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10 Best Qualities of True Friendship
Can you recall the last time you spoke to a friend? Did you laugh or cry? Did you meet up for lunch? Did you have fun night out?
If you have ever experienced true friendships you know that these are one of many situations that you will go through.
Friendships are vital for all of us, since we need that bond to feel secure and confident in other people.
Our social lives helps us develop mentally, so that we can feel a sense of belonging and affection.
True friendships are very rare and usually develop overtime, or when we are children on up to adulthood.
There are many ways to tell if you have a quality friendship versus a casual encounter. It can be very easy to mistake the two for the other.
Here's a list of 10 qualities of a quality friendship:
Have you ever tried to call someone, and they text you back instead? Or, they don't answer at all, and never call back?
This is a clear example of failed communication in your friendship.
In order to have a true friendship, it is important to have good communication.
Without communication, there is a good chance that there will be a lot of misunderstandings, which often lead to breakups and issues.
Find out ways to communicate effectively whether it is over the phone or in person.
The best communication happens in person, where you can really get the chance to bond with one another and not behind a screen.
If you cannot build trust in a friendship, then you will run into many obstacles.
Building trust in a friendship is one of the most important aspects your relationship. Without trust, there will always be suspicions, which will lead to problems down the line.
It may take time to gain trust in your friendships, especially if you had bad experiences in other friendships before.
You may feel as if you can't trust anyone, and all of your friendships must be given the side eye.
Try to give your friends a chance until they prove that they are not capable of being trusted.
If you are still not sure, it is best to have a conversation about trust to see if it is an important factor in your friendship.
Ever heard the saying, "Without honesty, there is no loyalty"?
Well, this saying proves to be true in a lot of friendships.
Imagine going to a party, only to find out your friend ditched you for someone you are both enemies with. When you confront your friend about the encounter, she tells you a lie, which leads to an argument.
Being loyal and honest is the only way to true friendship. Without loyalty all of the other good traits of a friendship will fail to follow.
There is confidence in knowing that your friend will remain devoted to your relationship by not going against your values and beliefs.
There may be times when you'll have disagreements, but keep in mind that you should always respect and value each others
What is a friendship without adventure?
I don't mean to go skydiving off the world's highest cliffs, but doing activities often helps to build a better friendship.
Find out what your friends are into first before inviting them to any type of activity.
You never know if they may have health issues or religious beliefs that keep them from doing certain things.
Try to go on different adventures as often as possible to develop a closer bond with one another.
The best things in life are free, so don't feel like you have to impress your friend by spending hundreds of dollars on luxury outings.
There are a million things to do where you both can save money and still have a good time.
Here's a list of adventures you can do for fun in your friendship:
- Walk at the park/beach/track field/boardwalk
- Go for a swim
- Have game night
- Go to a resturant for happy hour
- Go skiing
- Ride bikes through the neighborhood
- Have a spa day
- Visit an art gallery/museum/zoo
- Participate in community sports
- Schedule a list of tours
- Visit animal shelters
- Go to a networking event
- Fly out of the state
- Go on a road trip
- Volunteer for chairties
- Visit and practice at different yoga studios
- Go fishing
- Go camping
- Hike on a bumpy trail
- Go to open mic night
- Go to book club meetings
If you can't respect the person you call a friend, then there will definitely be issues in your relationship.
To respect someone is to believe in them and everything they stand for.
Imagine always defending yourself against rude and nasty comments made by your best friend.
This situation is always offensive and will be a constant reminder that your friend does not respect you.
If you feel the need to always defend yourself against rudeness and nasty comments, it is time to evaluate your friendship.
Telling lies will always lead to an end in friendships. When you are not honest, you lose credibility and trust from your friendships.
Being honest is one of the best ways to build a meaningful friendship. If your friend asks you, "Do you think I look good in this outfit"? Answer the question honestly and remain respectful.
It may hurt their feelings, but let them know that you are only being honest.
Keep in mind that you will lose her trust if your friend finds out that you only told her she looks good to go with the flow.
It's easy to have a tendency to want to please your friends, but being honest will show that you are sincere and truly care about their well-being.
If you value friendship, it is best to be supportive of your friends.
If you find out that your friend is going through tough situations in their life, offering your support and empathy shows that you value your friendship.
Being there for them through hard times is just as important as being there for them through the good times.
When your friend experiences good situations in life, be there to support them by letting them know how proud you are of them and their achievements.
When there is a sense of support in a friendship, it helps to build security and stability.
Have you ever met someone who is always serious and never laughs about anything?
Chances are you probably have, but the occurrence is often very rare. Having a good laugh every now and then helps you to build a sense of security.
Laughter is good for the mind in that it takes stress away and helps you to cherish moments in life.
Being serious all the time, may lead to more problems than necessary, especially if you have a playful friend.
If you happen to get offended by their sense of humor, be honest and say so. Also, when displaying your sense of humor try to be respectful and not offensive.
So, every once in a while or as often as you can, let your hair down and have a good laugh for a quality friendship.
If you find yourself always in competition with your friends, chances are you are not being inspiring.
It is important to inspire each other to bring out the best in each other as often as possible.
Find ways to help each other by sharing your thoughts and offering what you know.
Try to limit the stress of life by doing things that brings out creativity and thoughtfulness in each other.
Believe in each other and offer your help whenever it is needed, especially during hard times.
To build a lasting relationship, never let judgement get in the way of reality. Except your friends as they are, and expect them to do the same.
10. Good Memories
What is a friendship without memories? Trust me, there will always be good and bad memories in any friendship.
No friendship is perfect, so don't expect to have good moments all the time. The best relationships are build on a mixture of different situations in life.
What makes a quality friendship is when you can learn from these moments to build growth in your relationship.
Be sure to cherish your time together to create more positive memories to reflect on.
© 2017 Lanecia Smith