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The Myths of Men
Ten Rules for Men to live by Concerning How they are with Women. These hopefully will help with some of the Myths that you have been using that are not necessarily true.
Rule One : Be Yourself at All Costs. Men are either too nice of a Guy, or too busy being what you think a woman wants. Women don't base their choices of men on how nice a guy is. Being a good guy doesn't make a woman choose you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to accept but get over it.Until you accept this fact and begin to act on it, you'll not have the success with women that you really want.
Rule Two: You Can't Make Her Love You What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they like but she's just not interested? Think about it. Trying to Convince Her that you are what she wants. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.They try to convince the woman to feel differently about them. You will never change how a woman feels when it comes to attraction. Never, ever. You cannot get a woman to feel differently about you with your logical nature. It is just to reasonable to work.
Rule Three: Remember You Deserve Love Too In our desire to please women guys are always doing things to get a woman's permission to court her, or her approval of our manly worth. Well that is a horrible idea. Women are not attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them. Just ask any attractive woman about the many weak willed guys who chase her around and want her approval, only to constantly be an annoyance to her. Know deserve love as much as anyone else, you don't have to prove that.
Rule Four: Don't Pay for Sex and Affection How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her reject you for someone who didn't treat her even half as well as you did?Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and appears to them as attempts at manipulation. That's right, women often do see this as a form of overt manipulation. Affection that is genuine is given freely without compensation.
Rule Five: Don't Overwhelm her with Your Feelings Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they feel way too early on. When a guy who starts saying "You know, I really like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast and can't control themselves.They know what to expect, and have experience. An attractive woman is often approached several times daily by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and who knows how often in months and years. So hold Back a Bit - let her in on you gradually and she will respect you more
Rule Six: Not Understanding How Attraction Works. Women are different from men when it comes to attraction. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel when you see a beautiful young woman. Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're more attracted to the way a man makes them feel more than they are to looks alone.
Rule Seven: The Myths of Men, Money and Looks.You do not have to settle for a woman just because you are not rich or extremely good looking. One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money, or guys who are a certain height, guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. Most women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
Rule Eight: Giving Up all of Your Power. Women are not attracted to men that they can walk all over.Women aren't attracted to weakness and neediness. Another way that a lot of guys use is giving up all their power to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. This is just another bad idea.
Rule Nine :When you Don't Know What to Do. Most aspects of women and dating, from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom, approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical.If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up. A woman always knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately ten times better than men at reading body language. Watch for her cues, and if unsure watch her actions and reactions.
Rule Ten: Not Seeking Others Help and Insight.Get to know women, and find out what they really want. Ask them, ask their friends, and even ask the guys you know what they have to say on the subject. Help, ask for help when you need it. Don't assume you know what is the best way - you didn't know the answers before, so you probably don't know them all now. So ask women and friends for tips and help, especially if you have date, or tried to date, they might know more about you thank you expect.