- Gender and Relationships
11 Reasons Why Women Love Men
This article is my tribute to all the devoted, decent, honorable, and sexy men out there. Guys, you deserve major kudos for all of the wonderful, stirring, and quirky ways in which you love women so incredibly well. We women love you and appreciate you.
So, without further ado, here are some of our favorite reasons for loving men:
He Doesn't Pay Any Attention to the Directive, "My Eyes Are Up Here."
I remember going to the hair salon with a dear love. After I was cut and styled, I presented my fantastic haircut to him, angling my head just so. But his eyes were focused, well…down there, around the hip area, to be more specific. "Hey!" I said, "My hair is up here, on my head." He grinned wickedly and said something like, “Yes my darling, but it all goes together.”
Frankly, that was the silliest thing I’d ever heard and I secretly loved it, though I put my hands on my hips in an unsuccessful show of disapproval. There was only one thing left to do...we both laughed and went in for the kiss. I guess we must have put on a little show for the receptionists, who were grinning like Cheshire cats.... Yes indeed. I am personally grateful for any loving man who doesn't pay the slightest attention to useless, politically correct, unexciting directives. We women would be bored to tears if he did.
Men Are More Romantic Than Women. Who Knew???
"When it comes to the heartache following a failed romance, men may actually suffer more than women." ~Journal of Health and Social Behavior
This is due, in part, because men tend to isolate themselves and brood over a romance gone wrong, whereas women tend to seek solace from other women, which helps females to bounce back more quickly.
Sociologists have studied romance: Their research has determined that men are more romantic than women (though women are more sensitive). Sociologists don’t know why this is so—they only know it is so. For example, men are more apt to write beautiful poetry about their overwhelming feelings of love for a woman. Also, a man in love will rack his brain for a unique way to propose marriage, not to mention, men are the ones who buy flowers, chocolates, and tickets to faraway destinations.
If you listen to most love songs written by men, you can’t help but notice how sweetly idealistic they are---like when Jason Mraz sings, "I won't give up on love, even if the skies get rough.... When I look into your eyes, it's like watching the night sky." (sigh) A man who sticks around, through thick and thin and who thinks his lover resembles the night sky? Honestly, does it get any better than that?
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"I was wrong."
"I'd love to just hold you tonight."
"What can I do to bring a smile to your face?"
"I love you even when you're upset."
"Can I help you?"
Men also take longer to get over a break-up than do women. Also, the majority of newly single men admit to wanting their wives or girlfriends back. (It’s usually the woman who initiates the break-up.) Yep, when men get love-sick, they get it bad. When it comes to love, men are starry-eyed, impractical, romantic fools...and we women love them for that.
His Favorite Halloween Costume: Dressing Up As a Woman.
Men secretly love embracing their "inner feminine." It's true. Halloween is the one time of year when men can do just that---and no pant suits or skinny jeans will satisfy him. Nope, no way Josie! He’s all about that frou-frou dress, the pretty wig, and the fake pearls---or the sexy look, of course. And naturally, his outfit isn’t complete without the high heels. You have to love it when he boasts about how much “prettier” he is than “that other guy.” "Well, OK," he insists, "Maybe I don't have his pouty lips, but just get a load of these legs, baby!" Your great big He-Man can hardly wait to practice his "womanly wiles" at the up-coming Halloween bash. I mean, really...isn't he the cutest thing?
He Carries His 5-Month Old Like a Football
We’ve all seen him—the family guy---with his wife, his 3-year-old and the 5-month old, all gathered around the table at the Cracker Barrel. The family has finished their breakfast and are now ready to get going, pay the bill, and head for the zoo. Family guy is in charge of the baby because mom is too busy rounding up the other kid and all the accouterments that accompany every child-friendly outing.
"No problem, I've got him," says family guy. Whereupon, he expertly hoists the baby out of the high chair and, in one fell swoop, tucks the kid securely under his arm---football style. And off they go! The baby, for whatever odd reason, generally looks perfectly comfortable. He doesn’t know he’s not a football, so what does he care? I don’t know about you, but when I see a man do this carrying-the-baby-like-a football thing, I get this mushy feeling inside my chest and a big lump in my throat.
He Defends His Mother To the Death
Nobody, but nobody is allowed to say anything remotely bad about his mama or there will be hell to pay. I don’t care if she was less than perfect. His mom is “sacred ground” and therefore “off limits.” Taking shots, even little shots at his mom is hitting below the belt as far as he is concerned. His conviction is as such: “She took the time to put up with my constant shenanigans and I don’t know who else but my mom would have put up with me.” Well, you might gingerly offer, “Didn’t she hit you with the fly swatter, kind of hard sometimes?” His answer: “Hell yes, she hit me." "I deserved it." "She loved me and that’s why she did it.”
By this time, we wives or girlfriends get the distinct feeling that we're definitely treading on shaky ground by having said anything about "mom." The hurt look in his eyes is letting us know that we might want to stop while we're ahead. And that's a good thing. Everyone knows...if he defends his mother, he's going to defend you too. Hooray! Another wonderful reason to appreciate your loving man.
He Gives You the "3-Legged Chicken" Look...Instead of Getting Angry.
Excerpt from, To Kill A Mockingbird, by Harper Lee:
"I proved him a liar, but John (the judge) made him look like a fool. All the time Ewell was on the stand, I couldn't dare look at John and keep a straight face. John looked at him as if he were a three-legged chicken or a square egg. Don't tell me judges don't try to prejudice juries." --Atticus Finch
You know "The Look." It’s the face he makes when he’s too perplexed to speak. "The Look" also translates to "I've got your number, woman." He makes this face when we've just said something completely outrageous and inappropriate; It was probably a bald-faced lie, such as, “It was on sale and we can’t live without it,” Or “I think the neighbor is a CIA agent; he has beady eyes, and that outfit he wears is too obvious.” This said as we peek out the kitchen window, at our neighbor, who always wears Bermuda shorts and a Hawaiian top whenever he waters the grass.
It is then that you get "The Look"---as if you've just turned into a 3-legged chicken. No jury would believe you if a judge looked at you the way your husband is looking at you right now. You'd be found guilty as sin. Five years of community service---minimum. You might as well have said, “I can fly by flapping my arms."
But you love him for it. He doesn't yell or say something nasty---even though you just said or did something that makes you seem like a lunatic or a liar. Instead, he peers at you quizzically, maybe over his glasses, as if to say, “Huh? On what planet does anything you just said make any sense WHATSOEVER?” But he doesn't call you mean names—or fume about the bill (too much).
Let's be real ladies. If he acted the way we just did, we'd make sure he would hear about it for weeks to come. No way would we let him off the hook that easy. We'd give him "The Look" all week long (The Look is not gender specific) Not to mention, we women have memories like elephants, which means we're going to file any transgression away for later use. But not him. He's going to forget about it. Our sweet man will sigh resignedly, shake his head and return to his newspaper. He loves you anyway. He really is the kindest man in the world.
There Is Still A Boy Inside the Man
He wears silly hats and ridiculous make-up in support of his favorite sports teams whenever he attends major leagues game. Otherwise, he wears his jersey shirt and yells at the TV, along with his other Big Kid friends, like when the referee calls a foul. He fumes, “Is he blind?” He rants. He raves. He gets riled up---just like he did when he was six. The other boy cheated. He'll be sorry.
And then there are the times when his young niece or nephew come to visit and your Big Kid is the first one out the door. It's time to play! Yippee. There they are—one big kid and one little one, just a rolling around in the grass as if life can't get any better. Pure unadulterated fun---plain and simple. Now your guy has got hold of the garden hose. Anyone who comes within shooting distance is fair game. He and his neice are blissfully happy, drenched, and muddy. They're in heaven. Life doesn't get any better. Your good man knows how to take care of business, but when it comes to play, he's a still a boy inside of a man---and you wouldn't want him any other way.
He Is The Famous...Barbecue Master!
It's An American Thing
"Globally, it seems that this gendered division of cookery (barbecuing) is an American phenomenon. Across cultures, women generally do most of the cooking, period. In some parts of the world—such as Southeast Asia, Malaysia, Serbia and Mexico—you will see female street vendors selling grilled food."
The fire grill is his domain. No one else is allowed to touch it. It’s his baby. His steaks have to be grilled just so, with tender loving care. You can’t just flip them any old way. The timing is crucial, and his barbecue sauce is specially made---a touch of this, a spice of that. His grilled pork chops are his pride and joy. Sometimes he even wears his special apron when he grills. It says, “Barbecue Master, King of the Grill.” It has to, of course, because he’s an awesome grill chef, if he doesn’t mind saying so himself.
He is a "Master of Fire." Oh, yeah! “Crank up the music and bring me a beer, little lady.” Little lady?? (This is where he has apparently channeled his inner John Wayne) He goes on to brag, “They don’t call me Mr. Barbecue for nothing.” We women smile appreciatively. What we're thinking is, "Yay! So far, I've got out of cooking three times this week... I’m shooting for seven."
He Is Not Offended By Chivalry....
Americans Still Believe in Love
"88% of Americans cited love as a “very important” reason to get married, ahead of making a lifelong commitment (81%) and companionship (76%)."
~Pew Research Center
Like when he insists on doing that gentlemanly thing of walking nearest the traffic, on the sidewalk, when you’re together, or in taking your hand and leading the way around a crowd that might otherwise jostle you rudely---or when he buys you a sweet little bouquet of flowers, just because. And remember the time he snuck out of work because you were sick with the flu, and he stopped by the grocery store to pick up chicken noodle soup, orange juice, tissues and Nyquil; even though he had to rush like mad to get back to work on time to meet his client? You weren’t even married yet---just dating---but he called you every 2 hours to make sure you were doing OK.
And when he finally proposed several months down the road, he got down on one knee and made the sappiest, sweetest speech ever.....and the look on his face told you everything you needed to know.
Nope. A good man is not offended by a little chivalry. He simply requires some encouragement now and again. After all, he's smart enough to know that his thoughtful gestures translate into your appreciation and affection. (Hey, he's no dummy.) But more importantly, he is a gentleman because he loves you, not because he has an agenda---and that's why you're head over heels in love with him.
The Way He Holds You When You're Sad
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You simply adore him when he pulls your body closer and cradles the back of your head, as his fingers stroke your hair---ever so gently. And he murmurs, "I'm so sorry you have to go through this.” You lean your head securely upon his chest, while you cry softly and listen to the beating of his heart---sure, steady beats. You feel reassurred, knowing you will get through this sad, sad time. He kisses the top of your head. His arms encircle you more tightly. "I'm here," he whispers. He gently lifts your chin with the tips of his fingers. His eyes search your face with infinite compassion as he wipes the tears from your eyes. Patiently, he cradles your body. He comforts you. You know he isn't going anywhere...and you love him more than ever.
He Is Forgiving
You said something horrible---something totally uncalled for. The hurt look in his eyes is killing you and you know that if he walked out the door right now, you wouldn't blame him. You went too far this time. If he had done the same thing to you, you’d probably pack your bags and never look back. But not him. He has no intention of leaving. Through bad times and good times---even if you've wounded him deeply. He is with you for the long haul. There is no doubt in your mind that you don't deserve him after what you just said, and you feel even worse for the knowing.
When you act like this, sometimes he wishes he didn't love you as much as he does. But the truth is, he really can’t imagine life without you. But to your credit, you are so very sorry and horribly ashamed. Finally...you approach him. “Honey, please forgive me. I was wrong. I despise myself for hurting you. I don't know why I said those awful things." He pauses, looks away and downward for a moment---the longest minute of your life. Then he looks at you...so very sadly, and he reaches for you as he whispers, "It's OK. I love you.”
He is the finest of men, a forgiving and loving person who is worth your admiration, love, and respect---forever!