- Gender and Relationships
10 Ways to Wake Up With No Regrets in Your Relationship
You know the potential scenario...you say something or do something (or don’t say or do something) that you would regret if you woke up and your partner had passed away.
It’s a simple truth that regrets do not have to happen in life as long as you live each day the best that you can. In fact, that’s probably the best relationship advice out there as well – live each day with your partner the best you can. Here are 10 ways to do that!
1. Make Your Partner Feel Good About Their Accomplishments
Compliment them on everything they do well – whether it’s big or small. Everyone feels good after a compliment, and most people strive to do better after they have been complimented as well. So it’s a win-win situation. You make them feel good and they strive to make you even more proud of them.
2. Give Them a Kiss and Say Goodnight before Bed
A lot of times we go to bed and fall asleep without a word to our partner. Not that there’s anything wrong with being comfortable enough with your partner to just zonk out without concluding your day together, but you will feel more connected if you give them a kiss and verbalize bedtime before you go to sleep.
3. Do Something Nice For Your Partner
It can be something as simple as grabbing them a glass of water before bed or as big as surprising them with a nice supper for two. Just do something that your partner appreciates.
4. Don’t Put Your Partner Down During the Day – Ever
Putting your partner down for any reason should be avoided. Even if you apologize for the event afterwards the memory of the hurt caused is still there. You will feel bad for making your partner feel bad – and that can end up being a regret.
5. Spend Quality Time Together
Even if you just spend a few minutes a day together – that’s better than nothing. Spend some time reflecting on your day, and discussing your future plans together. There is a bond between you and your partner that no one else gets to have with you, so make sure to strengthen that bond every single day.
6. Saying I Love You – Verbally or With Expression
Cliché? Yes. But it’s effective. Make sure to say or do something that conveys your love and affection for your partner.
7. Asking How You Can Do Better
If you screw up with your partner and they are obviously upset then ask how you can do better. Do not walk away, say nothing, or put it behind you without asking how you can do better for them. Both of you should be willing to put the effort in to improve the relationship dynamics, and the only way to do that is to understand each other better. The only way to do that is by asking your partner for feedback. Ask how you can do better.
8. Wasting Your Free Time with TV and Other Distractions
If you barely see each other during the day and then you spend your entire evening in front of the TV watching other people’s lives, then you are literally wasting your own time together that could be better utilized. You are spending your life on other people’s lives when you sit and watch TV all night. Take some time out to participate in your own life and you will find that quality time will not be one regret that you have.
9. Taking Your Frustration from others out on Them
Do not put your anger, hurt, or jealousy from another situation onto your partner. Your partner is there to support you when times are rough, not take abuse from you to make you feel better. A lot of times we treat our co-workers well, even though they frustrate us, and then go home and take that frustration out on our relationship. Make sure you always treat your partner with the respect that they deserve.
The biggest thing you can do with your partner that will ensure regrets will be far and few between? Laugh. Be silly together. Enjoy each other’s company, faults, stupidity, and everything else that comes your way. Make a joke out of something that could otherwise get quite ugly. You will always look back fondly on your laughter together; whereas you may regret that stupid fight over who’s turn it was to do that stupid chore.