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7 Things You Can Do to Make a Man Marry You

Updated on March 9, 2017

How To Make A Man Marry You

Be a good friend to your man and he will marry you
Be a good friend to your man and he will marry you | Source

Make Your Man Marry You

Naa Oyo is attracted to Nii Quaye. She has been going out with him for a few months and feels he will be a good husband. She has dropped a few hints she is interested in becoming his wife.

“I think he will be a great husband and a wonderful father. I wonder what I should do to make him marry me? I do not want it to look as if I am putting pressure on him, but I also do not want to lose him. What can I do?”

Many women want to make themselves attractive to men so that the men may marry them. And I am sure you also want to make your man marry you.

Yet, a man’s attraction to a woman may be so short-lived that it may leave the woman wondering why she could not maintain the man’s attraction to her and make him marry her. She may wonder, “What went wrong?”

In other relationships, the attraction of the man to the woman is maintained, and it ends in the man taking the woman to the altar.

What makes the difference between an attraction that lasts and lasts, and one that fades like the morning dew? What kind of woman has the capability of sustaining her man’s interest, fascination, and love for her so that he will end up marrying her?

There are certain things a woman can do to keep her man interested in herso that he will end up marrying her. Some of the things are: being his best friend, behaving like a mother to him, and being a good lover.

Starve Him of Premarital Sex

Many women are too willing to give in to a man when he says she must show she loves him by allowing him to sleep with her, and so give their bodies to the men. But you can use his hunger for sex, his desire to sleep with you, as a trump card to make your man marry you. You can do this by sitting down with him and making him understand that he will have access to your body only when he has performed all the marriage rites and made you his wife. When you withhold sex from his this way, and he still wants to sleep with you, he will be serious and do whatever he needs to do to marry you so that he can enjoy sex with you.

On the other hand, when you give sex to him so easily, he will have no motivation to marry you because he is getting what he wants. What he should have gotten only after marrying you, he is getting freely. Once you satisfy him so easily, there will be no hunger for sex in him, and he will see no need to waste his time and marry you.

Be His Best Friend

In most cases, a man wants a woman who will be a companion in life. Men need a companion who will help them carry the daily burdens of life. A man wants a woman he can bare out his heart to, a confidante who will open up her heart to listen to his frustrations and worries about life, and give him useful pieces of advice which he can apply to his life to solve some of the challenges he may be facing.

You should make yourself the kind of woman who will be the first person he will think of when anything unusual happens in his life. When you are able to share good pieces of advice with a man, he will see you as a responsible woman who can add value to his life and who will be a good partner. He is therefore more likely to marry you.

Men also want a woman who will be an ally. To be someone’s ally is to become joined to that person psychologically, emotionally, and socially for mutual benefit. A man wants a woman who will help him to be focused mentally amidst the changing circumstances of life, who will give him moral support when he gets into serious trouble at work, and who will give him the emotional stability he needs when things are going against him. When you can do this, his love for you will soar high.

Be there for your man. Connect to him psychologically and emotionally. Help him to keep focused on his vision for his life. And do your best to give him emotional support when he gets into trouble. This will influence him to marry you.

Another way you can be his best friend is to help him to release the stress of life. You should be a woman he can have fun with. Life is full of stress and challenges, and every man feels the urge to release some of that stress from time to time. So there must be times when you can make him laugh, play with him, and help him to unwind. He will love you for that.

Now that you know one of your man’s basic needs, how do you become the “ideal” woman of his dreams so that he will marry you?

The first step is to make him aware that you want to be his partner for life. This you can do by sharing his problems, responsibilities and successes with him. Encourage him to talk about his work, his family, fears and other concerns. Listen intently whilst he shares these concerns. Then try to help him solve these problems.

You may need to work on yourself so that you will have a broad perspective of life and of issues. Make a conscious effort to be well-informed on issues that interest him. You must show yourself to be competent, a capable woman who can be relied upon at all times to help him solve his problems.

A "Mother"

Most men need someone who will look after them and pamper them. They want someone who will nurture them and make them feel cared about. They want a woman who will nurse them when they are sick, help them find their keys, socks, and neckties.

So learn to make yourself that kind of woman who can pamper a man and nurture him. Make him know that you care about him. And when a man knows that you care for him, he is sure to make you his wife.

When you can show to a man that you will be a true friend and that you can “mother” him, he may fall for you, and crown it by making you his wife.

You Must Be A Good Lover

If you think he is the right man for you and you want him to marry you, you must show that you love him by saying romantic words to him and by doing romantic things to excite him. Men usually want a woman who is exciting and creative enough to provide them with variety in marriage. And when you can demonstrate that you will give him that variety, he will marry you.

Just telling your man “I love you” is too dry and boring. Find creative ways to tell him you love him without sounding uninteresting and predictable. It will add spice to the relationship and give him an indication that you will make efforts to revive the spark of romance in the marriage when it becomes monotonous and stale. So for example, you may buy him seven flowers, six real and one fake. Whilst giving him the flowers, smile into his face, let a softened expression creep onto your face, look him straight in the eyes, and with a smooth, romantic voice and say, “I will love you until the last flower dies.” That will make it more interesting and fun and it will make the man want to marry you.

In addition, you may tell him that he is as important to you as the air you breathe and that you cherish him above everything else in this world. You could say to him, “If I had to choose between breathing and loving you, I would use my last breathe to say, ‘I love you.’ You deserve the whole world and I wish I could buy it for you, but you know I can’t do that. So I will give you my next best thing…my world. I will give my whole world to you forever.” This is how to make a man want to marry you! With creative, romantic words.

There are a lot of romantic things you can do to bring variety into your love life and get your man to ask you to marry you. Here are a few of them:

  • List your man’s best qualities, get it printed and made into a plaque, and give it to him as a gift.
  • Record a love poem on your phone and send it to him.
  • Tell him, “I’m happy I met you!”
  • Cut out romantic photos from magazines, write romantic notes on them, and leave them in a place you know your man will see.
  • Write your man affirming love letters and post them to him instead of giving them to him directly.
  • Sing a love song to him.
  • Give him a foot massage.
  • Send him encouraging messages on his computer at different times throughout the week.
  • Hide small gifts that your boy friend will find at various times of the week.
  • Ask him what you can do to make him happier and do it for him.

Think about these ideas and let them help you to generate your own ideas. If you can excite your man enough with these ideas, it will make your man marry you.

Don't Be Too Demanding

One thing you can do to make a man more willing to marry you is to refrain from being too demanding. When you make demands on him too often, he will think you love what you can get from him, and not him as a person. This means you must try to be more self-reliant, and ask him for financial favors only sparingly.

On the other hand, you must make it a point to buy gifts for him. When you are presenting the gift to him, say something such as, “Ike, I am giving you this gift to show you how I care about you. This is an expression of my affection and love for you. I wish you could also give me a gift, not like this one, but a gift of making me your wife. When that happens, I can give you even greater gifts than what I am giving you.”

Show Gratitude

Do not take anything he does for you for granted. Remember even little things he does for you and thank him for them. Even when time passes, let him know you still remember, and that you are eternally grateful to him for showing that kindness to you. So, for example, if he gives you hitchhikes home, months later you can say something like, “Ike, you remember three months ago you gave me a hitchhike to my house? Well, I want to say, ‘Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are a wonderful guy.’” He may have forgotten it, but when you remind him of it, and he sees you do not forget even the little favors he does for you, he will see that you are a very grateful woman, and it may induce him to make you his wife for most men like to marry a grateful woman. He will understand that if you are so grateful for such a seemingly little thing, you will be more grateful when he does bigger things for you. It will make him like you more.

You can remind him of a shoe, or cellphone he bought for you two years ago. Show him that you do not only remember the hurtful remark he made to you, or his inability to buy you that necklace you requested for, or his inability to buy you a dress. Show a man you are balanced in your view of him, and he will love you more, which may make him marry you.

Be a Trustworthy Woman

If you want to make a man marry you, you need to ensure that you are trustworthy. You must consciously seek to build the trust between you and the man, and this will make you keep enjoying him for a long time. This will make him love you more and he will be more willing to marry you.

What are some things you can do to be a trustworthy woman?

  • When you tell him you will do something, make sure you do it. When you say you will visit him on Saturday evening, do your human best to make it to his place on Saturday evening. Human as you are, you may not be able to fulfill all promises you make to him, but you must fulfill a greater percentage, let’s say about sixty or seventy percent of your promises.
  • If you show inconsistency in your behavior towards him, you will not make it easy for him to trust you. If you tell him the truth today, and tomorrow tell him lies, he cannot trust you. If you are very loving today, and tomorrow you treat him as if he is your enemy, you cannot make him have a consistent affection for you, and he will have second thoughts about marrying you. Therefore, try to show consistent behavior.
  • Do not say things about him to others behind his back. If he gets to hear these things, it will undermine his affection for you for he will feel he cannot trust you with secrets. He will also think you will let out things that only the two of you should share in the bedroom, when you marry, and he may be afraid to marry you because every married person wants certain things that are revealed in the matrimonial bedroom to stay there.

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      Beccy Mae-Rose 17 months ago

      I am so sorry to say that I fundamentally disagree with your article.

      Both should do this for each other, it cannot be all give from the woman to the man as that is draining on her and ultimately not good for either.

      Mutual support, companionship ect and certainly never ever being a mother too him! Too your children yes but never to your man. That would tip the balance of the relationship to an unhealthy place o feel.

      Also in my experience both personally and as a matchmaker, most men in the UK would not appreciate the suggestions you have made.

      This is intended as constructive criticism rather than negativity. I do much prefer giving praise, however it's unfair to do that in some situations.

      Much love sent to you

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      Fiona 18 months ago

      Interesting post.

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      amy 18 months ago

      interesting read!

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      Angela 18 months ago

      Very interesting article. You have good advice for lasting relationships.

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      Leta Hawk 19 months ago

      I think there are cultural differences at play here. Where I live, many of the suggestions you list would be more likely to scare a man away than make him want to marry.

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      CJ 19 months ago

      Nice Article.

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      Donald 19 months ago

      Interesting article. You make some great points.

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      Andi 19 months ago

      Great article

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      Isabel 19 months ago

      Nice article.

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      Amanda 19 months ago

      Nice ideas... I hope it works for couples.

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      Neha 19 months ago from India

      Really Nice Post !! Thanks :)

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      Tory 19 months ago

      You have some good ideas for marriage!

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      Carrie 19 months ago

      I agree that a woman should be creative in a relationship but that goes both ways. It takes two people to keep a relationship alive. Very interesting article.

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      Melanie 20 months ago

      First mistake, never try and make a man propose to you. Lightening has to strike, almost, for it to be meaningful and long lasting. You wouldn't want anything less!

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      Mike Adams 20 months ago

      Hey ! Interesting

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      dashingscorpio 2 years ago

      In my opinion there are two reasons why men do not propose.

      1. Timing (They're simply not ready to be married)

      2. She's not "the one".

      Statistics show that by age 44 over 85% of men have gotten married at least once. I imagine of the 15% who hadn't some of them were probably gay. However with many countries starting to support "marriage equality" laws we're likely to see even more men getting married.

      Therefore odds are the vast majority of men will be getting married. So it's just a matter of time and feeling like (she) is "the one".

      Unfortunately for a lot of (women) in particular they have an unrealistic "timeline" for wanting to be married when compared to men. Bear in mind most men did not spend their childhood playing with dolls pretending to be fathers or dreaming about their wedding day.

      The typical 22 year old male either just moved out of a dorm room or finally broke out of his parent's basement. He wants to party with his friends, find a career, and do some traveling. The thought of getting married, signing a 30 year mortgage, and having children is like watching their whole life flash before their faces!

      Most 20 something year old guys are not in a rush to become their parents! This frustrates women in their 20s who want men their own age.

      Any 20 something year old woman who wants to get married would probably do better to date men who are in their late 20s and early 30s who have never been married before. That's about the time most guys start to consider settling down.

      Nevertheless it may not happen if a couple met at age 20 and dated/lived together for 8-10 years. Essentially you'd have a guy at the "right age" however he still may feel like hadn't "lived" or spent any time exploring and discovering himself. In fact it's not uncommon to see couples who were together over several years breakup and the man ends up marrying the next woman he gets involved with! His ex wonders why not her? See #2