ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

21 Relationship Tips For Singles For 2011 Part One

Updated on January 4, 2011

The New Year offers us all the opportunity to make adjustments where needs be, to start a fresh and live out our dreams and hopes for the New Year.

As a counsellor and mentor too many single people I am listing a few tips that can help you to maximise and enjoy your single life this year.

1. Learn to forgive yourself and others. We all make mistakes in love. Life is about learning. So things went wrong learn from what happened and move on. There is no point crying over split milk.

2.Leave the past behind you. You can choose to drag it with you into your present and future but you will quickly find it becomes an albatross around you neck preventing you from progressing into freedom and happiness.

3. Learn to love yourself. If you cannot find it within you to love who you are how are you going to accept it when someone else says they love you. You will also find it difficult to express unconditional love to others.

4. Learn to laugh at yourself. Sometimes we take ourselves so seriously that we cannot relax and just have some fun. The moods we exhibit are contagious and can affect the atmosphere around you. Let people know you for joy and not for sorrow.

5. Know what you want. Relationships should not be a hit and miss activity. Before entering into a relationship try and determine what your expectations are. When you do this you minimise the risk of being disappointed.

6. Find someone you can be accountable to. When love consumes you and you can no longer think straight your accountability partner will help you remain focused.

7. Become more discerning. If you keep attracting the wrong type of person into your life then you need to pay attention and prevent this pattern from continuing by becoming more discerning about the people who desire to connect with you. Once you see the trait you should avoid entering into any relationship with the person because you know the relationship will be doomed to failure.

8. Train yourself up. There is no course that can prepare you for marriage. However this important institution requires you to have an understanding of many aspects of life. Ranging from psychology to conflict resolution it is good to have an awareness of these subject matters.

9. Go beyond outward appearances. There is an old adage that says never judge a book by its cover. Too many times we do not give a person a second chance because they do not look like what we are expecting e.g. too short, too tall, too skinny, too fat, black white etc. If you explore beneath the surface you might be presently surprised

10. Be yourself. Do not try to be anything other than yourself. The world is full of carbon copies of people trying to imitate others. Choose to be an original.

To be continued in Part Two


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)