.
What are his/her morals. Most important watch his/her reactions in public and behavior and he/she will show their true colors.
What do they do?
Have they held onto a job, and for how long?
What are their goals?
This will allow you to see if he/she may have a good head on his/her shoulders. See if he/she has plans and hopes for the future.
Tricky question, but you must find a point to ask the person you may be getting serious about, you don’t want a person that is in debt with every company, and his paycheck is from “hand to mouth”. No money in his/her pocket. Too much spending.
Are you married / or do have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
What is the relationship?
Are they still seeing each other?
Is there a child involved, are there any child support of alimony he / she must pay?
Hobbies, and what do they do on their free time?
Do they have time for themselves reading, golfing or is it by the TV with the guys drinking beer.
Do they have intellectual desires, goals?
Do they complain a lot?
Do they complain about having to work or going to work?
Are they complain of how expenses items are, the meal etc?
Do they say rude things about the ex girlfriends, family members?