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15 Ways to be Truly Happy
Some people think that they are born miserable - true enough because they allow misery in their lives! They tend to blame other people for their misfortunes. They blame their parents for getting pregnant when they weren't ready yet…they blame the government for not helping their family have a decent job…they blame their bosses for firing them. What they do not realize is that most of time they have the power to change the situation. A simple change in mindset will make a big difference. Start with being happy. It is not as difficult as you think it is. Maybe this list will help you.
1.Know when to give a f***
Not everything is about you. Saw a negative article that you can relate to? Well, it is not about you. Heard someone say something you feel is meant for you? Stop being conceited. The world does not revolve around you.
2. Quit the prima donna attitude
If people find u to be really physically attractive, they might let pass how much ugly your attitude is. But please, stop acting like a beauty queen or some prince who deserves some royal treatment if you barely make it to the standards.
3. Live within your means
There is no point trying to dress up according to the latest trends if you cannot afford it. Give your already maxed out credit card a break and stop trying to "belong." Some people will accept you no matter how old and outdated your clothes are and if others have a problem with what they see, they can always close their eyes or look away. Common! Will you really die if you take a 2-dollar haircut?
4. Don't expect anything at all
Most of people's frustrations come from expecting that things will be how they should be. Well, wake up! The world is a crazy place and it will always surprise you in the most unexpected moments. Appreciate it when things turn out the way you want them to be. But please stop blaming other people about your life's miseries. We are all in charge of our own lives and your happiness should not be dependent on things that we cannot control in the first place.
5. Stop minding other people's business
Had a neighbor who recently got divorced because of infidelity? Well, it is none of your business. Or your boss having an affair with your colleague? Again, it is none of your business. No matter how negative a situation somebody decided to belong into, it is none of your business. If it doesn't make you happy seeing other people happy, you have to see a psychiatrist. You are seriously in deep trouble.
6.Stop over promising
Nobody is a superman or a superwoman. Say yes only to things you can really deliver. Trying to make the impossible possible will not only exhaust your already exhausted body but will also drain you of whatever mental sanity you are left with.
7. Stop looking for the one
Worried that all your friends are married or you have not been in a real relationship before? Well, not all "committed people" are happy. Another person can give you happiness but you have to be happy with yourself first before you can be truly happy. I have an unsolicited advice: maybe you should try #2. You might have set the standards very high!
8. Start evaluating your priorities
You cannot have everything done the way somebody expects you to deliver (unless of course you are getting paid -- so do your job!) By this, I mean personal life's priorities. Will you choose your family's happiness over your friend's happiness? Both may be equally important and people may advice you to compromise. But sometimes, you have to choose - What is your priority? Who is your priority? You cannot make everyone happy so stop trying.
9. Stop doing a bucket list
Unaccomplished bucket list leads to depression. No matter how hard you work for something, sometimes it is always about the ride and not the destination. There is nothing wrong with working so hard for something you really want as long as it does not make you forget what you already have.
What is more important to you?
10. Stop thinking that people owe you a living
You should help people because you genuinely want to help them. Helping and expecting that they will help you back someday will only lead to hard feelings if they don't end up returning the favor. Stop counting what you have done for them and how much they haven't done in return.
11. Forgive yourself and other people too
Being human gives you the perfect excuse to make mistakes. But dwelling on them deprives you of the chance to be happy. You already did what you did and they already said what is not supposed to be said. Move on and learn from it.
50 percent of heartaches come from assuming something that never is and never will be. Ask away. Say what you mean. And if the other party still doesn’t get it, elaborate. If the person is important to you, stick with him until he gets what you mean. Otherwise, see #1.
13. Stop Complaining
Everytime you are tempted to complain...
14. Appreciate simple things
It is true that the best things in life are free - like love. As Warren Buffet once said, "When you get older, you'll measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you, actually do love you. That's the ultimate test of how you've lived your life."
15. Take Charge of your own happiness
Nobody is in charge of your own happiness except you. Cut the drama and stop blaming other people! Respect other people's happiness and starting working on your own. Life is short. Don't just live it. Be Truly Happy.
It's never too late to start over. If you weren't happy with yesterday, try something different today. Don't stay stuck. Do better.— Alex Elle
The Secret :Law of Attraction
© 2015 Christine Dumaguin