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10 Dynamite Ways For Your Girlfriend or Wife to Love You Deeper

Updated on July 24, 2014

Ahhh, love sweet love


Love and sex: Know the differnce

Did you know that when most guys are asked if they love their wives they reply almost every time, “Sure. Our sex life is fantastic!” I applaud you guys for that honest comment, but I hate to “rain on your parade,” but there is a world of difference between sex and love. Now you can pick your chins up off the floor.

It is my uneducated opinion that when men learn the difference in sex and love, engaged couples will be happier, couples still dating will be closer and the divorce rate will suddenly plummet. All because of “that” one difference between sex and love.

I am not claiming to be a love guru, and no, I am not going to have my story flagged by HubPages for going into elaborate-detail in explaining what sex is, but I am going to share with you guys out there who are hung-up and confused about what “real” love really is . . .

"I love you more than my own life."


“10 Dynamite Ways to Make Your Girlfriend or Wife Love You Deeper”

LEARN TO SEW – girls will love it, guys. I read a while back in a Cosmo magazine that women find it very sexy for a man to sew and wash dishes. So take your pick. This idea will pay for itself with the repairs you will be doing on her clothes as well as yours.

TAKE A COURSE – in Swedish Massage, and give her something extra to look forward to when she comes home from work. Put that twinkle back in her eye when you take her from her world of tension to a carefree world of relaxation. This is powerful stuff, guys. I am telling you.

CREATE INTIMATE – moments with her. Example: sit and watch her apply her make-up when you are going out, or before she goes to work. If she asks why you are doing this, reply, “I find it very sexy to watch you put on your eyeliner and lipstick.” Beware: Doing this might make her late for work.

SURPRISE HER – after dinner (that you have cooked) one night and dance with her on the patio or living room. You will have her favorite music on the stereo, so you have created for her, the perfect romantic atmosphere for her to express her love for you.

DO NOT – turn the television on all weekend. You can do it. She will be amazed as well as stunned when you lovingly-announce, “This entire weekend is yours. We go where you want to go; eat where you want to eat and whatever you want to do, we do it.” Soon she will be telling her girlfriends what a “Love Doctor,” you have become.

"I love running in the woods with you."


"Darling, are we lost?" "Who cares? I love you."


SLIP THE MANAGER – of your favorite club a few bucks to let you surprise her and not on her birthday or anniversary, by you singing a song that you wrote for her. If you need to take a few singing lessons, that is fine, but she is not going to judge you on your talent, but how you touched her heart with his super-romantic gesture.

LET THE DISHES – wait after dinner. Take her on an after-dinner stroll like you did when you were dating. She will appreciate how hard you are trying to make things just for her. And I urge you to do any or all of these things in a sincere spirit. Otherwise, you would be better off to not do them at all.

TAKE A GOOD – photo of her and get an artist to convert it to an oil painting. Sure it might cost you a few dollars, but what are a few dollars compared to the sizzling romance you will get in return?

TAKE HER AWAY – for an entire weekend to a place that specializes in spa treatments, relaxation, meditation and some quality time for her. You can stay there too, but remember, each thing you have bought is only for her. She will fall in-love with you all over again, but only deeper.

TAKE HER TO – a theater production or movie that “you” hate. I mean it. Even if you do not “pass this one with flying colors,” she will appreciate you for the great effort.

Note: this is not a comedy-based piece, but a serious story that can add more romance to a marriage or relationship that both of you feel has “gotten into a rut.”

Coming soon . . .”Easy Ways for You to Treat The Receptionist In Order to See The Boss”

Guys, putting your wife or girlfriend first will help your relationship in numerous ways



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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dearest sheilamyers,

      You have taught me so much about people and life, and this comment is no exception. You were so wise in getting away from this slickster for he was clearly a narcissist who loved HIMSELF more than you.

      I came near, not really dating, a girl who was almost like him. Thank God I saw through her lies just in time.

      Thank you kindly for the nice input.

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      Kenneth: There was only one time I got pulled into a relationship because the guy knew all of the right things to say, but after I was almost hooked, he turned into one of those guys who only wanted to talk about himself. When I did get in a word or two about what I like to do, he'd tell me it as a waste of time. I'm so glad the hook came out easily and did so because we'd only gone out a few times. What did that teach me? I have to be like a cop in the interrogation room and watch all of the body language, not just the eyes. I'm not joking. Most of the time you can tell if the guy is stringing you along just by the way he sits while he's supposedly listening.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, teaches12345,

      Thank you kindly for your kind comment. I am not by any stretch of the imagination, boasting of myself, but I do know a few ways to make a woman feel special.

      And in a respectful and clean way.

      NOTE: I left a comment on your KALE hub and you didn't reply, so did I offend you or something?

      I just wondered. A person emailed me from something called Hub World, never heard of it, and he halfway harassed me for a comical remark I made on a hub way long ago, so I do not want to run that chance with offending you.

      If I did upset you, forgive me.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      I am highlighting the "surprise her" for my hubby. How fun would that be? Great article and I hope it helps guys to connect with their sweet lady.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      God bless you, Word55,

      All of them???

      Are you really Clark Kent/Superman in disguise?

      No seriously. I appreciate you saying those kind words. Try them all or one or two.

      I confess. I begged my mother to teach me to sew and she never did. My son-in-law is a great at sewing torn shirts and things.

      I feel less of a man when I am with a guy like him: Self-sufficient.

      Hope your vacation was good.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear Kathryn,

      Thanks for your input to this column. I admire and respect you wanting to make your man feel loved and appreciated.

      I just know that overall, "us," men need that extra help when it comes to romance.

      If your man is okay without advice like this, great. And I appreciate your comment and not getting angry with me.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear Sheila,

      Nice comment. I loved your words and thinking. And if I know you from your hubs and comments, you are a sharp shopper and seldom, maybe never, get taken in any deal.

      Am I right?

      Thanks again for the sweet comment.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Ooops, billybuc,

      I never considered us guys when I published this.

      Well, just chill and relax. These are easy-to-do things for your companion, and do not focus on the labor, but the love you will receive for doing them. Or even trying.

      I should have a degree on my wall.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      Go for it. And if he gets angry, go ahead and tell him my name and that he can contact me if he is upset.

      I am only a casual observer and here to help.

      Thank you for your nice comment.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, sarah,

      You are a doll for leaving such a wonderful comment. I do not know if I am worthy of such a string of good words.

      Thank you from my heart.

      And I hope that these few suggestions will help your fiancé.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear Dana,

      I was right here just waiting for people to help. I am sincere. I hope in some small way, this has helped ONE guy do what is romantic and fall in-love all over again with their companion.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      Thank you, my friend. You are very-appreciated.

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, cammy,

      Thank you so much. I appreciate it. I did my best. Thank you for reading, commenting and liking this.

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      cammyshawn 3 years ago

      Great, heart-felt advice that will go a long way with a woman's heart! Very well written!

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      Juan Ramirez 3 years ago

      Good stuff.

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      Dana Tate 3 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      Where the heck were you when I was still with my last boyfriend. If he had been able to read this hub, he surely would not have lost me! Thanks for sharing.

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      Sarah Mcgraw 3 years ago

      I will surely forward this post to my fiancee.. He's quite a lot busy in work now a days.. hope he gets to follow some tips

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      Helen Kramer 3 years ago from Santa Barbara, CA.

      Very nice suggestions!!! I just may read this one to my man!!!! Cheers!!!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great suggestions, Kenneth. You do know, right, that you just put a whole lot of pressure on us guys? LOL Have a great weekend my friend.

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      Awesome! I think those are all great ideas. Do you know any single guys in their late 40s or early 50s like this? If so ... I'll just say I'm still looking. But to be fair, the woman in the relationship should find ways to her man feel special. Don't say it! I've added the idea to my to write hub list. LOL!

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      As a woman, I find these tips pretty good. It boils down to a man being attentive. On the flip side, I also like to go out of my way to make my boyfriend feel loved and cared for.

      I like that you differentiate between love and sex. Even though sex is a vital part of love, it is not one and the same.

      Thanks for sharing this with us, and have a great day.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Great going Ken, this was a wonderful article to read early this a.m. as I look forward to my 1st day vacationing in Florida with sun, beaches, palm trees and fun people (young and old). You covered it all within those 10 (ways to be loved deeper). Gonna' try all 10 :-) Thanks for sharing! God bless!