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18 Ways Your Boyfriend Can Show You That He Loves You Without Having to Say I Love You
Signs He Loves Without Saying It
Has your guy been fairly silent about how much he loves, and you’re trying to figure out other ways to tell if he loves you? Sometimes, this can be hard; not everybody is vocal or obvious about their feelings, and many may feel it is difficult to voice those deeper emotions. Most men have difficulty expressing love. However, women are more prone to expressing their feelings. Most men don't always say "I love you" with their words. But they say it in so many other ways that are much more important. Men, on the other hand, will sometimes show their love for you in non-verbal gestures. And when you start taking notice of all the little comments, sacrifices, favors he gives and interests he shows and take when he is around you, you won't need words to know that you are loved. Many men believe love is not a word you say but a thing you do. Words can be chosen and changed and manipulated, but actions, as they say, speak for themselves.
However, struggling to figure out how someone feels about you when it's too early to say things like "I love you" can be maddening, but It really just comes down to the issue of our inability to interpret and decipher nonverbal cues. Words are inherently empty until time and evidence and experience load them up with truth. It's actually easy. Just open your eyes. There are countless little ways people subconsciously show that they care throughout our everyday lives. So maybe actions do speak louder than words.
Here are some subtle, silent ways to tell if he loves you.
They reach out to talk with you regular basis
When someone is strangely reserved with their intentions (but seemingly forward with their actions) it tends to be because they're very interested and don't want to blow it by being too obvious or scaring you away (though it's easy to feel like the opposite is true.) It's the standard move of people who are in love, but too afraid to say it. You can just tell that you've been on their mind. It's just little things like these that let you know they're thinking about you throughout the day.
Passionate, Long-Lasting Kisses
When he’s continuously initiating passionate, lengthy kisses and you can feel the passion each time he does, it is clear that he’s more than just a little excited to be around you. If he does these things, he loves you. And if you catch him grinning after you kiss, it's a great sign that he truly enjoys your company.
He takes care of you
He tells you to get some rest if you're tired while he helps you to finish your domestic chores. He let you rest on their shoulder or share his jacket if you are feeling cold. He walks you home. He gives water if you are thirsty. You can confuse it for simply being courteous, but the desire to truly just care for someone is unconditional love in its most unbridled form. If he is willing to help you out without waiting for you to ask him, it is another way to say I love you. If he is suddenly cooking for you or doing something else out of character just because you asked, you know it's love.
His friends love you
If all his buddies are starting to warm up to you and truly seem to enjoy your company, it could be because they know how happy you're making their friend — thus making them start to find you as awesome as he does.
He shares his favorite songs with you, and listen to yours
Music is the first and most intimate thing you can share with someone, simply because the music that most moves people say what they truly want to say. He could send to you songs that tells what he couldn’t say personally. This is how someone shares the secret, intimate truths about who he is. Likewise, if he will remember to look up your music tastes, and he will try to like them, then he is just trying to get to know that he loves you.
He listens intently
Listening is a skill most people haven’t learned very well. Instead of patiently hearing what our partner have to say, most of us can hardly wait until they stop talking before we interrupt. Emilie Barnes wrote, “Listening is the disciplined ability to savor your partner’s words much like you savor and enjoy a fine meal, a thoughtful gift, lovely music, or a great book.” While he might not be saying much when it comes to your relationship and his feelings about it, the fact that he listens closely when you're talking is incredibly significant. Without listening we often miss the real meaning of what is being said. He may lean in closer when you're discussing important topics or nod when you say something poignant, showing how much your words mean to him.
He asks about details of your life
He wants to know about your past. He wants to know where you came from, to understand your foundation, or at least prompt you to want to respond when he share his. He wants to know the little joys you experienced in your life. He wants to hear what you had for lunch and how your day went. What you're watching tonight and the latest drama with your co-worker. These little things are interesting to him because he cares about you.
He makes eye contact often
When you're out on a date with friends, does he glance across the room just to make eye contact briefly and smile at one another? This indicates how, even when you two are doing different things, he still wants you to be aware of how much he cares and that he is proud to be associated with you.
He buys you "meaningful" gifts
Some people express their love with actions. When I say "meaningful," I don't mean "expensive"; I mean that he spends effort and puts serious thought into finding you something that truly fits your personality to a person. The bouquet of flowers, the box of candy, and jewelry; the surprise present are familiar tokens of affection. The most important thing to learn about actions and gestures is that what we do is consistent with how we feel.
He talks about the future
He genuinely wants to know things like where you see yourself one day in the future, where you'd like to live, what you hope to be doing. It's how he try to find out whether or not you could be compatible, whether or not your futures could overlap one day.
He laughs whenever you're around — a lot
Nonverbal language is often stronger than the words that come out of your mouth. Does he find you funny and can't help but giggle when you do something silly? As odd as it sounds, the more often he laughs and finds you hilarious, the more serious the level of interest and excitement surrounding your relationship is.
He finds out about the things you love the most
Men’s actions and deeds have much to do with communication. Any person desiring to share his life with you will want know things you love most. He'll sit and watch the movies you love, take you out for your favorite food and it won't really feel like a sacrifice or anything. Love is the mutual commitment to know each other and care and nurture what is known. He’ll be happy to do what makes you happy.
He touches you in very subtle, non-sexual ways
In today’s hectic lifestyle, most men are on the go. So if a man finds time to spend time with you, it is a sign he loves you. It's unnerving when somebody you're not interested in gets close to you, but it's the complete opposite when someone you adore tends to be closer in distance than he is to other people. A loving touch communicates that we are accepted. Nonsexual touch is another excellent way to transmit love to a partner. When you're in a public place, does he put his fingers on your back to keep you close by? Most men believe that women like a hug, an arm around the shoulders, holding hands in a movie, a gentle neck rub so they just naturally find a way to touch you, or be close to you, even in the most non-sexual ways. Men speak through their bodies. They perceive it is a way of saying, “I love you,” so take it as a compliment that he can't keep his hands off you.
He mirrors your behavior
Does he tend to take bites of his food at the same time as you or do other things similarly? It's a biological instinct to want to adopt the traits of those closest to you. To be honest, I don't think it's difficult to see how it would also apply to romance. He could be displaying isopraxism, the matching or behaviors that couples tend to do when becoming closer together. When you really love someone, you tend to absorb the little parts of who they are and what they do, without ever realizing it.
He apologizes when he need to
If admits that he has messed up, or was wrong or inconsiderate, is a clear sign that he cares about you. And admitting to be wrong is awesome; he must love you a lot. And his apologizing isn't always so much that he is really concerned about you being mad at him as it is that he wants to hear you say it's okay.
He is always mentioning the things he likes about you
No matter what you do or how little he understand it, he'll think it's wonderful, just because you did it, just because it's yours, just because it's your thing. He won't say that he loves you... but damn, he'll tell you everything he likes.
He comes to your rescue
You should feel loved when he is willing to help out because men don't magically come to the aid of women they don't care about. A man who loves you will come to help in times of difficulty, whether your need is large or small, emotional, physical, spiritual, intellectual, or material. If you lock your keys in the car and he takes the time out of his day to come and get it unlocked, that's love.
He tells you His issues
He takes the initiative to communicate to you his perceptions and thoughts. He tells you who he is. For many men, opening up about feelings — or even a bad day — is a challenging task. When we disclose to someone else what we are thinking, feeling, hoping, and doing, we have become vulnerable so the man who tells you about himself is in love with you. The willingness to share is a mark of trust in relationships and an important contribution toward a clear understanding of one another.