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17 Things Men Find Unattractive in Women But won't Tell You
Things Men Find Unattractive in Women
After finding out what guys find attractive about women, I thought it was time to explore what men find unattractive about women. Being a woman is tough. You’re always under incredible stress from society to make sure you’re perfectly groomed, wrinkle-free, and made-up. So it’s no wonder that so many women feel a lot of pressure when in search of Mr. Right. Many of you spend forever in front of a mirror making sure you don’t have a hair out of place and your makeup is flawless before embarking on a date with a guy you’re interested in.
Does an average guy whose occupation has nothing to do with fashion really understand anything about women’s outfit, perfume, or makeup? Some do. Before you spend lots of time and money on your “on the prowl” look, check out these home truths about what men find unattractive about women:
An intricate hairstyle may be alright for a carnival or an extravagant photo session in a studio or glamorous night. In all other situations natural-looking hair is preferred. Most men prefer long, loose, soft and silky hair, not sticky hairspray and hard gels. It’s more attractive to look at and feels nicer to touch when it’s free of gels or sticky products. I think every man loves his girl to dress-up and look amazing, but there’s a limit.
Foundation is created to hide fine lines, blemishes and little flaws. It makes your skin look healthy and smooth. Too much makeup; women that look like they have a mini cement mixer for the foundation they slap on. However, it should be applied as a thin, even layer, and in a shade that blends right in to your skin. Overuse can make it look like you came out with a layer of clay on your face. When applied correctly, no one should be able to tell that you are hiding imperfections on your face. Keep it natural. Men don’t want to go in for a kiss and come out looking like they just joined the circus. Remember, foundation is supposed to be invisible to others and blend in with your skin. Thoroughly blend it with your skin – that’s the only way to avoid the mask effect. Minimal makeup is sexier.
You know that effect when a woman uses too much mascara -- her eyelashes all stick together and smear black with each blink. If you are not a professional makeup artist, it’ll better if you avoid using glittery and shimmering eye shadow. If you are not a professional makeup artist, it is probably best to stick to the matte shadows. They adhere better and are less likely to concentrate in the crease of your eyelid. Nothing about that look is attractive. Use mascara of good quality that dries quickly and does not smudge. Experiment with several brands and pick the best one for you – the one that does not smudge under your eyes or rub off after a couple of hours. After applying, use an eyelash brush to remove any excess off of your lashes. Men love beautiful and expressive eyes, free of black clumps.
Wrong Lip Liner
Let’s face it ladies — men look at our mouths. Lipstick is a great tool to make your lips more beautiful and defined. If you have been invited on a date, probably you will also be taken to a cafe or a restaurant. Think ahead about how your lips will look after you have eaten your dinner. When going out for dinner, use a lipstick and liner close to the color of your lips. Dark lipstick colors have the awful tendency to smudge onto your teeth while you are talking or eating -- not a pleasant sight for those who are watching. Let your lip products be as close to your natural lip shade as possible.
On Dental Hygiene
Bad hygiene is a definite U-turn – bad breath, bad teeth. Bad breath and discolored teeth are not attractive to anyone especially the opposite sex. Cut down on the coffee, black tea, cigarettes or red wine. Whatever it is, address the source of your problem, and try adding whitening toothpaste and dental floss to brighten your smile. Carry gum or breath helpers in your purse. Lozenges or sugar-free breath sprays also help a lot. You never know when that kiss may be coming.
Lack of Body Care
The sight of a dried heel, oily face or peeling skin is a warning to "back off." Don't expect to turn him on with cracked lips. It’s unpleasant to touch dry skin. Use moisturizing and nourishing shower gels, creams and body lotions after shower. Poorly manicured nails, hairy legs and unshaven armpits are major turn-offs for men. A lot of guys said they were put off by women who are excessively hairy with bad personal hygiene, and take no pride in their appearance. Yes, men notice. Take care of your entire body but not to the point of obsession and artificiality. Make sure that your legs and armpits are perfectly clean and hairless. Such things play even a greater role than makeup. It will send the message that you care about your hygiene and there is no point in applying makeup if the rest of your body is not totally neat. Poor personal hygiene cannot be hidden by makeup and nice clothes.
Men are not interested in knowing your tricks to become more attractive. This ruins their illusion. Let them think you are effortlessly beautiful. All major makeup procedures should be performed at home and don't fuss over it in public.
Perfume is created to help you express your individuality. Excesses are always bad. That’s the best way to keep a man wondering and imagining a lot of beautiful things about your personality. A drop of your favorite aroma is enough to make a man pay attention to you. So try to put a drop only in certain points such as the neck, behind the ears and wrists. A little bit of a good perfume is plenty.
Men like happy, positive women. So don’t complain about the lack of service at a restaurant or how long you had to wait in a line. Show your upbeat personality.
No one wants to be told over and over again that they are doing something wrong. If they leave the toilet seat up, quietly put it down. If they don’t shave for a couple of days, deal with it. Let him hog the remote control once in awhile without making a fuss. Remember, there are probably things they don’t like about you too.
Don’t abandon your friends and family and depend on him for all of your emotional needs. It’s dangerous and honestly, it’s unattractive. Being too dependent on your man to make you happy is a turnoff.
Expecting him to change to meet your needs is also very unattractive. It’s a relationship killer. Men want to be loved for who they are. Do not expect your mate to change for you. Like and love him for who he is, not what you think you can turn him into.
It really depends on where one is in life and how much one is willing to settle…because when you really get to know somebody you can actually make nearly any relationship work if you’re willing to let go of certain expectations and accept the person as they are…nobody is perfect including oneself
If you cannot make interesting conversation, there is very little chance men will find you attractive. Be a little spontaneous now and then. Be adventurous. Don’t be so predictable all the time and put your relationship into a rut.
This is a big relationship killer. First of all, it’s scary. And it’s not healthy. He is going to have friends and family that he will want to spend time with, too. Slow your obsessive jealousy.
Don’t be the one making all the decisions all the time. What some men find unattractive in women is over- confidence verging on arrogance that is lacking in any humility. This doesn’t mean that they find confident women unattractive, I don’t. Quite the reverse. It is where this confidence bleeds into the inflation of an ego, where self-assuredness drowns out modesty to the point of conceit.
Most men find flirting with other people unattractive. It’s not nice. It’s disrespectful. It’s most likely to piss off your date and start a fuss. Make sure that you and your partner have boundaries and you know what makes him feel uncomfortable. If your partner can’t trust you, you haven’t got a relationship. Trust is very essential in all relationships.
Some women are fond of telling their partners “If you don’t do this, it’s over.” Communicate your concerns or wants. Don’t be demanding. If there’s a problem, be supportive without being pushy. A good relationship is a balance act and one of compromise on the part of both people.