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10 Signs he's committed to remaining single
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How to know if he's a confirmed bachelor
You've met the man of your dreams, handsome, hunky, funny, entertaining and he has a job. God, he's perfect. But, while you might think he might be your ideal partner, he's already found his ideal partner - himself. He likes his appearance. He must do as he checks out his looks whenever he goes past a mirror. He finds himself entertaining as he laughs at his own jokes. He agrees with everything he says. He's his own best friend, how can there be any space left in his life for you?
Before you get too involved and start feeling that 'L' word, have a think about whether or not he's showing any of these signs that he's committed to remaining single. Bachelor for life. Many women knock men and say that most are commitment-phobic. The truth is, is that that isn't really true. Most men do desire to settle down at some point, raise a family, do the whole scene, it just not might be with you, or, they may feel they still have more living to do before they are absolutely certain that they have found 'The One.' The problem with a confirmed bachelor, is that he has found 'The One,' himself. Nobody else will quite measure up.
1. Virtual Life.
He can't meet you as he has an appointment with some guy in Mongolia playing War Brides or some other game on the internet. Check out his computer and if you find out that most of his friends and relationships are virtual ones, be afraid. Be very afraid. If he has an account at Hubpages, run. Don't worry to close the door behind you when you leave.
2. Mommy's Boy.
He can't meet you as he has to go to his mommy for dinner as she's cooking him his special stew which no other person can ever copy. Worse still, he'll be late for your date as he has to pick up his laundry that mommy did for him. Of course, if you're sleeping in his bed after a hectic night of passionate sex and his mother comes in to make his bed and clean his apartment, get his skateboard out his wardrobe and hightail it out of there! It's probably a bit of an oedipus complex thing going on there.
Sometimes it's good to chat to his friends and find out a bit of the history with the ex-girlfriends. If there's a pattern of his relationships not working, and him putting on his spikes to sprint down the road when the girlfriends start to make nesting noises, then the chances are he won't change for you. It's a fallacy that leopards change their spots. Love just blurs your vision and hides the spots for a bit. They're still there.
4. Busy Boy
If he has some serious hobbies, be afraid. Unfortunately, nothing will come between him and a serious hobby. Not even if you stand naked on the table and swing on the chandeliers with a strawberry glued onto each nipple. If he has hobbies and plays sport, say goodbye and leave. Imagine, Tuesday and Thursday night playing squash. Sunday morning, cycling with his cycling club. Friday night, poker with his friends. Monday is scrapbooking club. He has such a balanced lifestyle already, where on earth will he fit you in? Do you really want to compete with all that?
5. Girlie Posters
If he has a large porn collection, then you know what his ideal woman is like and no matter how deep your throat, you just won't measure up. However, it is not only porn that should send shivers up your spine and make you head out the door. If he has girlie posters, nude girl calendars, artistic nude paintings of the female form, then he has this vision of the perfect woman in his head. No matter how pert your little breasts, how long and shapely your legs, how majestic your curves, how stunning your personality, you will never be the same as the calendar girl or girlie poster.
6. Rolling Stone
If he loves traveling and likes to go abroad on exotic holidays, or has a job that causes him to travel, he has probably got a girl in every port. A man who is a travelholic is not inclined to settle down with a white picket fence, golden retriever, six kids and help you to hang the washing on the line. He is not cut out for such a mundane existence of so-called 'domestic bliss.' The old adage says, "A rolling stone gathers no moss." I'm afraid even if you looked like Kate Moss, he ain't going to commit. Not while he still has jetpacks attached to his shoes.
7. Straight or bent
If he loves shopping and his place shows good taste in decorating and furnishing, and he is a neatnik, then there is a chance he is as bent as a little old lady carrying a 30kg backpack, but just doesn't know it yet. Contrary to what most people think, not all gays know they're gays. Some are just asexual and are not interested in either sex. Some might go their whole lives thinking they like women, but at night they dream about Tom Cruise in his y-fronts in Risky Business.
8. Trackpants a no-no
He might look quite dapper for work and when going out on dates, but if he's a slob in his down-time and you visit him and he's wearing torn t-shirts with Wendy's sauce stained down the front and baggy trackpants, then he's really a slob and enjoys being relaxed in his own company. There won't be place for you there either.
9. Absence of female friends
If he's a man's man and only hangs out with the boys, doing the club thing and wild drinking sessions with the boys where they take photo's of each other with firecrackers stuck up their rectums, there has to be a reason why he has no female friends. Of course, if he only has female friends then he's gay and doesn't know it. So, when you are out on a date with the friends, check to see how many are female. If there aren't any. Run!
10. Future Freak
If you've been seeing him for a month and casually mention something about the future, and he immediately lights a cigarette even if he doesn't smoke, or has to race off to the toilet, or suddenly sees someone he knows, then be warned. Talking about the future makes him freak-out and reach for his running shoes. You need to beat him and reach for your running shoes first!